if i am a mil,
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No need to wait so long…when kids go to sec school, we should be able to enjoy couple time?
Definitely no to staying with son and his future wife…will be taken for granted. Maybe ok to staying near daughter and her family though. -
I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America
"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life" -
Laura02:
..... and I have 2! :please:I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America
\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\" -
Laura02:
No matter how much unhappiness, daughter will still be daughter.I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America
\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\"
Aunt once told me, to have a daughter is to 防老...try doing that with daughter-in-law, there will be a sting for life. I will not adopt a 'I am a mother-in-law...so you listen to me' mentality. But just be cordial, in order not to put son in the middle. -
janet_lee88:
Er...excuse me. Not all daughter-in-law take away their son from their mum hor.
No matter how much unhappiness, daughter will still be daughter.Laura02:
I remember reading this phrase that apparently popular in 1950s America
\"You son is your son till he gets a wife. You daughter is your daughter all her life\"
Aunt once told me, to have a daughter is to 防老...try doing that with daughter-in-law, there will be a sting for life. I will not adopt a 'I am a mother-in-law...so you listen to me' mentality. But just be cordial, in order not to put son in the middle.
I help my hubby take his mum for most of her medical appointments, now that she is old and has difficulty walking. I also help fetch her to and from the hospital after day surgeries. This is also one of the reasons why I do part-time work; to help hubby with all his mum's medical appointment. If not, I don't see how he can afford to take so many days' leave to look after his mum. 3 days' parental leave is not enough. As she gets older, his mum's medical problems also increase; from dementia, to frequent falls, cataract, dental and chronic pain. Each health issue requires one specialist appointment.
This, despite the fact that his mum has never bothered to remember my birthday nor buy anything for me when she went on holidays. She bought things for her son only. -
Hi Han Seo,
You are really a wonderful daughter-in-law for doing all this.
It’s impt your hubby appreciates what you are doing and I’m sure you will be rewarded for your kindness. -
janet_lee88:
couple time will nvr happen to us.he probably would busy attending his mum's endless attn.No need to wait so long...when kids go to sec school, we should be able to enjoy couple time?
Definitely no to staying with son and his future wife...will be taken for granted. Maybe ok to staying near daughter and her family though.
yes,agree.will not stay wf his future wife,lots of prob esp Y generation hv very different as us. -
vinegar:
what you mentioned is very true...think he will be attending to his mother more if he is free...and she will be more attention seeking.janet_lee88:
Definitely no to staying with son and his future wife...will be taken for granted. Maybe ok to staying near daughter and her family though.
couple time will nvr happen to us.he probably would busy attending his mum's endless attn.
yes,agree.will not stay wf his future wife,lots of prob esp Y generation hv very different as us.
no need to think so far...bro's wife is already one of a kind. next generation will be very different from us. -
vinegar:
Hmmmm.... How old is your mil? It maybe taboo to say this but she won't be around forever, right? Find out how old her mother is when passed away and whether her female siblings are still around and you can estimate.
couple time will nvr happen to us.he probably would busy attending his mum's endless attn.janet_lee88:
No need to wait so long...when kids go to sec school, we should be able to enjoy couple time?
Definitely no to staying with son and his future wife...will be taken for granted. Maybe ok to staying near daughter and her family though.
yes,agree.will not stay wf his future wife,lots of prob esp Y generation hv very different as us.
Sorry, forummers, don't :torchme: me ar... I am just being practical.... -
ngl2010:
she's only 71.Long way to go.She was survivor of cancer 10yrs ago.Very strong,healthy with high pitch & loud voice.All her female siblings still ard. :roll:
Hmmmm.... How old is your mil? It maybe taboo to say this but she won't be around forever, right? Find out how old her mother is when passed away and whether her female siblings are still around and you can estimate.
Sorry, forummers, don't :torchme: me ar... I am just being practical....
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