Does type of housing really matters?

[tankee]

mummy of 2:

Ds1 prefers condo simply becos of the swimming pool. When I asked him if he wants to move to the condo opposite our block, he said \"no\" becos he wants to be with daddy and mummy

:love: :celebrate:

[corneyAmber]

skunk:

ok, maybe put it this way:

if a 7 y.o girl, all her friends have a Barbie doll, but she has not. She goes and asks Daddy if she could have a Barbie doll. Daddy says it's a stupid bimbotic toy, no way.

A matured 7 y.o might understand it's a stupid bimbotic toy, but she won't have the ability to understand how it's possible for so many of her friends to be stupid and bimbotic because they all got Barbie dolls.

Similarly, if a 7 y.o is surrounded by people who live in condo, and she lives in HDB, and we try to explain that it's not the house, it's the people and the family that makes up a home....they won't be able to understand what's the difference between a house and a home, because all her friends would appear to have both a house and a home. At that age, the association between material objects and what it could represent, is very strong.

Heck, apparently for many people, they carry it until adulthood LOL....as in, someone with a Lexus, Rolex and Terrace House must be super rich lol

Skunk, thanks for trying, I think I understand the problem statement better. But it boils down to inculcating values. As to how to inculcate, as parents, we need to find an effective media that will appeal to the children. I know it's not easy, which is why parenting is a life-long process, like you say, some adults remain like this.

[mummy of 2]

I think once the values are there, it's harder to change, as they are the foundation. So it's impt to teach them from young. Spending time talking to them and listening to them verbalise their thoughts is important. Sometimes they surprise us by their ability to understand complex concepts.


DS1 has been saying he wants to work so that daddy and mummy do not have to work so hard

[Andaiz]

sleepy:

I asked my dd the same question too. I told her we are debt free now. If buy condo, must take loan. If default on loan, bank will take away the house & we will end up sleeping under the bridge. My dd :roll: & asked why risk so much for a swimming pool? The admission to swimming pool is only 50 cents

:grphug: sleepy, your dd really put things into perspective. :rotflmao:

Skunk, it's a good analogy...this mommy also thinks that Barbie is a bimbiotic toy. My gals don't have one...although they play with their cousin's or friend's. :roll: when they get a chance.

[fishatwork]

sad to say, there are some parents who hope that their children will be very independent enough to take care of themselves and don't have to bother the parents so much. They would rather work over-time, go out with friends for drinks and leave the child in the grandparents/ maid's care and probably think that their responsibility is just to provide material needs to the child, but not spending enough time with them.

[skunk]

fishatwork:

sad to say, there are some parents who hope that their children will be very independent enough to take care of themselves and don't have to bother the parents so much. They would rather work over-time, go out with friends for drinks and leave the child in the grandparents/ maid's care and probably think that their responsibility is just to provide material needs to the child, but not spending enough time with them.

that sounds exactly like my bro LOL

[tankee]

fishatwork:

sad to say, there are some parents who hope that their children will be very independent enough to take care of themselves and don't have to bother the parents so much. They would rather work over-time, go out with friends for drinks and leave the child in the grandparents/ maid's care and probably think that their responsibility is just to provide material needs to the child, but not spending enough time with them.

such parents should be rounded up and :torchme:

[3Boys]

skunk:

ok, maybe put it this way:


if a 7 y.o girl, all her friends have a Barbie doll, but she has not. She goes and asks Daddy if she could have a Barbie doll. Daddy says it's a stupid bimbotic toy, no way.

A matured 7 y.o might understand it's a stupid bimbotic toy, but she won't have the ability to understand how it's possible for so many of her friends to be stupid and bimbotic because they all got Barbie dolls.

Similarly, if a 7 y.o is surrounded by people who live in condo, and she lives in HDB, and we try to explain that it's not the house, it's the people and the family that makes up a home....they won't be able to understand what's the difference between a house and a home, because all her friends would appear to have both a house and a home. At that age, the association between material objects and what it could represent, is very strong.

Heck, apparently for many people, they carry it until adulthood LOL....as in, someone with a Lexus, Rolex and Terrace House must be super rich lol

Don't think its that difficult a concept. Just ran it by my 6 y.o. this evening, he got it in an instant. He even paraphrased, \"You mean home is a family?\", so I think he got it.

[corneyAmber]

3Boys:

Don't think its that difficult a concept. Just ran it by my 6 y.o. this evening, he got it in an instant. He even paraphrased, \"You mean home is a family?\", so I think he got it.

Good to know that it is not so difficult to understand because my own case alone cannot justify it.

[3Boys]

fishatwork:

sad to say, there are some parents who hope that their children will be very independent enough to take care of themselves and don't have to bother the parents so much. They would rather work over-time, go out with friends for drinks and leave the child in the grandparents/ maid's care and probably think that their responsibility is just to provide material needs to the child, but not spending enough time with them.

Different strokes for different folks. The concept of parents spending a lot of quality time with their children is not a universal one. For instance, in some cultures, children may be sent off to boarding school at very young ages. They don't necessarily turn out too badly......