cheerygirl:my girl has no interest in her studies too. she prefer to watch tv, play with her nieces in the house or sleep, draw, pc games but holding a textbook is the last thing she'll do. she has show symtoms recently in wanting to go out with her frds for movies etc. i rejected her as i think she is not mature enuf to wonder independently outside. she got poor results for this yr P5 exams. very worrying if she continue till PSLE. we have taken out her fav hobbies to spurn her studies. but she's like nochalent abt it. if she cannot hv this thing, she will live with other alternatives. she always can find something to entertain herself. basically there's nothing we can do to control her, make her come back to her books. Even the strict tutor almost gave up. she either scribbles on the homework or simple says she dunno how to do. we are at a loss. dunno how to teach anymore..shd we bring her to a psychologist? OR some motivation class like mindchamp or Adam Khoo similar enrichment sch??desperate mom :((Hi Cherrygal, I had the same problem as yourself. DD still ba-la-lang at p5 but she matured in p6 and applied herself more during the year. She took the PSLE this year. I had been working with a psychologist for DC for the past 3-4 years. But for us, her grades actually improved when I took a step back and managed it at a very high level. Instead of studying for hours, we try to strategise it so that it is more effective or efficient way - study less, score more. DD hates the routine of drills and being a strong-willed child, she becomes very rebellious and oppositional. As she starts seeing results from a different approach, she becomes more motivated to keep up the improvement.Our learning is also not restricted to exam papers and assessments. I use e-learning platforms and the TV as well. May I suggest that you read Chen's book on Internal Drive Theory to motivate a child to study. Even if you send your child to psychologist or motivation class, you will still need to enforce certain concepts there to reap the benefits. I know p1-p5 borderline kids who managed to score above 240 in their respective PSLE years after they became motivated to study in their p6 year. I also know kids in the 270 range who study only about 2-3 hours a day and they do not have tuition. They are not GEPpers and they told me that they pay attention in class and are very focused when they study.The PSLE result is not out yet so I cannot say if DD will do well but am happy that she had matured during the year and we had grown closer.There is still time. All the best.
