Bedroom Issue

[LOLMum]

To him, getting back his manhood is top priority. The rest (including you) can take a q no.


But good that both of you are able to talk about it.

:rahrah: Add oil.

[happyheart]

Rena06:

Thanks for the tips and advices. I did have a HTH talk with Hubby. He claims that his high blood pressure is the possible cause of him not to get erection. He told me every time he has the urge to have sex but could not have reaction. He is ashamed because of his inability to have erection that why he keep pushing me away.


Recently, his friend has recommended a Jamu (traditional malay med). He starts to have erection again but I’m worried about the side effect. He mentions that a few of his Malay and non- Malay friends have tried. So far no one complains. Even, a friend of his, who is using this Jamu managed to make his wife pregnant - he is 49 and his wife is 47. Hubby even said that their baby was born healthy and normal despite of their age.

I have read somewhere that you can’t combine traditional med with the general med. Very dangerous but Hubby is a stubborn man. :scared:

He must be having a difficult time but Good thing that he is confiding in you.
As long as your relationship is strong, you can overcome a lot of things together. Hang on and don't stop talking!

[cherrygal]

Hey… I did guess correctly after all… and it’s due to high blood pressure. My uncle had that and diabetes.

[Lyddon]

\"Traditional\" and herbal soups are probably fine. However, be careful of taking drugs or tonics that are from the \"back-alley-kind\". Just google for news of people that died or hospitalized after taking illegal \"performance enhancement\" tonics - many sad stories. And there are also fake viagras and cialis in the market- so be warned.


Here's one:
http://sg.news.yahoo.com/four-men-hospitalised-after-consuming-illegal-sex-drugs.html.

As a wife, you can do your part by being well informed.
What food / drinks to avoid and what to consume (to see if it works).
What activities to do (eg. exercise ...) etc....

[valvestate]

My longest abstain was 2 weeks and I got really irritated and getting stressed for not 'doing' it. For one year is just unimaginable..... :wrongmove:


I hope you work it out with your hubby.... it can also cause him an emotional stress on this.

[janet88]

Canvas:

There can be many reasons, parenting responsibilities (for example, our kids sleep with us. Sigh.), work stress, age, health etc.

My kids also sleep with us. Hubby is so tired from work everyday and he knocks out before the kids do. We bunk into one room bcos of wanting to save on switching on 2 air con units. Not a wise idea to go on, but I have slept beside them since they were born
Sometimes if I want to snuggle up to hubby, it is just not possible.

[fightingmom]

janet_lee88:

Canvas:

There can be many reasons, parenting responsibilities (for example, our kids sleep with us. Sigh.), work stress, age, health etc.

My kids also sleep with us. Hubby is so tired from work everyday and he knocks out before the kids do. We bunk into one room bcos of wanting to save on switching on 2 air con units. Not a wise idea to go on, but I have slept beside them since they were born
Sometimes if I want to snuggle up to hubby, it is just not possible.

Hi Janet,

You can try switching on the Aircon to cool the room for an hour or so before bed time and then switch on the fan to continue circulate the cool air within the room. It helps save electricity and your children may sleep in separate rooms then.

[fightingmom]

happyheart:

Rena06:

Thanks for the tips and advices. I did have a HTH talk with Hubby. He claims that his high blood pressure is the possible cause of him not to get erection. He told me every time he has the urge to have sex but could not have reaction. He is ashamed because of his inability to have erection that why he keep pushing me away.


Recently, his friend has recommended a Jamu (traditional malay med). He starts to have erection again but I’m worried about the side effect. He mentions that a few of his Malay and non- Malay friends have tried. So far no one complains. Even, a friend of his, who is using this Jamu managed to make his wife pregnant - he is 49 and his wife is 47. Hubby even said that their baby was born healthy and normal despite of their age.

I have read somewhere that you can’t combine traditional med with the general med. Very dangerous but Hubby is a stubborn man. :scared:

He must be having a difficult time but Good thing that he is confiding in you.
As long as your relationship is strong, you can overcome a lot of things together. Hang on and don't stop talking!

Yes, keep communicating and in the meantime, you can give him lots of \"contacts\" like holding hands , hugs and \"tehing\" ... Whichever works

[ccgoh]

I try not to allow kids into the bedroom especially once they are 6 and above If not hubby and me sure no privacy. After a while, become more like good friends and roomates, need to have the spark lah, so sorry but by the time they reach K2, I will wean them off us and into their own rooms.

[janet88]

ccgoh:

I try not to allow kids into the bedroom especially once they are 6 and above If not hubby and me sure no privacy. After a while, become more like good friends and roomates, need to have the spark lah, so sorry but by the time they reach K2, I will wean them off us and into their own rooms.

That spark to keep marriage going is important. Sometimes, what women want is the hug and tenderness like courtship. Will try to get the 2 kids out of my room slowly.