Son.... where is mummy's dearest ah boy

[nightlone]

kiasimom:

Hi insider,


I fully agree that the wife will determine if the son will be fillial.

If you have a good DIL, you will have half a daughter, if you have a bad DIL, you will lose your son.

how about if you are a good MIL, u will have a good DIL.
works both ways, methinks.

[Harlequin]

nightlone:

kiasimom:

Hi insider,


I fully agree that the wife will determine if the son will be fillial.

If you have a good DIL, you will have half a daughter, if you have a bad DIL, you will lose your son.

how about if you are a good MIL, u will have a good DIL.
works both ways, methinks.

Thanks, Nightlone, for reviving this thread....

Interesting read, I enjoyed reading every post of the 5 pages.

I noticed the older batch of members are very friendly to one another, they said \"hi, so and so\", they shared amicably without getting emotional, they don't act high and almighty nor torched others :torchme: just to have the triumph of self-important....

:please:

Have I missed the golden days of KSP? :?

Or has the world changed that people nowadays are cold and hardcore go getters with big egos?

Sigh.

Have a pleasant evening, Nightlone. :celebrate:

[alng]

Before we ask for a good DIL, we must also ask ourselves if we are good DILs to our MILs.

[nightlone]

Harlequin:

nightlone:

[quote=\"kiasimom\"]Hi insider,


I fully agree that the wife will determine if the son will be fillial.

If you have a good DIL, you will have half a daughter, if you have a bad DIL, you will lose your son.

how about if you are a good MIL, u will have a good DIL.
works both ways, methinks.

Thanks, Nightlone, for reviving this thread....

Interesting read, I enjoyed reading every post of the 5 pages.

I noticed the older batch of members are very friendly to one another, they said \"hi, so and so\", they shared amicably without getting emotional, they don't act high and almighty nor torched others :torchme: just to have the triumph of self-important....

:please:

Have I missed the golden days of KSP? :?

Or has the world changed that people nowadays are cold and hardcore go getters with big egos?

Sigh.

Have a pleasant evening, Nightlone. :celebrate:[/quote]my dear Harlequin, i think we are all here... and maybe we get deluded by daily life but we are all here. and besides, i don't think the world changed... it's the people who can change the world. Keep the faith! :snuggles:

[wiimum]

hotspurs:

Whether a son or a daughter, I guess noboby wants to be in a position of being sandwiched btw spouse and parents.I would say my wife is an ok DIL, she is kind and loving towards my mom etc, but she does have her moments. I hate it when she nags that I carry more load then my siblings in caring for my mom...what I should and should not do etc, everynow and then we will get into explosive arguments over this matter.

I told her I love her alot but I also love my mom. my love for her is along the lines of wanting to start a family with her, grow old together etc...but my love for my mom is a different form of love, that of gratitude and respect. I am successful today because my parents made huge sacrifices for me...for that I will always be thankful.
I told off my wife many times never to make the mistake of making me choose btw my parents and her...my choice will be very simple. my theory is as follows - half the world population is made up of women. Even if we divorce, if fate permits, we can have another chance at marriage. But we only have 1 father and 1 mother in the entire world/universe...I must do the right thing to take care of my mom.
I am not trying to sound like a purist and I may sound extreme...but once I have this principle, I become more at peace with myself and it becomes clear what needs to be done.
I told my wife that her parents are healthy now...when her turn comes to take care of them next time, will she want me to nag at her? I believe in karma...those spouses who instigate their other half against their parents...you will grow old one day, how do you want your children to treat you then?

:goodpost: Fully agree with you!

[Harlequin]

nightlone:

Harlequin:

[quote=\"nightlone\"]

how about if you are a good MIL, u will have a good DIL.
works both ways, methinks.

Thanks, Nightlone, for reviving this thread....

Interesting read, I enjoyed reading every post of the 5 pages.

I noticed the older batch of members are very friendly to one another, they said \"hi, so and so\", they shared amicably without getting emotional, they don't act high and almighty nor torched others :torchme: just to have the triumph of self-important....

:please:

Have I missed the golden days of KSP? :?

Or has the world changed that people nowadays are cold and hardcore go getters with big egos?

Sigh.

Have a pleasant evening, Nightlone. :celebrate:

my dear Harlequin, i think we are all here... and maybe we get deluded by daily life but we are all here. and besides, i don't think the world changed... it's the people who can change the world. Keep the faith! :snuggles:[/quote]My take is, a person's attitude towards others is largely the product of his/her life, can't expect a cheerful and caring personality from someone that lives a bitter life, and etc.

Friends warned me times and a again, it's a dog-eat-dog world we are in, guess she wants me to open my eyes big enough to see the filth.... and I had wondered what shaped her views.... maybe now I have some clues...

God bless. :hugs:

[Jennifer]

Harlequin:

Friends warned me times and a again, it's a dog-eat-dog world we are in, guess she wants me to open my eyes big enough to see the filth.... and I had wondered what shaped her views.... maybe now I have some clues...

:hugs:

[vinegar]

winth:

When MIL 'targeted' on our empty room in our new residence, DH almost fell off his chair.


MIL hadn't been the easiest person to have due to her extreme fiery temper and tactless character. (not i say one, the 2 fortune teller/astronomer I went to emphasized this fact; and told DH to spend time with parents although they know it's really difficult) DH told her that we will surely take care of their old age but not when PILs are still so strong and healthy, they are only mid 50s.. I'm still enjoying our marriage and family, while trying to fend off distractions from the outside world from destroying the family or marital bliss that we are having nowSo taking care of my parents and PILs will come later.

I have told my parents too that we are setting aside money to take care of them and DH's parents so that none will end up in streets and we will try to settle any medical bills (it's a matter-of-factly tone bec they keep telling us that we seem to only save and never spend). So I guess that sort of 'verbal' assurance helped to ease my parents. I dunno how to convey the same message to my PILs, while still maintaining comfy space between us. Don't want them to have the wrong idea that we are very ready to live under the roof anytime they want.

We visit my ILs every weekend to have dinners. Though I usually MYOB too, DH will face the 'music' with his parents (it's usually music cos MIL still grumbles and complains alot about everyone). And his sis seem to start inheriting this very trait, so in the house, you basically hear two women talking.

I worry too about my old age - be it a potential marital affair (which results in divorce), unfilial kids or no roof above my head (from the inflation, I dunno how much our savings is really worth 30 years down the road). I also know that my kids will leave me early in my life (yes, fortune telling again, think way before they hit 30), the money we are locking up now is for our retirement and the house we eventually stay in will fit only us - 兩老.

The plan will go wrong if the marriage goes wrong though. So I'm keeping this marriage as safe as can be. DH faces lots of distractions in his work and because of his profession (young girls seem to get real materialistic and practical nowadays and it's to a scary level), so I am taking no chance at it.

i share the same sentimental as u.I am trying to protect my marriage,but if my DH doesn't cooperate,i find it hard..

I do not mind my dh cares for his parents,but,my MIL has endless requests n attn.She creates excuses for my dh to go bk.We nid to shower her so much attn till we can't do our own things n live our life normally.

i can be understanding but at times,i blow up coz she seriously interferes n cause inconveniences to us.i don't know how long i could endure.

[Augmum]

Harlequin:

Thanks, Nightlone, for reviving this thread....

Interesting read, I enjoyed reading every post of the 5 pages.

I noticed the older batch of members are very friendly to one another, they said \"hi, so and so\", they shared amicably without getting emotional, they don't act high and almighty nor torched others :torchme: just to have the triumph of self-important....

:please:

Have I missed the golden days of KSP? :?

Or has the world changed that people nowadays are cold and hardcore go getters with big egos?

Sigh.

Harlequin,

The world is make up of all kinds of pple… like it or not….the good and the bad….

Everywhere we go….be it here or any other forums….or in real life…..
There are pple who make yr days and there are pple who spoil yr days…..
Juz take it as part of life….
Don’t be too bothered or upsetted by it, we all learn…..

Be Happy.....Cheers!!!

[nightlone]

i try to go by this cantonese saying: mun sum moe kuai

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