Any parents know how many Allied Educators (AED) :boogie: that catered to autistic kids in Henry Park Primary.


In addition, how well are the AED coping with mild autistic kids?

Will be enrolling my girl in 2015.

Thanks.

Bliss and Wisdom Society have Free kids and youth programmes if the parents join the Adult Dharma class:

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(1) Recitation for Children (Age 5-11)
- Enable children to develop the correct perception from a young age, cultivating the virtue of benevolence

(2) Recitation for Youth (Age 12-16 )\t
- Enable youth to develop excellent moral character, cultivating the virtue of benevolence.

(3) Educational Park Students (Age 7-18)\t
- To develop outstanding moral character, helping the country and society to nurture talented individuals of distinguished moral character.

http://www.bwss.org.sg/index.php/en/education-division

For parents who keen to enroll for adult Dharma classes:
http://www.guanglun.org/class.htmland-events/upcoming

Charmaine_chong:

May I know do you see any difference in your child after attending dharma classes? Do you guys send them for other any other enrichment classes?

Spoke to 1 mum with 2 boys who attended dizigui class who revealed that her kids have become more considerate & calmer after attending Buddhist classes though.

Charmaine_chong:

Do you guys send them for other any other enrichment classes?

Recommend exposure to chinese classical studies like 第子规, 三字经 to instill value in young kids.

My girl is attending the classical studies at Blossom World Society.


http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=16261&start=130

蔡礼旭老师讲: 夫妻相处之道

Tips to improve married couple relationship

男人对的时侯，你要把他当 父亲。
(When the husband is Right, you should treat him like a FATHER.)

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平常的时侯，你要把他当朋友。
(Treat your husband like a FRIEND, Most of the time.)

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先生犯错的时侯，你要把他当儿子。
(When the husband commits a Mistake, treat him like a SON.)


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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4ynOcv0lek

孩子的面前不可以数落, 不可以毁谤自己先生。
Never critize or slander your husband in front of the children.

这样他在孩子的心目中, 就会没有尊严.
Else, this will result in loss of dignity of father.

我们在家庭里面捉住隐恶杨善。
Promote virtue in a family.

先生有九十个不好 , 有十个好。你就用十个去肯定他, 在孩子的面前也赞叹他。
Even though, husband has only 10 merits out of 100,
you should emphasize or praise his strengths in front of the children.

慢慢孩子对他的优点会去欣赏。
This will enable the children to appreciate his strength.

他就会觉得自己很重要, 他就会觉得我应该来当先生的榜样。
The husband will understand his importance and will set up a good model as as a husband.

我们要了解这个大儿子是比较不好教的。
We should understand that it is not an easy task to teach this “Elder Son” (Husband).


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AD56Hlczdeg

Thread on Di Zi Gui (Standards for Being a Good Student and Child)


http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=16261&start=120


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linlaoshiclass:

Dear parents,

I find Di Zi Gui useful in teaching kids moral values.


弟子规

总　叙
弟子规　圣人训　首孝弟　次谨信
泛爱众　而亲仁　有余力　则学文

Dizigui (a guide to a happy life) is meant for us to PRACTISE, NOT for reciting.


After learning & understanding dizigui,

We (child & parents) need to Practise,

before becoming person with MORAL VALUE.
(good child in the family, trustworthy, polite and respectful in society, prudent and loyal, liking the company of good men)


不力行 但学文
If I do not actively practise what I have learned, but continue to study on the surface,

长浮华 成何人
even though my knowledge is increasing, it is only superficial. What kind of person will I be?


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Blossom PARENTS' Day Celebration

双亲节


亲心。孝心。唤我心

孩子，当我老了，请你牵着我的手，陪伴我，慢慢地走

NOW (When I am old), please accompany me to finish my Last hurdle of this path. Please give me your love and patience.
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In the Past, I had Guided you towards the path of life.
就像当年我牵着你一样。
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Memories of the Selfless GIVING & KINDESS from our Parents, is it possible not to fill with utmost gratitude to repay their kindness?
忆起父母的恩情，想起父母的奉献，我怎能不含着泪报恩呢？呼吁全天下子女，及时反扑哺报亲恩！

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Program 节目：

1)Skit Performance 短剧演出

2) Mass feet washing 洗脚报亲恩

3) Tea-offering ceremony 奉茶献孝心

4) Sing-along with Blossom Youth 动力青年韵律带动

5) Blossom Exhibition 孝悌、爱国忠臣、端午节展说会

Max Capacity: 2000 pax 预计2000人

Please register by Family Nucleus with 2 or 3 generations
欢迎两或三代核心家庭报名

Details:
Date: 2 June 2013, Sunday
Time: 2.30pm-6.00pm
Venue: Marina Barrage 滨海堤坝

http://www.blossomworld.sg/blog/2013/04/blossom-parents-day-celebration-%E5%8F%8C%E4%BA%B2%E8%8A%82/

When a kid performs a task, what is the source of motivation?

孩子做了一件事情，他的动力到底来自於哪里？

Is it When your PARENTS call you, Answer them right away?
Or Is it When the Sweets call you, Answer them right away?
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是父母呼，应勿缓?
还是糖糖呼，应勿缓?
Is it When your PARENTS call you, Answer them right away?
Or Is it When the 2 Dollars Notes call you, Answer them right away?

是父母呼，应勿缓?
还是两块钱呼，应勿缓?


When the child is obedient, WHO is he listening to?
孩子听话了，他听的是谁的话？听妈妈的话，还是听糖的话？

The result may be the same, however we need to evaluate whether we are teaching the right mindset (Compassionate, Respectful, Judgement) to our child.
同样是做了，但是我们的教育这个孩子的心境。到底往哪个方向在走？
from 0:28:58 to 0:31:30 and 1:12:48 to 1:13:17

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=eZnK_KGJi_c#

What are we teaching our child?

我们在教孩子什么？

By teaching the Right Attitude to our child from young, he will possess a sound Judgement (ability to differentiate what is right or wrong), which is the true Wisdom.

Not teach them about gain.

Why is the reason that contribute to a kids in modern society that value money to the extend of severing the ties of kinship?

This is because the parents have not taught the right Attitude to our child.

我们在教孩子跟母亲，你都是用利益相交。


所以为什么现在的孩子为了钱。为了自己的利益，可以六亲不认。

都是我们自己从小有没有把正确的态度告诉给小孩。

所以这个判断力非常重要， 它是真正的智慧。


因为他要明白了哪些是对的，哪些是不对的。


From birth, the child is is continuously learning judgement from listening & watching from nitty gritty events (the behaviour of the parents) daily.

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一个孩子他从小他生出来， 他就在看，就在听。判断力就在生活的点点滴滴就在教给他了。

There is an ancient saying: The temperamental at age 80 can be foreseen at 3 years old.

A sound judgement can be taught to a child Before he turns 3 years old as he is continuously absorbing them through sight & hearing.
古人讲的一句话: \"三岁看八十\"。一个孩子正确的判断力， 在他三岁以前，可以全部都教给他。他都在看，都在听。

video from 0:40:10 to 0:47:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=eZnK_KGJi_c#!
馬來西亞師資培訓課程－02－愛心伴孩子成長--肖陳穎老師

Research was conducted on 1000 kids who are age 3 in 1980.
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Results were released 23 years later reaffirmed that character of adult mimics the behaviour at age 3:

1) 28% of kids who are Cheeful & Brave grown up to become cheerful, determined, decisive and leadership qualities => Confident
一、充满自信的占２８％。幼童时候他们活泼勇敢、充满自信，成年以后他们开朗、坚强、果断，领导欲望较强……还是属于自信心较强的。

2） 40% of kids who are Confident & Friendly, grown up to become Calm, Easily Adapt to environment & emotionally Strong=> Adaptable
二、良好适应的占４０％。幼童时候他们自信又随和，成年以后他们冷静、沉着、较能适应环境、不容易心烦意乱……依然表现出良好的适应能力。

3) 8% of the kids who are Reserved & less sociable, grown up to become fearful of being hurt, restrain the emotions & don't influence others= > Reserved
三、沉默寡言的占８％。幼童时候他们不活泼、不善言谈、性格内向，成年以后他们要比一股人更倾向于隐瞒自己的感情、不思影响别人、不敢从事任何可能导致自己受伤的事情……今天基本上还是沉默寡言。

4) 14% of the kids who are cautious, grown up to become more Disciplined & high self-control abilit => Self-Disciplined
四、自我约束的占１４％。幼童时候他们就表现出有一定的自制能力，成年以后他们谨慎守纪……还是表现出较好的自我约束能力。

5) 10% who are Hyperactive or easily distracted or pessimistic, grown up to have hasty temper, easily agitated by petty matters & poor concentration => Restless
五、坐立不安的占１０％。幼童时候他们好动、注意力分散、还有些消极行为，成年以后他们与其他人相比更容易对平常小事情做出过度反应，容易烦恼和愤怒……仍然不脱坐立不安的影子。

幼童时候——成年以后……这１０００人在个性特征方面表现出惊人的相仿、相近、相似。这就告诉我们“三岁看八十”还是有一定的事实依据和科学道理的。
http://www.tc930.com/jiajiao/article_2188.html

Di Zi Gui (弟子规), (Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child) was written during the reign (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty Emperor Kangxi by Li Yu XIu.


The book is based on the Ancient Teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius that emphasises the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. Like the San Zi Jing（三字经）, it is written in three-character verses.

Confucius emphasised that the Basic MORAL VALUES and VIRTUES should be FIRST taught to a child since young;

those values are to
(1) respect elders,
(2) respect brothers and sisters,
(3) respect wife and husband,
(4) respect the society and lastly
(5) respect the country as a whole.

He believed without those values all other learning would amount to nothing.

弟子规 圣人训 首孝悌
First it teaches you How to be Dutiful to your Parents, and to be Respectful and loving to your siblings.
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次谨信
Then it teaches you how to be Cautious & how to be a Trustworthy person.

泛爱众
Furthermore, it teaches you to Love ALL Equally.

而亲仁
Be Close and Learn from people of Virtue and Compassion

有余力 则学文
After you have accomplished all the above values, you can learn other skills to improve the quality of cultural life.



The teachings in Di Zi Gui has been the standard teaching for the young of China for thousands of years.

弟子规这本书，是依据至圣先师孔子的教诲而编成的生活规范。

首先在日常生活中，要做到孝顺父母 ，友爱兄弟姊妹。

其次在一切日常生活言语行为中要小心谨慎，要讲信用。

和大众相处时要平等博爱，并且亲近有仁德的人，向他学习，这些都是很重要非做不可的事，

如果做了之后，还有多余的时间精力，就应该好好的学习六艺等其他有益的学问。

Dawnie:

Is it important to know 弟子规? Do they teach 弟子规 in primary schools?

My boy will be in K2 next year, his school doesn't teach him 弟子规 since he is in a Church Kindy. Whereas his cousinsin K1 and P2 were taught 弟子规 in school.