Hi,


May I check what is the URL for the ONE Cedar Portal? I can’t seem to find the icon on the parents page.

Need some recommendations for home tutors for P3 Chinese for weekday afternoon. Can anyone help?

Harlequin:

I don't think is right to take an office employment as the absolute guideline for employment of domestic helper.


As an employer of both groups, I am definitely using different yardstick.

Simply put--

I do not have staff that think that they can knock at my door anytime for salary advancement. If they are in need of money, that's not a problem of mine.

I do not get my gate crashed for they personal loan or loan shark. For that matter, they can't use my home address as theirs, they do not have a chance to disrupt my life.

I would not be held responsible when my staff got herself pregnant from her EMA.

I do not have to answer to any authority if she thinks she can manage another job after office hours, unless the part time job is conflict of interest that might compromised my business.

I do not also, at anytime, put my young children under their charge.

I do not eat what my staff cooked, even she hates me, I will have no worry that my food be spiked.

I do not let them in charge of the security of my house, my belonging.

I do not house them, I do not subject to their emotional blackmail, I do not have to worry that they failed bi-yearly medical check up... even they are HIV positive we can still retain their service because we do not need to have close personal contact to interact.

I do not have the obligation to fly her home should she resigned.

In short, I do not have that much of the obligation for the average office staff.


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Employer of a maid, is more to that... we are, their guardians... we have to ensure their safety and their well being, among other things...

Domestic helpers aren't our office staff. Period. Don't get yourself confused.

We cannot rely solely on them to auto assume their obligatory role to their employers, so, we exercise whatever influences we have on them, we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...

For every right one wished to claim, there is also an obligatory duty to trade off, I am well aware of that... but if my maid is not aware of that, it's my duty to make her sees that, right?
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I hope people can be more objective when they weight such issues.

\"we guide, we fuss, we nag, we get ourselves upset and upset them...\" this is so true! I found myself with another child to worry about since I got my helper..

Linlin, I also could not figure out why if my maid can tahan 1 year 4 months without hp cannot tahan not having hp for the day… haha… one word, addiction…

Anyway, not worth it to spend too much time and attention on maid… I will close some eyes sometimes… I have better things to do lor… and I still need her for a while, but cannot let her think i so desperate for her…

No leh, she quite stupid in that way… Esp for sms to those she like, she dont delete them… She keep them to reread again later… She refuses to tell me her screen lock password, but she willingly unlock the screen for me to check her sms and phone calls. Maybe she thinks I dunno how to read malayu… If she want to play prank again, I will not also be nice anymore.

I definitely won’t let her use my wifi and computer… If she wants to go online, she better afford it on her own. She has to learn on her own that she is spending all her hard earned money… And if she wants to spend like this, so be it… it is her money… There is no point bending backwards to help her… She may not appreciate it. Like how she bought the hp behind my back.

Your maid probably has a fb account before she came here. Mine has a fb account, also email account and hp back in Indo, Cirebon. She could not bring her hp over to work… So she tahan for one year and 4 months (in between she changed 3 employers before me) before secretly went to buy a hp. She could buy because she started to get her full pay recently. But she got found out within a week of buying it. I was so pissed with her and also the second hand telco shop that sold her the hp. She did not have her work permit with her so by the law, she should not be able to buy the sim card. But the shop owner probably used someone else ID to get a sim card for her.


She did not bring her indo hp, but she brought her memory card which has songs and her contacts. So she got into contact with all her friends back home. Her so called uncles are actually friends who are guys… One she like, he dun like… One like her, she dont like… Heng all are in Indo, not SG… How I what goes on in the sms? I painstakingly took snap shots of all the sms, arranged them in word doc, printed and asked my malay colleague to translate for me…

After I found out she bought a hp, I confiscated it for one week. When she got it back after one week, she can only use it at night from 9pm onwards and must return it to me in the morning. She must rest by 10.30pm every night. If I found out she played hp after that, I will confiscate the hp for 1 week again. So far, i saw one sms that is timed after 10.30, I issued a warning. Another time, I will confiscate. She topped up a few times, eveyr time $8… Dunno how she use, but can finish $8 in one night… Now, she got another sim card of her own by using her own work permit yesterday.

I can see that she is addicted to the hp. She begged me for the hp to use during the day this morning. I firmly said no, just like how she said no to me when I asked her to cut her hair. Lets just see if she violate the rule of stopping hp at 10.30… I will only have time to check during the weekends…

fable:

syen27:

I wonder if someone can help me with my situation. My maid is a transfer maid so her documents are somewhat all unsync. Her passport expires 24 Nov 2016. her KTKLN card expires 13 Dec 2013. Her work premit expires 29 Sep 2014 which is also when her contract expires.


Can I ignore the KTKLN card expiry for now? Till she decides to renew her contract in 2014. If she decides to renew her contract, then I need go to the Indo embassy to get a new contract done, do up a new WP then she can come back from her home leave? Can I renew her contract before the existing contract ends?

The KTKLN card is only needed when your helper needs to come back to Singapore from Indonesia. So yes, you can ignore the KTKLN expiry for now I believe.

Thank you!! Though I think I will have to get a proper contract done at Indo Embassy if she decides to take home leave before the 2 years is up. The contract signed at the agency dont seem very proper and likely not recognised by the Indo government.

I wonder if someone can help me with my situation. My maid is a transfer maid so her documents are somewhat all unsync. Her passport expires 24 Nov 2016. her KTKLN card expires 13 Dec 2013. Her work premit expires 29 Sep 2014 which is also when her contract expires.


Can I ignore the KTKLN card expiry for now? Till she decides to renew her contract in 2014. If she decides to renew her contract, then I need go to the Indo embassy to get a new contract done, do up a new WP then she can come back from her home leave? Can I renew her contract before the existing contract ends?