What is wrong with my son?!!!
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yat23yat23:
Thanks yat23yat23, will look up in the net and wait for your update.JH,
I will definitely update everyone about the outcome of the talk by Dr Doris Ang (she's got her own clinic). She has dyslexia and had her fair share of problems coping with schoolwork and her family's criticisms. If you type in her name in the internet, there'll be a lot of info about her work and contributions. She also gives talk at KKH (child guidance clinic), SPARKS and many other institutions.
I'm happy to be able to pour out my feelings. Thanks for all the words of encouragement. -
Hi all,
Sharing some thoughts from Dr James Dobson about Teaching Failure to Children.
" One of the best ways to show your children how to succeed may just be to teach them how to fail. Our children must see how that Mum and Dad can admit their failure and their shortcomings, and that the world won’t end because they did. Some of the greatest times of growth between parents and children can occur when youngsters see Mum and Dad not get what they’re going after and still feel all right about themselves and each other. It tells them that winning isn’t always normal or possible, and that even when you fail, life goes on. Teaching our kids to win and succeed is a noble thing. But teaching them to handle frustration and failure may be just as important." -
EN:
EN,My attention span is extremely short if I'm not interested in a subject, my mind starts to wonder. I fell asleep in class from primary school up to uni for some subjects. I usually think back how I overcome my short fall & I hope the same solution works on my dd.
We have one more similarity ! I used to fall asleep in class too ! Especially in university during boring lectures. I can sleep through the entire lectures. In the end I barely manage to get my degree. The lesson I learn is that I should have chosen a course which I am really interested in.
In secondary school, I loved maths but really hated English literature. I refused to study literature because I was simply not interested. So I am not going to expect my kids to do well in every subject.
Why should parents set our own standards, and expect our kids to meet those standards ? Why not let the kids set their own standards ? -
csc:
...One of the best ways to show your children how to succeed may just be to teach them how to fail...
Yes... that is so true... however, in my case, I think it is my son who is teaching me how to fail. I was ranting away at how our father and son team keep getting wiped out at one of the xbox shoot-it-up game and was only awaken when my son say out of exasperation: \"Daddy... it's only a game!\" I was totally embarrassed :oops: by that incident, and hope to be a much better example for my son instead. -
Update on the talk I attended last Friday. Dr Ang focussed more on Irlen Syndrome. Below are the symptoms:
Light Sensitivity, Poor Depth Perception (ie. difficulty judging accurately distances), Eyestrain (can include fatigue, headaches, fidgeting, distractibility, hyperactivity), ADD (problems concentrating during tasks such as reading, computer work, listening and observing, tests and examinations), Contrast and Colour Sensitivity (problems with high contrast, such as black print on white paper, bright colours, busy patterns), Restricted Span (inability to read words in groups or see objects in the environment as a whole), Distortions (include seeing patterns in the background; print moving, fading, disappearing, swirling, blurring, sparkling or shimmering; seeing similar distortions in the environment such as blurriness and movement.)
The talk didn’t address the issues that I had in mind. I actually waited to talk to her after that but there were too many parents around her. Still thinking of whether I should call her clinic. -
Tamarind, funny that your daughter starts reading Charlotte Web at a very young age when her mother hates literature. :lol: I fall asleep during physic class & can't catch what the teacher say during chemistry class & there I have a son who loves science. :roll: By the way, I did pass my science subjects. Not brialliant but not borderline cases either.
Tamarind wrote [quote]Why not let the kids set their own standards ?[/quote]Aren't lower primary still too young to set their own stardard?
yat23yat23 wrote [quote]I actually waited to talk to her after that but there were too many parents around her. Still thinking of whether I should call her clinic.[/quote]If there is no similarities in behaviour & performance between your child & yourself/husband during that age, you might want to get in touch with the clinic. It's better to have earlier intervention. -
EN,
There is a big difference between reading for enjoyment, and reading to pass the English literature exam :? I did not know how to answer those questions in the literature exam paper.
I believe that children in lower primary can set standards for themselves. When I was in primary 1 (in a no name school), I was first in class (not sure how, it just happened). After that I had to work hard to maintain that standard. My mother never said that I must be number 1 in class.
For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ? -
Tamarind wrote [quote]For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ?[/quote]
Pick up my daughter from school in the afternoon. She was running towards the car waving her report book. Reading from her body language, she is happy with her school result. Her expectation is to pass everything. Both her teachers and me personally feel that she has the capability to move her marks from high Band 3 to Band 2. -
EN:
Tamarind wrote [quote]For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ?
Pick up my daughter from school in the afternoon. She was running towards the car waving her report book. Reading from her body language, she is happy with her school result. Her expectation is to pass everything. Both her teachers and me personally feel that she has the capability to move her marks from high Band 3 to Band 2.[/quote]EN,
I have given private tuition to many weak students before. I find that once they understand the subject better, and they see that their marks improved, they will set a higher standards for themselves. So the important thing is to find an effective method to teach them so that they can learn better.
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