Ngee Ann Primary
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KingRascal:
Thanks for sharing. Actually I was like u - I wanted to immediately tell the teacher but somehow I realise that when i probe my son further, his verdict changed. So I had to gauge if he's telling me the real situation or downplaying the severity of the whole thing just so I won't go and \"report\" to the teacher.Hihi
Allow me to share my experience and pls note that this is my personal approach and you would have to find one that is suitable for your situation.
Call me Kiasu, and that I might have overreacted over my son's bully incident, but I chose to be safe than sorry. It is my son's morale and confidence that I am talking about thus I did not care if I had taken the most appropriate action then.
He was bullied on the bus by a group of children in the name of playing games. It was obvious the target was on him and he was punched in the stomach. He came back and was obviously distraughted and very bothered by it. He had thought they were his friends thus he was emotionally hurt too, besides the slight physical pain. I only knew one of the children's mum thus I contacted her for investigation. I did not choose to wait for long and went ahead to inform the school the next day. Reason - I did not personally know the other children and their parents, and thus I had no way to tell if they would continue to do harm to my son in school. I played it safe then.
Conclusion - it was due to some misunderstanding that one of the boys felt offended by something that my son said so he instigated the rest to bully him during the play. Well, there are some more details which I do not think I would talk about further. However, the relationship between myself and the boy's mum was strained since then, I felt. At some point in time, I asked myself if I had overreacted. Maybe. But I had to place my son first and the following 2 points guided my action:
- I had to take the action, in my personal opinion, most appropriate to the situation for his safety when I was unsure of the situation.
- I had to take some form of action, so that my son is assured that I am there for him. If I did not take action and downplayed the situation, he might feel disappointed and felt pointless and helpless despite telling me about it. The last thing I want is to have him hiding things from me in future as \"mummy would not do anything or help me anyway\"...
Well, you would have to understand your children's character well and ask yourself what your children are expecting you to do. What is the action they hope to see when they tell you what had happened?
The above is just my personal opinion for sharing
In any case, I alerted the form teacher couple of days ago and she had a talk with the boys. things seems ok now tho it's still early to tell.
I also told my son that it's a good lesson learnt - not everyone that \"plays\" with him is his fren. Some are out there to build their own happiness on other's suffering, simply put. But I do know that some \"naughty\" kids are really genuinely naughty - I have a fren's kid who is kinda slow/slur when speaking so nobody understands him and neither does he understand ppl well. his behaviours are often seens as \"naughty\" cos he simply doesn't understand instructions/rules. -
3bagsfull,
who is the form teacher for 1 LOVE? today another bad incident happen. on the way back from the mass walk, my son was being pushed and had hurt his knee, elbow and wrist. I got a shock when I picked him from school, the gauge is stained with blood and poor boy limping out from school.
It’s the same boy who did it again. Already 3 incidents with this boy. I guess the teachers had no control over the boy as well. It’s the upbringing, i believe. I bet we didnt teach our kids to go out and be a bully and would even punish them if they had done something wrong.
Am very upset and disappointed. The teachers would only say "accidentally". But I believe, my son is being "marked" already. -
KingRascal
I think you did the right things. We always have to speak to our child and know what is happening then investigate the matter and take action. I will not sit back and do nothing. Let the school feel that I’m Kiasu or complaint queen. But what if our child’s life is being threaten. My son had a case before which is life threatening. If nobody went to his rescue, I would have lost this son last year.
I believe only Nancy Chen is the most mature form teacher for Pr 1 this year. Which class is she in? -
Oh…so the boy I saw today piggy-backed by a PE teacher is your son. Ya, his fall looked bad. Ok, I’m in no position to comment or suggest what you can follow up with the teacher. On your part, you may want to consider taking part in activities that allow you to observe the classmates’ behaviour, ESP that particular boy, to decide next course of action. Just a suggestion.
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Hi there, I am a father and eldest son attend to Ngee Ann Primary School.
Just for reference, are there rules for teachers to follow?
The school shows policy and vision for the pupils, but isn’t it first that we have a good school, a pool of excellent teachers, then we can produce good students.
The point is why not first assess the school and the teachers.
The teachers must have some kind of guidelines to follow, may be from MOE.
So the question rebound back, what is the school motto, school vision, school policy for the teachers and staff?
Are their system transparent to parents.
Or just, they are the school principle, teachers, MOR approved them already, slapping this kind of answers back to parents’ face.
I just need to know is there any MOE standards, also on cases whereby teacher handles first aid or emergency… are they up to the job?
Did they go through some kind of workshop, training, a checklist to follow… standard operating procedure, quality system… -
gemini:
Oh dear, that's really bad.3bagsfull,
who is the form teacher for 1 LOVE? today another bad incident happen. on the way back from the mass walk, my son was being pushed and had hurt his knee, elbow and wrist. I got a shock when I picked him from school, the gauge is stained with blood and poor boy limping out from school.
It's the same boy who did it again. Already 3 incidents with this boy. I guess the teachers had no control over the boy as well. It's the upbringing, i believe. I bet we didnt teach our kids to go out and be a bully and would even punish them if they had done something wrong.
Am very upset and disappointed. The teachers would only say \"accidentally\". But I believe, my son is being \"marked\" already.
during the 1st 2 weeks of sch (can't remember which), 1 day my boy came home with some abrasions on his elbow. He said he fell down on his own. but
a few days later, when i talked to him again, he told me some of the bigger size ones in class wld suddenly BOO him from behind and pushed him just to scare him. that's why he got the abrasion that day. I really don't understand why these kids must \"play\" in such an uncivilised manner.
BTW, my son's form teacher is the only non-chinese teacher this year. She seems to be of certain experience and my son told me that she's pretty fierce (just like mommy, he said). So i guess the kids are still behaving in her presence.
Maybe u can volunteer for 1 of the upcoming mass walks and observe the \"dynamics\" between ur son and the classmates so that u know who to zoom into when u alert the teacher? -
don't really know what exactly you are looking for but there is this \"The Teachers' Pledge\" governed by MOE
http://www3.moe.edu.sg/purposeofteaching/teacherPledge.html
The teachers' Vision statement is
http://sam11.moe.gov.sg/tn/TeachersVision/about-teachers-vision.htm -
hihi
a big hi to all the mummies and daddy. my princess is in ngee ann pr1 this year.
lets make a friend :celebrate: my girl is in 1 tenacity -
gemini:
She is definitely the most mature P1 form teacher, she was my form teacher for P1 & 2 when I was in NAPS 20+ years ago.
I believe only Nancy Chen is the most mature form teacher for Pr 1 this year. Which class is she in? -
Keroppi30:
nancy chen is teaching 1 unity this year.
She is definitely the most mature P1 form teacher, she was my form teacher for P1 & 2 when I was in NAPS 20+ years ago.gemini:
I believe only Nancy Chen is the most mature form teacher for Pr 1 this year. Which class is she in?
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