Zeng:
You are not alone. Many parents who were balloted at popular branded schs
are in similar situations. Thats why some parents opted for an acceptable second choice sch if it was a shoe-in rather than ballot.
You should drop by these schs to take a look and talk to parents during recess or pick up times. For argument's sake, even it is the bottom tier sch, if your kid does well and in top class, he/she is likely to be happy with the special attention. You also have the option for transfer later on even if you fail to secure from the waitlist this time. Good Luck!
Yes, I've personally experienced the happiness of being top in a bottom school/not-so-good class. And yes, even in a bottom school it is very possible to achieve the ultimate objective of scoring well in the all important PSLE.
I guess some ballot-victim parents grief because they understand too well the difference in standards that different tiers of schools try to uphold, and the huge impact it has on the children's pace of learning. The parents can try to bridge this gap with personal coaching, tuition, etc. but the effort is exceptionally draining as you would have to diligently research and often guess what the good schools define as 'acceptable' in various aspects of learning.
Take, for example, Maha Bodhi's description of their reading and speech programmes on the website - the short and concise point forms detailing the various aspects of proper speech and reading to be covered gives you an assuring sense of completeness. And you know that as a parent, the programme makes it easy for you to identify areas of weakness in the child's progress. Now compare that to the bottom tier schools which have their program description as just a paragraph of un-informative text and a big photo of the students reading... Unless we are lucky enough to encounter very good teachers in the bottom tier school, the child's performance is going to be generally summed up as 'good', 'very good', 'no good', etc.. and the parent has to research widely and make her own gauge of the child's performance against the good school's yardsticks of excellence. Perfectly doable, albeit a very daunting amount of effort can be projected.
That said, what you mentioned about doing well and being happy in the bottom tier schools i do agree, although I must say I would pray hard that the wait list registration would turn out to be fruitful, though we all know we cannot count on it.
Thanks for your advice and good luck to you too.