Just 5 Things... to Keep The Romance in Our Marriage Alive

[Augmum]

schweppes:

Nice tip, Angmum. Thanks :lol:

Yup.. must also take note on the language of flowers. Donch want to sabo our own romance with wrong flowers!!

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[corneyAmber]

Pretty ducks..


1. Give each other occasional massage :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:
2. Write love notes to each other once in a while :love: :love: :love:
3. Participate in each other's hobby or have a joint hobby :love: :love: :love: :love:
4. Go on regular periodic dates without the kids and enjoy cuisines that brings back fond memories :love: :love: :love:
5. Whisper words to each other at close proximity instead of always talking to each other from one room to another... :lol: :lol: :love: :love: :love:

An extra point:
6 Stop calling each other \"Daddy\" or \"Mummy\"!!!!! :lol:

Maybe not as romantic as schweppes' but effort is required. :lol:

[Andaiz]

True that romance does not equal sex lah, tankee...but being busy people sometimes one and the same loh. :evil:


My 5 are as follows:


1. Spending pockets of time together, just the two of you
Just talking and listening to one another on topics other than (1) Kids, (2) Money (3) What needs to be repaired/worked on in the house; and just concentrate on each other.

2. Doing an activity you both enjoy
Could be something really insipid, like cycling tandem at ECP. Ha!

3. Surprise call/text
Just to say hi! and I love you. You'd be surprised how refreshing it is for you and your spouse.

4. Cook something you both want to try
Heehee, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? :roll:

5. Speak his/her love language
This is something I've learnt from G Chapman (author of Love Language) - it ain't anything till your recipient feels loved: either because there was physical touch (hug etc); words of affirmation (encouraging words); deeds of kindness; quality time or gifts (receiving them).

Read more at this link - http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages

[carebear]

I don’t think many will approve of what i have been doing…

My DH and I do not sleep together.
We have not been sleeping together since the birth of my elder child 12 years ago.
I think this has an important role in keeping our marriage alive!
We surprise each other by creeping into each other’s room on and off in the middle of the night. Sometimes in each other’s toilet also.
I like the feeling that i am not the "wife" but his secret lover instead. He sleeps in his study with his computer which he considers as his "wife".

[Andaiz]

carebear:

I don't think many will approve of what i have been doing.......

My DH and I do not sleep together.
We have not been sleeping together since the birth of my elder child 12 years ago.
I think this has an important role in keeping our marriage alive!
We surprise each other by creeping into each other's room on and off in the middle of the night. Sometimes in each other's toilet also.
I like the feeling that i am not the \"wife\" but his secret lover instead. He sleeps in his study with his computer which he considers as his \"wife\".

:evil: :evil: ooooh, carebear...like conjugal visits leh! I like the \"spicy-ness\". But truly, only the couple can decide if this is indeed \"good\" for them.

[corneyAmber]

carebear:

I don't think many will approve of what i have been doing.......

My DH and I do not sleep together.
We have not been sleeping together since the birth of my elder child 12 years ago.
I think this has an important role in keeping our marriage alive!
We surprise each other by creeping into each other's room on and off in the middle of the night. Sometimes in each other's toilet also.
I like the feeling that i am not the \"wife\" but his secret lover instead. He sleeps in his study with his computer which he considers as his \"wife\".

Nothing to disapprove, sounds so interesting and exciting for you. :love:

[carebear]

Andaiz:

carebear:

I don't think many will approve of what i have been doing.......

My DH and I do not sleep together.
We have not been sleeping together since the birth of my elder child 12 years ago.
I think this has an important role in keeping our marriage alive!
We surprise each other by creeping into each other's room on and off in the middle of the night. Sometimes in each other's toilet also.
I like the feeling that i am not the \"wife\" but his secret lover instead. He sleeps in his study with his computer which he considers as his \"wife\".

:evil: :evil: ooooh, carebear...like conjugal visits leh! I like the \"spicy-ness\". But truly, only the couple can decide if this is indeed \"good\" for them.

I remember watching a documentary about a certain tribe in China where the married couple don't stay together, and the husband would make secret conjugal visits to his wife! I think it is so exciting!

[autumnbronze]

carebear:

I remember watching a documentary about a certain tribe in China where the married couple don't stay together, and the husband would make secret conjugal visits to his wife! I think it is so exciting!

Wow! carebear, this is (s)exciting

[schweppes]

carebear:

I don't think many will approve of what i have been doing.......

My DH and I do not sleep together.
We have not been sleeping together since the birth of my elder child 12 years ago.
I think this has an important role in keeping our marriage alive!
We surprise each other by creeping into each other's room on and off in the middle of the night. Sometimes in each other's toilet also.
I like the feeling that i am not the \"wife\" but his secret lover instead. He sleeps in his study with his computer which he considers as his \"wife\".

Hi Carebear, nothing to disapprove. I think we all have our personal bedroom arrangements.

Like what Autumnbronze and Andaiz mentioned, all these sneaking in and sneaking out, like conjugal visits sound very (s)exciting!! :politebleah:

[schweppes]

More 5 things to share... but this time wholesome ones :lol:


1. Have a Date Nite
Make sleepover arrangements to leave kids at Grandparents' home, and the 2 of you can go for dinner and perhaps, a movie

2. Have a Date Day
Unable to leave kids at Grandparents, then if possible, take 1/2 day off (better still if both can take full day off), and go out for breakfast or lunch, followed by a movie, shopping, or whatever that catches your fancy. But NO running household errands.

If you feel guilty about leaving them at home alone or with the maid, then plan your date day whilst the kids are in school or at CCAs.

3. Rent a Movie
Unable to take time out to go to the movies, then bring the movies to you. Rent a movie that BOTH will enjoy, send the kids to sleep early and then both can settle down to watch the movie together at night. Create the mood by preparing snacks, drinks (wine? hot cocoa drink?) and pillows/cushions to make yourself comfortable. Just don't get too comfortable that one of you may fall asleep whilst watching the movie. :roll:

4. Dinner at home
Use TV as baby sitter and park the kids in front of the telly to keep them occupied. Then, the 2 of you settle down at the dining table and have your own quiet dinner, minus the kids.

I know, sometimes it's hard to find time to go out for couple dinner. Then, enjoy each other's company at home. Also, you won't feel guilty that u are leaving the kids home alone. We take what little couple time we can get.

5. Send a Flirty message
Hey, that's what handphones/ smartphones are for... 'nuff said!! :love:

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