All About Full-Time Maids
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peapot:
Btw, how do you say \"kian\" in English?? Kian is hokkien version of trying to skive or trying to escape or trying to avoid doing something you don't like.
peapot dear, is she stressing you out so much that you've got the answer there in bold yourself?
Put simply, I'd tell her:\"just because you don't like to do something means you can avoid doing it. You need to do this because....<give>, so please do it now.\"
After she's done....\"good, now must remember to do it <state>. Don't let ma'm have to remind you ah!\"
If she's zi dong, would do it. But don't rely on it too much. Will need periodic reminder!
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I used to give my new maids $30.
But since this year, so many people came to my house continuously from eve to 2nd day of CNY, and my maid cooked for them, I gave her $50. -
We gave our maid $50. We also gave her $50 for x’mas. She’s been with us a bit over 1 year so these are kind of like a year-end bonus for her.
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I used to give my old maid $200 for CNY as ang pow. Then one year, she was really naughty, so I gave her only $20. She gave me long face for a whole year. That’s the year we started to have conflict and she left after 7 years. Hm… this ang pow thingy is sensitive and big issue to them. If you end up giving too big an ang pow, you set an expectation that might backfire.
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We give her $200 angpow. She gets a 13th mth bonus as well.
Lately, we’ve been having quite a lot of conflicts, sigh. Her old problem of "I didn’t do it." I told her repeatedly - I don’t care if she didn’t do it, just don’t do it again. The most recent incident - leaving food uncovered in the fridge. That’s just so @#$%. First time, she "didn’t do it". Second time, bopian, got to admit unwillingly, which I really don’t care about. Just don’t do it again lor!!! :x :x -
Blobbi:
I think all the maids have the same kind of attitude. They like to use the words like \"I forget\", \"Dunno\" & \"I didn't do it\". And sometime can give you innocent look like you are blaming the wrong person...We give her $200 angpow. She gets a 13th mth bonus as well.
Lately, we've been having quite a lot of conflicts, sigh. Her old problem of \"I didn't do it.\" I told her repeatedly - I don't care if she didn't do it, just don't do it again. The most recent incident - leaving food uncovered in the fridge. That's just so @#$%. First time, she \"didn't do it\". Second time, bopian, got to admit unwillingly, which I really don't care about. Just don't do it again lor!!! :x :x
My maid told me that she forget, I will tell her that \"I will forget your salary.\"
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Blobbi, your maid must be nuts!! Got BIG angpow and bonus still want to behave this way. That’s why I don’t understand maid’s mentality. Same for my maid, small house and no one at home also a problem for her.
Andaiz, what I meant was, is there an English word to replace "kian"? -
My IL’s maid requested to go home after CNY, with a "bagful" of angbao from relatives of the big family.
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shine_fs and peapot, the maids don't care about the $$ one lah. Their thinking is very short term, dunno why.
Usually after the \"I didn't do it\" comes the \"you never teach me this way\". Aiya, 4 years with me already - which variation I haven't taught? LIke for the New Year hot pot, can she cook the leeks a few minutes before hand. Out comes her \"You never teach me this way last year?\". Xian. Remind her also useless, so I say, \"this year different can?\" Same with the curry, the various dishes which we cook often. Dunno why got selective amnesia! :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: -
Tks for the listening ears, guys. Sometimes I just need to vent when all the old habits from my maid start to surface. At the end of it all, I’ll still keep her cos she’s quite alright otherwise and I need someone to help cos I’m working. Plus she’s really quite good with my kid and my relatives, and has good (selective!) memory when it comes to my son.
When I hired my first maid, I really had high expectations. Nowaways, I was telling DH, more than 50% ok, good enough liao. Less than 50%, just change the maid. This maid is around 70% most of the time, so aiya, close one eye lah.
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