Hahaha!!! :rotflmao:


Me directly opposite...I dread having a boy...luckily both are gals...coz no need to close toilet door...can expose xxx during breastfeeding...

Some toys are universal eg. blocks, tricycle...
If really gal, then gal's doll sits on boy's car...still can play mah...

How you groom yourself is how you groom your gal lor...in fact, my gal hardly wear dresses coz most of the 'hands-me-down' are 2pc tops & pants.

Hi san76,


As long as you're below 35, it's still safe to conceive...

Juggling between 2 kids is indeed tricky...

When my gal returns home from childcare, I make sure that I receive her with wide-open arms...(even if my bb is crying, I'll leave the baby in cot for a brief moment to welcome my elder gal at the door 1st) :snuggles:

During the day when my gal is in childcare, I give my full attention to my bb. When my gal is back home, my hubby will care for the bb most of the time. At times when my bb cries for milk (on total breastfeeding), I'll still play with my gal for a while & not immediately rush to attend to my bb...my gal will automatically tell me 'Baby cry cry...moom moom' (a signal to say it's ok, you go feed her)...

Of course, it's still too early to say that both my gals will become the best of friends...but I'm working towards showering both with a fair share of love...hopefully, they'll grow up appreciating each other's presence... :xedfingers:

I’m a Cantonese…my hubby is also a Cantonese. When we started out as friends, we spoke to each other in English & Mandarin…but after we progressed to dating stage, we decided to speak to each other in Cantonese.


Now with 2 kids…we spoke to them in Cantonese too. We want our kids to be able to communicate in Cantonese with their grandparents. I always feel that there is a certain level of intimacy in a human relationship that only a dialect can help to achieve. It’s about preserving our roots too…I’m really proud to be a Cantonese…I hope my kids learn to appreciate its value too…

Tanx buds!


Ya...happy meal seems like a great idea too...
Btw...my gal's birthday is in Dec...still got a looong way to go but now already start preparing liao...kekeke!
Me also a kiasu parent...way before will start to do research

I'm the 3rd child in my family...also the youngest...& the only daughter.


Many would think that my parents must be trying for a daughter...so I should be the favourite child... :please:

I thought so too...till my mum disclosed the full story...

I was an accident! :stupid:

My parents had wanted to stop at 2 & my mum even went for an ops to 'close shop'...but somehow my mum still conceived again the 3rd time...it was not me, coz my mum had a miscarriage...thereafter, the doc encouaged my mum to try again...so I was in fact the 4th child.

Now as a mother of 2...I also hoped to 'close shop'...at the same time really worried if I'll have an 'accident' like my mum...
:xedfingers:

My reasons for stopping at 2:
1) No other family members or relatives helping me to care for my gals, so alot of $$ is spent to get bbsitter/infant care :moneyflies:
2) Attention...difficult to split among 3 kids...2 just right...hubby take care of 1, me take care of the other...alternate days we swopped :snuggles:

Tanx mincy! :thankyou:


Hahaha...SOP...sounds really familiar!

Tanx for ur advice...I read your article too...very helpful to me! :goodpost:

I agree with you that a child's birthday party should focus on the child rather than on the parents. I too feel that having a birthday party at her childcare is more meaningful since she gets to celebrate with her friends, also can learn the spirit of sharing & giving at the same time.
:celebrate:

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Hi,

I've just started sending my gal to childcare beginning this yr. I've noticed that some parents would organise birthday parties for their kids at the childcare as my gal would bring back 'goodie bags'.

I am absolutely clueless & would like to know how to go about organising such birthday parties. Those who have experience in this, care to share with us?
1) Do you prepare the birthday cake & food yourself? Or do you engage some sort of entertainment company or catering service?
2) What kind of foods are served at the birthday party?
3) Is the birthday party a whole day event or just during the children's lunch hr?
4) Is it just for your child's class or is it for the whole group (eg. if there are 2 N1 classes & 2 N2 classes, do u invite all?)
5) Do u decorate the classroom?

Hope to hear from all of u, tanx :?:

hi,


my side of the story (though hv to admit not fair for my mil…she can’t defend herself, since dunno abt this post…hehehe)

When i was preggy with my 1st bb, my mil happily volunteered to do confinement for me…but since she was working, we’ve to let her know when i wld deliver, so she can apply for leave…which we did remind her 1mth in advance…every week…she say leave no problem, already infd her company…

Then came the day i delivered…we infd her & told her that i wld be discharged on the 3rd day…she replied ok…On the day of my discharge…to my surprise…my mum appeared at our doorstep. My mil couldn’t get her leave in time, so she asked my mum to help me out for 3 days. I was mad coz she didn’t inform me or my hubby during my stay in hospital…my mum’s looking after my nieces, so my brother has to take urgent leave to look after his own children.

On the 4th day, when my mil appeared at my doorstep, the 1st thing she told me was ‘I’m only here to cook…I won’t touch the baby’…What The H#*%!..If i knew this was gg to happen, I might as well get a confinement lady in the 1st place, rite!

Bcoz my bb has jaundice, I refused to drink DOM & Yomeishu…I told her I’m breastfeeding so can’t drink. She complained to my mum that i don’t listen to her…never mind…she even complained that i kept washing my hands when she told me not to…well, hello…who’s changing the bb’s diapers? who’s bathing the bb? Of course hv to touch water mah…sigh!

Then when my mum visited me during one wkend, my mil cried in front of her & said that she doesn’t know how to cook…i was shocked when my mum asked me if i made things difficult for my mil…I ate everything she cooked…never complained…skarly she said she duno how to cook…sian!

Luckily she never volunteered again at my 2nd pregnancy…but during my bb’s full-mth celebration…she went around telling all my relatives that I dun listen to her…always wash hands…never drink DOM or Yomeishu…she don’t want to help me again bcoz i was a difficult person…

Well, thank God she’s not around to make my life miserable the 2nd time…really got to see her true colours thru’ this incident…

Hi Addoil,


Tanx. I've 2 princess, one is 2yrs old...the other 2mths old.
Wow, this forum is loaded with info. Really amazing!
Hope I can contribute in some way too :lovesite:

Hello!

I’m a mother of 2…currently on maternity leave
Hope to get to know all the nice mummies out there
Have a nice day everyone!