raytan30

last time my mum (we stayed in kampong) when she see cat;


1. she closed all doors and windows.
2. she boil hot water
3. she pour the hot water on the cat.

the cat need to learn la.

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hi guys


thank you for your posts an positive replies… so much encouragement that i feel like i’m in rehab! lol.

Mdm fireflyserene >
you know my wife can’t cook, can’t do chores, etc… can boss people very well.
that’s why i was a bit put off to say the least. she just wants to stay home and not do anything.
what made me turn back was because i realised my wife loved me very much. everything she did her best and i realised kind of in a selfish way too that i’d be stoopeed to lose her. i think worse case if i bankrupt then my gf or my wife going to stay with me? of course my wife la! no need to think.
wa lao last time gf always ask for cartier etc…it happens to a lot of guys.

those are the my intangible thoughts. but the tangible was when she said her friend got photo evidence i was with a girl (which i think today is a lie) and i fell for it. i’m quite dumb…never seen the photo til this day! so on the spot… and i mean like on the spot ! my spirit came back to my body and i literally begged her to forgive me.

so if you think you have the patience to stomach all these nonsense from husband and still love him. then you should still love him, stick to it and if you do have anything to prove, just confront him.
but it’s a risk of course. but love is a risk isn’t it?

your last qn about possible to change entirely and avoid EMA? i don’t know…but i know even if not, the man must always remember to come back to the family to provide for family, bring wife out on dates and celebrate her birthdays.

anyway i got 2 other friends like me, it is possible to re-kindle a marriage again and that’s the beauty!

don't mind me interuppting for some out of the box thinking.

you can check out this link.
http://www.petco.com/product/12332/Innotek-Free-Spirit-Automatic-No-Bark-Collars.aspx

It's called a \"no-bark\" collar where you can ask your husband to wear on the pretense of that it has magnetic field supposed to aid with the blood flow for his rough days at work.

Innotek says it's \"designed to protect your dog from over-stimulation\".
which means to say everytime your husband shouts, he'll get an electric shock. it's quite painful for a start but after a while i think you might even be able to get him to learn to roll over.

Hi Be contented


quite simple. i believe in marriage the couple must grow together.. it's not just physical intimacy, but also financial, emotional intimacy.

When i first started out biz my wife very supportive which i am still appreciative for. when biz pick up she say she going to quit her job because now biz doing ok.
I was quite sad because i needed to know;

1. we can be independent
in case i bankrupt or biz fail i need to know we can work together and she can also stand on her own. LKY was right in saying he knew if anything happen to him he needed to know the wife still can continue with the family.
in this case once she see things ok she straight away switch off.

2. money issues
ie in my previous post i staying with in laws so quite stressed by the bloody hell BIL who always no money. then i end up paying for a lot of stuff. I don't need anyone to contribute any money really. but just that not to take me for granted.


3. maturity
to me this is the underlying factor of every problem.
i felt after we got married i had to settle insurance, holidays, everything else. she doesn't do anything and feels it's a pride that her husband does everything. i take it as a compliment but also i do wish she was more involved and understands all these things that i plan.
I wished for that we would get involved to work together in most things.

anyway nowadays I kua pua liao.. we still go out on dinner dates , watch movies and go holidays.. which i never thought i would be able to do.


For the positive part...
1. at least we still can talk
2.she's smart and knows what i am talking about
3.we appreciate the same things.
4. and most really very super duper sibeh maximum overload important reason i patched up with her becuase i knew if i go bankrupt or if the world were to end only she would love me.


at the end of the day as long as she don't gamble away money, rack up credit card bills, go out with other guys and takes care of our son then ok lor.
I just take it that this is my cup... though it feels like a d-cup. lol.

i hope that answers the question..

it is possible to salvage the marriage… i am a good example.


I had an affair when i was quite disillusioned with marriage then after that i learned wth just accept.

so me and my wife went back to having sex again… which i never thought was possible frankly.

of course til now she will still worry if i go out and drink with friends. so what i do is to go those places she’s been before and ask my friends to go. very guai places.

i am a husband and i drink also like once weekly… I used to be an asshole myself (more specifically like go out with other girls) until i kinda woke up and realised that family is very very important.

i run a business and i realised that if my wife is constantly worrying, we end up bickering and i can’t concentrate on work…

so you need some opinion aobut what your husband is up to, i can tell you unfortunately most men are the same… sorry to be so direct but most of us are a-holes…

I signed up for this forum because i typed "unhappy with in laws" and found this.


hai i am staying with my in laws and my wife will not grow up as long as we stay with them. my in laws are nice and i spend quite a bit of money on them on holidays, etc.

the problem started with my bro in law always say no money and never even pay for nothing. everytime we go out for dinner i pay for in laws and bil’s family. until now i quite du-l*n.

so now i sibeh sian.