I called up the school this afternoon and was told that the principal will be giving parents a letter on the refund process shortly. Hopefully we can get an answer within a week or so.

Jes, did you receive my msg with my hp no?

Dear parents, anyone gg for the parents conference this Friday? I tot it would be great if all parents can gather together and ask the principal regarding the school bus matter.

Hi Jes, can you please add me in the watsapp chat group too. My children in P3 and P4. Thank you.

SullyM:

Hi Catang


i'm not sure if it would help if u have a heart-to-heart talk with your maid. share with her some of your pains tat u are going thru & your purpose of employing her. she can surely see the current situation u are in now. ask if she is still interested to work with you after listening to you? if she has any children, she will feel for you. if language is the problem get the agent to translate for u.

if she's not, you may wish to consider changing maid. dh & i will go thru these sessions with our maids whenever things go wrong so that we remind them their purpose of getting out of indon to work. except for our first maid, the other 4 were freshies as we didnt want those with connections around singapore.

SullyM

initially, i have the sme thinking like you. i will talk and counsel the maid and every week and will have a review with her on what problem she is facing in this house or if there is any issues she wants to bring it up so that she is comfortable working in my house and we will have a gd working relationship. but all of them never tell the truth. every wk tells me the same old things, i.e. i am very happy working here\". tot she is happy but slowly problem surface. they are a group of gd actress. brought her to overseas trip every month, restaurant food every wkend and hundred plus of birthday gift. they dun appreciate at all. the moment i told her the mistake she made, she told me i insulted her and hurt her pride. what a high ego pride?


HTH.

KSmom8:

Snow White:

Agent has been counselling her since her 1st month of work. we tot treat her like a family member and bring her with us wherever we go, she will appreciate and do the work properly but we are wrong. she told the agent she wants to change employer b'cos she wants her employer to chit chat, joke with her every day, adapt to her style of working and life style. she worked in Sin for 3 yrs before gg to HK to work for 2 yrs. total she has 5 yrs of working experiences. we brought her with us every month when we goes for our holiday. her 1st holiday trip was 2 wks after she starte work in my family. she went for 3 holiday trips within 3 months. we even bring her along when we dine out at restaurant. i even have to cook b'fast, lunch and dinner for her every wkend. if i dun cook, she dun eat for b'fast, eat cup noodle for lunch and dinner.

Experienced maids seldom appreciate. My maid would pull a long face whenever we brought her out for meals or even on a holiday. She would sulk during the whole time. We would order the same $100+ set for her that we would be having, eventhough the waiter would almost always hint that we can order a different set for her.

I've learnt that she just prefers to stay at home, finish her chores than she is free to relax or yak on the phone, etc.

Now, I'd rather leave her at home to do chores, cook her own meals than to take her with us and spoil the mood. I'd rather take care of my young kid myself.

Needless to say, I am happy to be rid of her soon eventhough I know that I will miss her housework. She can do a good job at housework if she wants to.

The agencies that I've spoken to say that it might be difficult for her to get the same pay with another employer, expat or otherwise. We have also been generous with her pay yet she still don't appreciate.

Hi KSmon8,

what is the nationality of your maid? how long has she been working in Singapore? i am trying to get a maid now.

catang:

die la, i need maid cos i m a single-mum raising 3 kids on my own plus 1 of them after fall sick, from normal child became iq of 2 yo with handicapped. no maid i cant go work plus to lighten my load but due to my gal's medical condition, had changed 10 over maid. 1 of them even purposely broke her arm, by twisted force according to the doctor. this is the 15th.


i say die la cos fetch maid today n kept her hp, told her will give it to her only on her off day. agent told me she ex-sg so is can work de, so i take cos too many previous maid issues (mostly same unhappy n scary incidents you all faced too) but i found out she has bf and they r v intimate from her sms. i asked if she has bf, she said no. my concern is if she got preg, i will kena den gotta change maid again!!

told agent abt it, she said i kept her hp, she may not b happy plus we have no control over them having bf, most imptly is she can work for me cos of my family situation. tink of wat to do if worse things happen!!!

i have not been working since my gal fall sick in 2006, now dat she is no longer bed-ridden and have started talking, i can go back to the workforce. in order to do dat, i need a maid to help me with the chores and childcare. i'm staying at my mum n bro's house cos i sold off my flat to pay off debts, no place to stay n savings r depleted so maid is not only i use. getting my mum to help out is a no-no as she doesn't want to be tied down and she has her own stuff to do, also she's not obliged to help me when i m not paying her to help out...but how to when i have no income?. this is my \"nan chu\" lor.

haiz...back to the maid, should i wait few days see her performance or send her back or talk to her about me knowing she lied abt no bf??

when u all talk abt just send the maid back, it's easy but how abt the upfront payment made? will be forfeited if i do so and i dun have the means to spent on this type of $$ whenever i find maid cmi.....:(

Hi Catang

maybe you can talk and counsel her and monitor her work performance before deciding what to do with your current maid. i will talk and counsel the maid for at least 3 months before deciding to send her back or not. i also dun have the lucks to get a gd maid as most of the maid does not know how to appreciate the employer.

KSmom8:

janet_lee88:

Hi KSmom8,

On top of being fantastic dreamers, these Filipino maids are also fantastic actresses. Maybe these run in their genes :x . My prev maid is one fantastic dreamer and she can act very well too...in front of me and the agency.
Personally, I would send my maids HOME if they have an attitude. It definitely beats the idea of them sitting in the agency and paying the agency $12 a day for them doing NOTHING.

Her attitude showed about 1 month after I employed her. She told me \"if you don't like my work then send me back to agency\" and this was for not cleaning the floor properly. I was pregnant then and thought I was too harsh ... pregnant hormones,etc... anyway, so tiring and sian to change maid. So instead counselled her. But every few months, she will be back to her rude ways. On hindsight, should have just sent her home then... it would have saved me lots of stress and headaches and sleepless nights. Looking back I think it is a miracle that I tolerated her for almost 4 years. Yeah, great actress... she is the model maid in front of my mum and hubby... until recently when they saw how she talked back to me.

I am using another agency for my new maid. My current Filipina maid wants to use my previous agency cos they will charge her lesser fee. I have no intention of paying this agency anything... if they insist, I will buy a airticket home for her! I also intend to give them only 2 weeks to get her a new employer, don't want her to sit and choose an employer whilst I continue to pay her levy!

Actually, I really want to send her home especially since I have now been enlightened to their ways (thanks to this forum I have learnt quite a lot) but I've already agreed to the arrangement that if she does her work well and does not show me attitude until my new maid arrives, I will allow a transfer. How to back out now when she is back to being a model maid... :stupid:

dun be fooled by them. i've learnt my lesson so many times. in order to get what they want, they will pretend to do the job properly.

carebear:

Agree with sullyM.

The maid's attitude is very important.
If maid no good initially, but willing to learn, then can keep maid.
If maid has a bad attitude from the start and refuses to change, then can forget about employing her.
My maid was not so good initially, I had a talk with her and she said she needed this job. After many months, she is improving and I can sense that she is willing to improve and is not lazy.
Recently I found out that she shares my love for animals, in fact can handle small animals very well.

you are lucky your maid is willing to listen to you. she must be in need of money back home

[quote="SullyM"]send her back to the agency for counselling since she wont listen to you and if she doesnt improve, change maid.[/quote


Agent has been counselling her since her 1st month of work. we tot treat her like a family member and bring her with us wherever we go, she will appreciate and do the work properly but we are wrong. she told the agent she wants to change employer b’cos she wants her employer to chit chat, joke with her every day, adapt to her style of working and life style. she worked in Sin for 3 yrs before gg to HK to work for 2 yrs. total she has 5 yrs of working experiences. we brought her with us every month when we goes for our holiday. her 1st holiday trip was 2 wks after she starte work in my family. she went for 3 holiday trips within 3 months. we even bring her along when we dine out at restaurant. i even have to cook b’fast, lunch and dinner for her every wkend. if i dun cook, she dun eat for b’fast, eat cup noodle for lunch and dinner.