In-law problems?

[autumnbronze]

auntieM:

I was quite shock to hear it from my mum.

Strict rules in my house where and when DH and my dad can puff, yet son can make such observations and comment...
Didn't tell DH about this incident though....I dunno how to

AuntieM, isn't amazing how kids can be so discerning and pick up things that we would normally won't notice or take for granted

[auntieM]

Totally autumnbronze :celebrate:


As for those expired/mouldy biscuits and snacks that son was given to bring home, he does not ask for them any more.
Once my mum asks to see what he brought home and he said\"Shhhhh....
cannot eat one lah\". Then I remembered we once opened mouldy bah kwa in front of him....
My MIL very popular and gets loads of gifts that she can't finish I suppose

[autumnbronze]

auntieM:

Totally autumnbronze :celebrate:


As for those expired/mouldy biscuits and snacks that son was given to bring home, he does not ask for them any more.
Once my mum asks to see what he brought home and he said\"Shhhhh....
cannot eat one lah\". Then I remembered we once opened mouldy bah kwa in front of him....
My MIL very popular and gets loads of gifts that she can't finish I suppose

Perceptive lah ...

[Andaiz]

auntieM:

Totally autumnbronze :celebrate:


As for those expired/mouldy biscuits and snacks that son was given to bring home, he does not ask for them any more.
Once my mum asks to see what he brought home and he said\"Shhhhh....
cannot eat one lah\". Then I remembered we once opened mouldy bah kwa in front of him....
My MIL very popular and gets loads of gifts that she can't finish I suppose

:celebrate: smart cookie, you have there auntieM.

Yeah, we get expired or soon-to-expire gifts too. The gals take one look at the foodstuff and refuse flatly to partake...then when I open the lid....ooohhh! The pong of rancid oil. Autumnbronze dear, you are right. Kids are very perceptive of such things!

Mine lately have been commenting, \"nainai says can eat leaves of strawberries coz it's good for health...cannot right? Too much pesticides?!?\" (my 3 yo!)

[winth]

auntieM:

Sigh! CNY round the corner, wish we can fast forward certain time of the day

Same here.
Just two days ago, DH blurted out that reunion meals this Saturday, and that time flies.

I was like: :shock: :shock: it's this Saturday?????

I seriously forgot about it, I thought it was mid-Feb which feels like it's forever a week away. After DH told me it's this coming Saturday, I came to work with a black face since then, my colleagues thought I was angry or what. But it's really stressful.

I just wish things will just pass without having to face those side-gazes and back-talking or worse, SIL making MINDLESS sarcastic remarks about us in front of everyone! I just hope things go smoothly for me.

[Emelyn]

surfermom:

shine_fs:

[quote=\"Emelyn\"]
How to forgive ? How to forget ?

Tough lah....

True lor how to do that when we are the one gets hurt so badly........

To be fair, give me a little more time, more wisdom I really will forgive. But to forget is not possible. I guess I can only look back (like 2ppaamm) and think certain things. IF we can always live like this (On Hindsight...I SHOULD HAVE done this, that), then we will never make mistakes, no regrets, plus, I would hv won 4D a thousand times![/quote]I guess the reason I find it difficult to forgive and forget is because my mum actually was the one who is hurt by their non-appearance and lack of show of concerns. And I kept thinking that mayb my mum also felt sad for rme..... gosh... here i go again...with tears flowing....

I mean if she is hurting me....i can still tahan... but she is hurting my mum lei.

Gee... it has been 10 years liao lei.... but the pain still remains.

And to continue.... in the same conversation.... mum actually told me to let my kids spend more time with my side of the family (as in my extended family of cousins, aunts, uncles), instead of DH's side, because in her words.... \"they don't know 人情事故\"

:x I just bought some CNY gifts for my MIL last Sunday....maybe I should keep it for myself......

[buds]

Emelyn:

:x I just bought some CNY gifts for my MIL last Sunday....maybe I should keep it for myself......

:rotflmao:

Humour in sadness.. :lol:

Hang in there, Emelyn.

You are rational enough to know what will be the best way to go
around this. I do FULLY understand what you mean when you sd
there are stuff that are just a lotta baggage but cannot be erased
from the heart nor the mind. Cause just thinking about stuff some
times just easily brings back that stabbing pang of hurt and aches
of yesteryears.

CNY is supposed to be a joyous get-together occasion. Try not to
put yourself in more anguish and sorrow this new year's day. Even
if u don't wish for it to be joyous for others, at least be joyous for
yourself and your family.. There's no way anyone can ever make up
for anything right now... to make things right, since your mum has
already passed on.

While some history are best left forgotten, you can make new history
with what you have now. :hugs: I wish you happiness and prosperity
for you and your family this CNY, Emelyn. You will be great this CNY, ok?

[shine_fs]

winth:

auntieM:

Sigh! CNY round the corner, wish we can fast forward certain time of the day

Same here.
Just two days ago, DH blurted out that reunion meals this Saturday, and that time flies.

I was like: :shock: :shock: it's this Saturday?????

I seriously forgot about it, I thought it was mid-Feb which feels like it's forever a week away. After DH told me it's this coming Saturday, I came to work with a black face since then, my colleagues thought I was angry or what. But it's really stressful.

I just wish things will just pass without having to face those side-gazes and back-talking or worse, SIL making MINDLESS sarcastic remarks about us in front of everyone! I just hope things go smoothly for me.

Hope our wish come true.....I like to fast forward tomorrow dinner.....

[buds]

autumnbronze:

surfermom:

My son refused to leave with him and was pulling my maid along.

Surfermom,

I wanted to highlight this to you some days back, but it slipped my mind. Your son's reaction, to me, is v telling as to how he perceives your FIL. Is he like that with your MIL as well???

Or am I reading too much into this?? As I have a tendancy to ....

I have this tendency too, autumnbronze..

Reading too much into things...
Sometimes it comes in handy &
sometimes i'd rather not read...
if ya know what i mean..

[buds]

MummyJo:

Though it is very sad, it is also very refreshing to know that from today, I can consciously start to live a life free of grudge.

Good for you then MummyJo... not everyone can live a life free of grudge.
Grudge with in laws.. Grudge with an old boss.. Grudge with an ex-spouse.
Grudges and its bagggage are heavy on the shoulders and the mind..

MummyJo:

Communication is the key.

Please dun mind if i add to the above statement, for it appears to me
that it's a wee tad incomplete..

Two-way communication is the key.

Cause in the case of hard-to-deal-with kinda ILs, usually there's only
one communication channel open... that is, they talk.. we must guai2
listen.

Cos no matter how much we know, theirs is still more salty.. :lol:
(If ya know wat i mean... )

I know this from being there and doing that (been there, done that) and
in fact still doing it booooyyyy...