How do you deal with arrogant/how lian people around you?

[corneyAmber]

25hourmaid:

There is another category of how lian people that I cannot stand - a doting grandparent boasting how 'good/smart' their grandchild is.


There is this old lady I know in Church and her precious one and only granddaughter (only son and also only granddaughter) is in the same school, same standard as my elder boy.

First when the PSLE results were released, she went .... \"actually MY S**** (mind you, it is always MY S**** this and MY S**** that) wanted XXX and YYY (the two top all girls' IP schools) but miss by one mark to these schools, so she's now in ZZZ school (my son's school) and that's her 3rd choice. She's now waiting for a transfer to either XXX or YYY schools.\" But the thing is now, 3 years on, her S**** is still in my son's school.

When she first found out that my son is in the same school as her S****, she went .... \"oh so you are also from ZZZ school? Do you know who MY S**** is? Have you met her? Which class are you in etc? MY S**** is in such and such a class and she won such and such an award, so you definitely must know who MY S**** is and must have seen her!\"

Goodness me, :faint: she talks as if her S**** is the one and only student in ZZZ school and EVERYONE must know who her S**** is or how smart her S**** is! :roll:

Now when my son sees her in Church, he turns around 180Deg and :siam: :lol: I do the same too! :lol:

:faint: People are really bored....

Ok maybe my turn to hao lian... :lol:
I am always so surprised that anyone knows who my dd is. I would go like \"Huh? How come you know her? \" Hao Lian or not? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

I think talk like can sound quite hao lian...so just smile?

[outsider]

A mum of DS’s classmate "complain" to me that the school is teaching stuffs that are too easy, that her DD is not learning anything new from school

(her DS is able to read Peter and Jane books at 2).
I dont know how to answer her
She has changed her DD to a new school this year.

[corneyAmber]

ks2me:

:faint: People are really bored....

Totally agree! Bored people = how lian people! Nothing better to do maybe? :?

[corneyAmber]

25hourmaid:

ks2me:

:faint: People are really bored....

Totally agree! Bored people = how lian people! Nothing better to do maybe? :?

Ya I think especially grandparents....the grandchildren become the centre of their lives.... My MIL also likes to brag about grandkids....I run away when I hear it starting.... :lol: :lol: :lol:

[corneyAmber]

ks2me:

Ya I think especially grandparents....the grandchildren become the centre of their lives.... My MIL also likes to brag about grandkids....I run away when I hear it starting.... :lol: :lol: :lol:

While it is true for most grandparents, I cannot say the same for my MIL, but that is another story altogether. I have ILs from H*LL!

[jedamum]

ks2me:

Ok maybe my turn to hao lian... :lol:
I am always so surprised that anyone knows who my dd is. I would go like \"Huh? How come you know her? \" Hao Lian or not? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

my turn to hao lian :lol:
i am always so surprised whenever we bumped into someonw who knows who my dh is.... at the mall, orchard, food court, even once at the zoo! and unless they are ex colleagues, my dh usually smile and chat with them and thereafter secretly tell me that he has no inkling who they are :roll: - cos he has quite a high portfolio in sec school despite can-can results.
i hao lian anot? :lol:

[corneyAmber]

jedamum:

ks2me:

Ok maybe my turn to hao lian... :lol:
I am always so surprised that anyone knows who my dd is. I would go like \"Huh? How come you know her? \" Hao Lian or not? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

my turn to hao lian :lol:
i am always so surprised whenever we bumped into someonw who knows who my dh is.... at the mall, orchard, food court, even once at the zoo! and unless they are ex colleagues, my dh usually smile and chat with them and thereafter secretly tell me that he has no inkling who they are :roll: - cos he has quite a high portfolio in sec school despite can-can results.
i hao lian anot? :lol:

:celebrate: we both hao lian! Btw, your dh really can-can...no inkling still can chat with them....won't \"chun po\"(in cantonese) ah? :salute:

[jedamum]

tutormum:

Sadly, most mothers thought that it's THE TUTOR'S JOB. I speak as a tutor now. :siam:

i beg to differ.
personally, inspiring son to study is a tutor's job, if not i pay for tutor for what? might as well give him tons of assessment and ask him to do. a mother's job is not to inspire son to study. it is to feed them, clothe them, love them and inspire them to do their best and to some kids, studying is not what they are best at. it is then the tutor's job to inspire these kids while the mum give support. do i make sense? eg no matter how i coax, ds1 refused to converse in mandarin with me, but whenever he stepped into Berries classroom, he'll be a mini chatterbox, 'bugging' his teacher in mandarin (some broken sentences though )- that, is inspiration that i cannot give.
jmho.

[jedamum]

ks2me:

:celebrate: we both hao lian! Btw, your dh really can-can...no inkling still can chat with them....won't \"chun po\"(in cantonese) ah? :salute:

:lol: ya lor. lolz. so long don't call the other party by the name is safe liao. lolz.

[corneyAmber]

jedamum:

i beg to differ.

personally, inspiring son to study is a tutor's job, if not i pay for tutor for what? might as well give him tons of assessment and ask him to do. a mother's job is not to inspire son to study. it is to feed them, clothe them, love them and inspire them to do their best and to some kids, studying is not what they are best at. it is then the tutor's job to inspire these kids while the mum give support. do i make sense? eg no matter how i coax, ds1 refused to converse in mandarin with me, but whenever he stepped into Berries classroom, he'll be a mini chatterbox, 'bugging' his teacher in mandarin - that, is inspiration that i cannot give.
jmho.

I have to agree with you. I think mum's role is mainly to provide all the basic needs well and no worries, just like what our mums used to do. And if we outsource, the teachers should inspire and motivate in their area of expertise. Mother is not goddess...