Thanks for the advice.I guess most of us women have this issue somehow in marriage life.It is very difficult to talk to someone close to you cause bedroom issue are private and being asian, we tends not to discuss such things. :imdrowning:

Thanks for the tips and advices. I did have a HTH talk with Hubby. He claims that his high blood pressure is the possible cause of him not to get erection. He told me every time he has the urge to have sex but could not have reaction. He is ashamed because of his inability to have erection that why he keep pushing me away.


Recently, his friend has recommended a Jamu (traditional malay med). He starts to have erection again but I’m worried about the side effect. He mentions that a few of his Malay and non- Malay friends have tried. So far no one complains. Even, a friend of his, who is using this Jamu managed to make his wife pregnant - he is 49 and his wife is 47. Hubby even said that their baby was born healthy and normal despite of their age.

I have read somewhere that you can’t combine traditional med with the general med. Very dangerous but Hubby is a stubborn man. :scared:

I have been married for 8 years.For the past 1 year, my hubby have been avoiding being intimate with me.When I question him about sex, he will always mention that marriage is not all about sex. Couple do not need to have sex to enjoy a happy marriage. :snuggles: :hugs:


He will always try to make me feel bad :siao: or to look like I'm a sex addict whenever I tried to be intimate with him. Sometimes, I wonder if my hubby is a gay. I will always secretly check his hp and I could not find any evidance of him having a martial affair with another woman. I did everything I could to be attrative in his eyes but my hubby will totaly ignore me. When we go out and other men look at me, he will get annoyed. Why is it other men find me attractive but not my husband?

I'm 33 working mum and hubby 41.We are staying on our own so I don't see the reason of him being uncomfortable.

1. Is it normal for a married couple not to have any physical contact for 1 year.

2. Can I be lable as a sex addict for wanting to make love to my own hubby. The last time we did it was more than a year ago

3. When hubby do not find you attractive anymore, does this mean the end of your marriage? :?: