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nancy27sg:

My DD is going through Stress, Depression and lack of Confidence. She is taking her A level Prelim Now. I feel the curriculum is difficult for her to cope. I am worried she may give up life. What should I do?


Planning to contact her form teacher today.

Is A level curriculum too difficult for an average student? I believe this year MOE changed the curriculum and even make it more hard. I do not know what to do another two months left for her final 'A' level exam.

Please share your opinion. Thank you

I hope your daughter's FT can help. If not, maybe see a counsellor? There should be one in school, or they can refer you to one.

The JC years can be hard, but the average JC student usually does quite well in the end. It varies by the JC, but even in the weakest JCs, more than a third of students will qualify for university. Of course, the choice of courses may be limited. The main thing is to be realistic about the desired outcomes, and be prepared to try something else if the first choice is not possible, and realise that it is not \"failure\" but an \"alternative choice\". Even strong students won't necessarily get what they are aiming for as there is stiff competition at all levels, and the most important is that they realise that not getting what theire first choice is not the end of the world.

My daughter is also taking A levels this year, and although she is not struggling academically, she is aiming for some competitive paths and may not get them, so I'm also reminding her not to focus on just a narrow range, but to be open to whatever comes. My older daughter took her A levels last year, and has always been quite a weak student - her teachers warned us that she was unlikely to get good enough grades to go to university. So she applied for a poly, didn't get her first choice, and got into another course. To our surprise, she did do well enough in the end to get into a couple of university courses, and she chose 1 of them, again not one she had considered before. Our main concern was to keep telling her that no matter what the route, as long as she kept going forward, it was OK, and not to compare with others.

Thank you for sharing your experience and giving support. I really appreciate. I spoke to FT and she too observed her depression. She gave strong support and word of encouragement.My DD is going to meet the counselor soon. Hope it will improve.
Once again thank you

My DD is going through Stress, Depression and lack of Confidence. She is taking her A level Prelim Now. I feel the curriculum is difficult for her to cope. I am worried she may give up life. What should I do?


Planning to contact her form teacher today.

Is A level curriculum too difficult for an average student? I believe this year MOE changed the curriculum and even make it more hard. I do not know what to do another two months left for her final ‘A’ level exam.

Please share your opinion. Thank you

Thank you Grr_roxy


Appreciate.

I thought I will take her to TTSH. Get first consultation done.

If no issues at least she will be loyal to me and appreciate.She may be thankful to me for the care I extended. I will save all future headache of getting another maid and start the process all over again.

If any issues, I will send her back. I will not feel guilty because as a Human I did what is with in my limit.

Since her lungs are clear I hope no issues.

My new Maid reached Singapore. First time to Singapore so she took 1 day Settling-In Programme (SIP) course. I took her to SATA for full medical test. I am recruiting directly based on friends referral.

SATA test revile exr: fibrosis/scarring in Right Middle Zone
Provisional Diagnosis ? pTB
Please advise if she has active ptb.
her Lungs are clear, heart is not enlarged.
She do not have any history of illness or persistent cough

Now she is referred to TTSH.

I took insurance coverage from the day she lands in Singapore required by MOM from etiqa.

1) Does insurance covers?
2) What will be the approximate expenses at TTSH?
3) What are the common tests done at TTSH?

Immediately Maid called her family and they checked with doctor at her home country. According to her home country doctor, their state is endemic to TB. so most of the people would have this symptom and it is not Active TB. So X ray we will notice these changes but nothing to worry.

Now I have to decide between
Send her to TTSH for Diagnosis and incur all expenses.
or
Send her back home.

I feel but uneasy as it hurts her if I send her back if really no issues.

anyone experienced before with your Maid? What are the expenses at TTH for Diagnosis?


Thanks

So far I have employed two domestic helpers. My current maid is going back, my neighbor recommended a maid from India. Maid is from a village and very basic knowledge of English. I tried to speak to her but she has difficulty to understand. I have to recruit purely based on the recommendation of my neighbor who is very good with me. My neighbor says this maid can do household chores well no need to worry. This is sufficient for me as my kids all grownup.


Her current salary in India is India currency 7500. which is approximately S$165. She is willing to come for S$180 provided I pay all expenses Air tickets, Passport(She do not even have a passport now). I felt S$185 is too low prefer to give her around S$250 or S300.

Any MOM Guidelines for Salary?
Can I apply on my own for Work Permit?
My current Maid insurance is from NTUC.
Saw online the following
- .etiqa.com.sg S$210 - S$248
- cntaiping has S$230 - S$280 then add S$50 ( 20% discount if I buy online)

Any recommendation for Maid Insurance?

Thanks

If maid decides not to take off and stays at home. If she is free whole off day, if she helps at housework on her own, is it considered violation?

Thanks everyone for your constructive inputs. I appreciate all your suggestion. I feel better relieved after seeing all your feedback.


I will meet the teach and update you the outcome soon.

Unlike MGS, JC they will not disclose how a student is performing compare to the cohort. There is no percentile in the score card. I will try to speak to her teacher.

Now after moving the mobile phone and putting restriction she is better. She may be bit worried because my hubby lost his job. It is almost an year and unable to find suitable job. Now I asked him to take any job this may be partially affecting her. But overall my DD is good in character and care for others. So hopefully retaining in JC1 will be good and reduces the stress. One year in whole carrier is nothing of big deal.

Once again thank you all

Thank you zbear. Thanks to your DD. My DD is from JJC


I am not sure how to motivate. Anyway I am meeting my DD’s teacher and update you the outcome. Should I take my DD to some psychiatrist or any motivational coach?

So the best option is to retain in JC1 right? Do we have any option enroll in JC2 and after first term if grade is not good then join JC1? I don’t mind putting her for tuition for chemistry and bio.


In case if she repeats JC1, after JC2 if she apply to NUS or NTU or SMU, will it be a disadvantage because she took 3 years to complete JC?

Thanks

Thank you Jeniffer for your feedback.

Thanks starlight. She prefers Science. She is not good at memorising all history. I really do not know should I embark JC or pull her out and put her in Poly next year.