Extra Marital Affair

[buds]

blurqueen:

Husbands are like kids, they love to be pampered and fussed over too. \"Teh\" him every now and then (that's what most mistresses are excellent at!) and learn from them how to keep your man! I've no idea what it's like to \"teh\" but after some practice in last 1 year ... I think I've got my yellow belt :rotflmao:

:rotflmao:

Enjoyed reading your post, blurqueen.
And i agree with all that you have posted.

We the wives too love to be pampered and
fussed over... it's a vice versa kinda treatment.
Supposedly to be an unspoken thing but so far
most times it takes a certain something to happen
or a certain someone or someone(s) to offer the dreaded
wake up call. Yup. Life can't just be centred on children alone
and though we can proudly say we are good mommies we forgot
how to be good, exciting wives as well. Appreciating one another is
definitely two-way traffic. I'm sure now you DO now how to \"teh\" very
convincingly.

And yes these sluts are veeeeerrrry good at \"teh\"-ing... genuine or not,
the men just love it. :roll:

[Andaiz]

Blurqueen, thanks for your timely reminder to \"teh\" DH's.


I just came out of a weekend thinking that I'm really bushed with taking care of the children and their incessant demands and that DH has been neglected. Recently, he's showing signs of \"hiao-ness\": getting himself tested for sleep disorder coz I complained that his breathing very irregular, wanting to go for pedicure to remove deadskin from his soles...
dunno whether to be suspicious or not :? but will certainly pay more attention to him now... :love:

[csc]

Ha, ha....my girl has got a \"black belt\" in teh ing the daddy... no wonder she's his darling at all times.


Guess I've got much to learn from her. :lol:

[3Boys]

Perhaps refer some of you ladies back to this thread? --> http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3258


To me, no matter what, spouse comes first. If you don't look after your marriage, you put the family (and that includes the kids) at risk.

We need to take a long term view and not get swamped by the multitudes of things that can come with child minding. Will DD or DS really suffer if he didn't take up that extra music enrichment or MT tuition that needs you shuttling him around? Possibly, but he will suffer far more if the Daddy drops out from the scene due to neglect.

I keep my children's programmes as straightforward as possible. Anything over and above the absolutely necessary is not considered.

Don't let your time with your children completely swamp your time with your spouse.

[csc]

Thanks for the reminder, 3boys.


Agree with you totally.

[3Boys]

cfan:

In my line of work, I have encountered so many men who openly brings the mistress out and pays for stuff in cash so that no bills were sent to the house. As to why we know they were mistresses, it's because before they bought stuff for the mistress, they have already bought something for the wife and the wife was also here.

Sigh.... sorry to pour greviances over here.... just wanted to share that alot of things are not so rosy as we thought they would be....

I would venture to say that they are in the minority. Most men take their marriages seriously.

[autumnbronze]

This 'teh' - ing thing is something that my DH then boyfrd complained that I didn't have when our r/s went thru a v rough patch b4 we got married.


And it was this 'teh' - ing that brought him to the dark side when he was in the UK doing his post-grad studies. He made the mistake of confiding in a v v gd female frd abt our problems and she capitalized on it v v quickly - she had the hots for him. Suffice to say that the girl wasn't the sort that he would go out with ... ie not pretty etc... but really knew how to 'teh'. Yes, I know, saw the photos and daringly called her up to chat with her, as in really chat ... not hurl abusive words

She was so gd that he really had to 'wean' himself off her. I also realized that this was also predominantly due to the way he was brought up by his mom ... She really 'teh' him, alot too, sometimes to the extent of going overboard, in my own personal opinion, more than her other 2 sons, but then again, he's her first born.

It was a gd lesson for me to as well as for him. When he returned home, we had a good trashing out session and made an effort to work at our r/s so that we could get married soon.

At the end of the day, he knew deep down inside, whether I 'teh' him alot or not, I am the one that he feels secure with.

Though I have to say that since then I have made a conscious effort to 'teh' him, though he still thinks that I have room for improvement.

[cmm]

Hmm, I'm not the type who can \"teh\".... no, sir... just not in my character to do so. Fortunately, my hubby is the type who cannot stand women who \"teh\" either.... simply gets on his nerves. Guess that's one of the reasons we clicked in the first place, hehe.....


Instead, we nurture our relationship by showing care & concern for each other, being considerate (like when we know the other had a tough day and will take over the parenting duties), nightly chats before bedtime, lunch dates at least once a month.

We've been blissfully married for coming to 12 years now. :love:

[Andaiz]

Congratulations, cmm. 12 years and going strong!


Yes, it takes 2 to clap. But male ego is such that it needs stroking once a while. Read some time back about a baron in the UK who left his wife of many years for someone the same age, and not very good looking too ...and the reason is that the mistress \"made him feel needed\".

That's the bane of our modern lifestyle, ain't it? :roll: Women are expected to help bring in the bacon, make decisions about the house...yet make the guy feel needed??!?!

[corneyAmber]

3Boys:

cfan:

In my line of work, I have encountered so many men who openly brings the mistress out and pays for stuff in cash so that no bills were sent to the house. As to why we know they were mistresses, it's because before they bought stuff for the mistress, they have already bought something for the wife and the wife was also here.

Sigh.... sorry to pour greviances over here.... just wanted to share that alot of things are not so rosy as we thought they would be....

I would venture to say that they are in the minority. Most men take their marriages seriously.

I agree most men take their marriages seriously but in a different light from your idea. Men would never want to walk out on a marriage and will hang on as their dear life to an existing marriage even if they love the idea of venturing into a side dish but that remains a side dish. That is the plain selfishness of men I have seen often, want to have his cake and eat it. It happened to people close to me unfortunately, they all want to eat out once in a while but they still love the home-cooked meal on a regular basis, so you think they are not serious about the marriage if 90% of the time they prefer it at home? :roll:

Also partly because men are made differently, having a dish outside to them is not out of love, it can be a separate entity to them. They will insist they seriously love the family and only lust the side dish, so are they not serious?