I agreed communication is the key. Not so much on the homework, goal etc

Hmm the thing is , the tutor shouldn’t put the child down with nasty remarks throughout the session & child cried after each session. & tutor who only want to select student with good academic in order not to spoilt their good record.

Hmm i would like to share my boy experience that some bully incidents.

1. When he was p1 , he got slapped by a p3 student. He went to school quite early that day & the p3 slapped him because my boy don’t want play with him. After that , we teach him to stay in canteen where there will be more people & ensure know where to get help when things happen.

2. When he was p3 & p4
In between period, one of the classmates pushed him & threw his school bag to dustbin outside classroom. Keep finding trouble with my boy during PE lesson , push him/ kick him.
One day he pushed back & everything stop

3. Around p5
He always the outcast & doesn’t know how to make friend . Finally has a friend to go recess to , he was very happy . Till one day , this friend choose to be with another popular group of friends & told them not to play my boy.
So we taught him about choice- don’t have to only go back to that friend , learn to make friends with others.

It was quite hard as his confidence was affected and angry with himself . Throughout the years , when things happened , we go through solutions with him & definitely teachers support as well.
Maybe his case is not that serious , but with support & talking through does make him better handling the situation. Honestly, not all teachers can help. But going through the situation & possible solutions does help my boy .
Now last year of his pri Sch, he doing well in term of social.

As a parent , I believe a loving & qualify teacher will be good, or even better consistent .

Many teachers started with passion but burnt out later on which lead to high turnover.
It like a cycle . If parents want higher quality, then need to pay more. Well, cannot have the best of both worlds

autolycus\" post_id=\"2112187\" time=\"1688365312\" user_id=\"16143:

I think you have every right to feel angry. A teacher should be happy to teach students who are weaker, since the whole professional outlook is supposed to be one of making every student a better person and help them achieve their targets as they progress in life. A teacher should be an encourager and a life-coach, or why bother? A good tutor is a mentor as well as a teacher, not someone grinding out grades; the worst tutors are the ones who only accept good students and even have some sort of test to see if the student is good enough.

(Disclaimer: I've been a teacher for 30 years. It's not as easy as some people think. But it's also rewarding.)

Thank you the reply.️️
It really sad . 1 good thing is taught my son not everyone is good/nice out there. Told my son this is business so better cherish the teachers that are good & really sincere to help you.

Don’t think I can do anything except stop the services.

But I do feel this type of tutor is for the sake to show to other parents her record is good= students go to good school.
Keep emphasis all her students only goes to express stream & 1 student that in NT is not due to her. she taught him after p6. Maybe it a hint from her that she doesn’t want to tutor my kid , and I didn’t get the hint 😵‍💫
Terrible educator .
While we want our child to perform well in school , I really hope no kids especially young ones has to go through negative emotions exp.

Part of me I’m really angry. Like it my kid ‘s fault because he weak in his studies & don’t deserve to get tuition. Tuition now seem to be only for better kids🥲

Wonder-ful\" post_id=\"2111492\" time=\"1687657200\" user_id=\"121000:

sad to hear this. We went thru the same experience when my son was preparing for his PSLE . The tutor was rather strict and flooded him with so much homework that he lost interest in learning. His PSLE results turn out average and now in secondary school . It was a rather bad experience and he would cry and pretended to be sick to avoid going for his tuition.

Sorry to hear this.
It terrible how tuition service is changing. I’m angry how the situation is. It like a way to earn money & result is the outcome to show parent . Child is to get result , like a tool.

Yup . Already stop the service.

But I’m wondering if this is okay behaviour from a tutor … working with kids smart or not , isn’t it require patience if not why in education industry.

Hihi

Recently I have engaged a home tutor for my child who is academic weak. My child is in upper pri & his marks are usually borderline or failing 40plus/100.

This tutor will keep saying to my child how weak he is , how far behind he is from her other students. Keep talking about how smart her other students , saying that all her students are express stream after PSLE. While marking my boy’s work , she will sigh loudly , keep making comment. My boy is not showing any behaviour , complete the work given . But he is slower in learning , to tk time understand concepts

I’m extremely upset as it bring fear to my child whenever session is coming .

I’m angry that is it tuition is about scoring high mark rather than helping child to understand better.

I hope parents who engage tutors , pls ask your child what happening during the session if no other family adults in that environment . Do not wish any child has to go through this kind of emotional stress .

DesertWind:

Gooby:

Both my boys only started to converse with me properly from age 4 yrs plus. Nowadays, my ear drums always feel like exploding whenever the brothers are playing excitedly with each other.

Hi Hi,

I shall respond to this because it gives me hope since my boy now at 3.5 yo at best can say \"I want water\", \"I want milk\", \"I want raisins\", \"Bye! See you tomorrow!\". And that is after we force him to say what he wants instead of just whining and pointing! Yes, can call \"mummy\" and \"daddy\" and \"aunty\" (my maid) when he wants to but not often. :idea:

Other areas of development seems fine and he can understand what we are saying and his teachers also commented he is quite intelligent. But lose out compared to his Nursery peers for sure just because he is not yet verbal! He is trying very hard to say something but we don't understand him. He is also singing and can follow songs well but cannot pronounced the words accurately.

If I allow myself to worry I would be really sick by now!

I have the 4 yo time-line in mind as well so lets hope there will really be a break-through and one fine day my boy can start to converse with me!

Hi Desert Wind

I find that your boy is quite similiar to my boy condition.
My boy so far is diagonised with speech delay . He is able to say some single words the rest is like babbling not clear. 2-3 mth ago he started to imitates a lot single words and Im currently been working with him at home too.
and he is seeing speech therapist as well.

He will be coming to 3 years old in another 4 mths. I really wanted to give him a few more mths hopefully he will catch up his peers in term of speech but my hubby feel that shld send him EIPIC centre asap.

I thought of give him abit more time hopefully can converse with us or shld I send him straight to EIPIC centre.
Feeling so confused don't if Im making the right decision.

chickaboom8888:

Hi, my girl 19 months is still not talking, except Mamamama occasionally that's all. sometimes she gestures, sometimes she babbling ( which I can't understand what she is trying to say). I had noticed she is behind language development before she was 1 year old. Her speech development does not improve significantly since 1 year old. To me she is kind like 6 months behind compared to other baby girls. Her eye contact is good, sociable, can do pretend play and I think her vocab is fine for her age ( she will point when I ask her which one is xxx). Physical development is also fine. She can blow bubbles and I always play blowing fake candles with her. sometimes I try to wait for her response before giving the things she wants but she just shook her head. She does not like to imitate what I say, just watch. should I wait? also appreciate if any kind mummies can provide good tips what we can do for the time being.

It always best not to wait , bring her for assessment and therapist will give you suggestion how to work with her.
I bring my son to KKH for assessment when he was 20 mths. You may go for pte or govt . My experience with KKH therapist wasn't gd , I guess the therapist wasn't experience enough so I switch to pte.