ChiefKiasu:

Fact: \"Life is not fair\"

Fact: \"All schools in Singapore are good, but some are better than others in the specific areas they focus on\"
Fact: \"The best school is the one that meets our children's needs\"
Fact: \"Academic achievement requires perseverance, attitude, and curiosity. If the child lacks these qualities, regardless of how smart the child is, or how elite the school appears, the child cannot succeed academically.\"
Fact: \"Academic achievement opens doors, but does not guarantee success in careers or life.\"

So you see, if we can get past the \"life is not fair\" issue, and focus on the real objective of helping our children build their character to overcome the many challenges they will face in life, everything else will fall into place by themselves. Don't fight the wrong battle and end up losing the war.

:goodpost:

phtthp:

Sun_2010:

After reading this, my engrish all gone liao

because if computer software translate, english become like this.

i read until ... blur, but roughly can make out what is trying to say.
basically, the gist is to survive, must do OT (overtime)

btw, how much salary does a bus driver earn in China, if those 29 repatriated workers return back home China, work as public bus drivers again ?

if is low over there, then means everyday they must drive OT a few buses, in order to make up to our SG equivalent bus driver pay.

A private bus driver in China earns about 2300RMB/mth. He does not get housing or food allowance nor are these provided by the company as well. This is he works for a private organisation. Public bus drivers in China earn less.

myWQ:

Parents should be more involved in their child's daily life and raise and discipline the child themselves, not leave it to teachers or care givers. Working parents may find time lacking in this aspect. After they reach home, have dinner and settle down, it's almost 8pm. Time is then dedicated to homework. Weekends are spent sending kids to enrichments centres. This routine leaves very little time for actual bonding, teaching values, instill discipline in their kids everyday lives.


As a result spoilt, irresponsible kids start to emerge in society. This is just my opinion formed from observations.

I agree.

3Boys:

In view of a side discussion in another thread, time to resurrect this. C'mon ladies and gentlemen, what can you do to flame proof your marriage from a foreign attack?

My personal experience, both husband and wife needs to work very hard at constantly maintaining a loving relationship. If either party starts to get heart stirrings for an outsider, it usually means something is not quite right in their marital relationship. Just my humble opinion...

buds:

wearefamily:

Good to know we have many loving couples parenting our next generation :rahrah:

How many do u know so far? :please:

wearefamily:

Sorry getting :offtopic: , getting back to main discussion...

Too many waaayyy :offtopic: posts in our forum threads these days. :roll:
KiasuParents used to have a fab housekeeping team.

Oh well... At least, in here it's coherent. Loving' it. :please:

I know quite a few personally, and from what I gathered reading this forum. But unfortunately I also know an equal number of couples going through or has gone through a rough patch. Seeing how their personal problems affect their kids really made my heart break. So every time I see happy families I am :rahrah:

Good to know we have many loving couples parenting our next generation :rahrah:


Sorry getting :offtopic: , getting back to main discussion...

3Boys, your DW is a very lucky lady

Laura02 thanks for posting this, it’s a good read.

Would suggest you find an alternative Childcare too, one who have no qualms about taking good care of a 2 year old.

nightlone:

well, the thing is every singaporean there will complain about how they cannot handle. they need the parents or parents in law to come over to take care. then when the grandparents are gone, it's like the 'holiday' is over.

i ascribe to the thinking that \"it's my choice to have kids so i need to be responsible for them and not park them at the grandparents or someone else.\"
if i think i cannot handle it, then i'm not going to give birth.
what's the point of having a child but being unable to spend time with them and nurture them? what's the point of giving birth when you just leave them with the grandparents or someone else all the time?

I love what you said, it's my sentiments exactly. What I had my first child we decided that we should bring up the kid ourselves. I gave up my corporate career. Sure, if I continued working we can hire a maid, leave the kid to the grandparents, or place in child care. It's a no-brainer for us actually. We gave up many things for me to stay at home. We have no grouses with our situation, and definitely don't blame anyone for the sacrifices we have to make.