Bedroom Issue

[Imp75]

Could it be signs of infidelity? Besides rejecting sex, is there any other telltale signs?

[Imp75]

Could it be signs of infidelity? Besides rejecting sex, is there any other telltale signs?

[happyheart]

I don't mean to scare you but my girlfriend faced the same issue 3 years ago. Her hubby's excuse was that he thinks ' sex is dirty'! My girlfriend was so shy to share with me then but came to accept it over time although she cannot understand why. A few months later, she found out that he has been seeing someone else ( he travelled to Taiwan frequently). My girlfriend is now divorced.


My point is...No matter what could be the reason, it is not normal to have either party to simply decide not to have intimacy for a long period. I guess age is not an issue ( but work stress can result to bor mood at times!) so perhaps you can share with him openly how you feel about being in a marriage relationship and How not having intimacy is affecting you. Tell him you are open to listening and ready to help in any way. Give him a 'good back rub' tonight before you start talking :love:

Meanwhile, stay attractive!

[sleepy]

Rena06:

Sometimes, I wonder if my hubby is a gay. I will always secretly check his hp and I could not find any evidance of him having a martial affair with another woman. I did everything I could to be attrative in his eyes but my hubby will totaly ignore me. When we go out and other men look at me, he will get annoyed. Why is it other men find me attractive but not my husband?

If there isn't any tell tale signs of a 3rd party....perhaps he has low sex drive?
http://men.webmd.com/guide/revving-up-low-libido

What was the usual frequency before this long break?

[Rena06]

Thanks for the tips and advices. I did have a HTH talk with Hubby. He claims that his high blood pressure is the possible cause of him not to get erection. He told me every time he has the urge to have sex but could not have reaction. He is ashamed because of his inability to have erection that why he keep pushing me away.


Recently, his friend has recommended a Jamu (traditional malay med). He starts to have erection again but I’m worried about the side effect. He mentions that a few of his Malay and non- Malay friends have tried. So far no one complains. Even, a friend of his, who is using this Jamu managed to make his wife pregnant - he is 49 and his wife is 47. Hubby even said that their baby was born healthy and normal despite of their age.

I have read somewhere that you can’t combine traditional med with the general med. Very dangerous but Hubby is a stubborn man. :scared:

[LOLMum]

To him, getting back his manhood is top priority. The rest (including you) can take a q no.


But good that both of you are able to talk about it.

:rahrah: Add oil.

[happyheart]

Rena06:

Thanks for the tips and advices. I did have a HTH talk with Hubby. He claims that his high blood pressure is the possible cause of him not to get erection. He told me every time he has the urge to have sex but could not have reaction. He is ashamed because of his inability to have erection that why he keep pushing me away.


Recently, his friend has recommended a Jamu (traditional malay med). He starts to have erection again but I’m worried about the side effect. He mentions that a few of his Malay and non- Malay friends have tried. So far no one complains. Even, a friend of his, who is using this Jamu managed to make his wife pregnant - he is 49 and his wife is 47. Hubby even said that their baby was born healthy and normal despite of their age.

I have read somewhere that you can’t combine traditional med with the general med. Very dangerous but Hubby is a stubborn man. :scared:

He must be having a difficult time but Good thing that he is confiding in you.
As long as your relationship is strong, you can overcome a lot of things together. Hang on and don't stop talking!

[cherrygal]

Hey… I did guess correctly after all… and it’s due to high blood pressure. My uncle had that and diabetes.

[Lyddon]

\"Traditional\" and herbal soups are probably fine. However, be careful of taking drugs or tonics that are from the \"back-alley-kind\". Just google for news of people that died or hospitalized after taking illegal \"performance enhancement\" tonics - many sad stories. And there are also fake viagras and cialis in the market- so be warned.


Here's one:
http://sg.news.yahoo.com/four-men-hospitalised-after-consuming-illegal-sex-drugs.html.

As a wife, you can do your part by being well informed.
What food / drinks to avoid and what to consume (to see if it works).
What activities to do (eg. exercise ...) etc....

[valvestate]

My longest abstain was 2 weeks and I got really irritated and getting stressed for not 'doing' it. For one year is just unimaginable..... :wrongmove:


I hope you work it out with your hubby.... it can also cause him an emotional stress on this.