SAHP or working is better?

[Funz]

Whether or not a child turns out to be a bully or obnoxious or a softee has got nothing to do with whether there is a SAHP.


It boils down to parenting style and the parents’ own behaviour and attitude, especially during the preteen years.

I agree with skunk that parents should as far as possible, let children resolve their disagreements themselves. Step in only if it gets out of control. As parents, we should give them the tools to resolve conflicts but never fight their fight for them.

I have had parents coming and requesting that we do not let a classmate play or go near their own child as the other child is aggressive. And we have had parents withdrawing their child because we do not comply. We have seen parents/grandparents shouting at each other because one child received a bruise or scratch from another child during play. And the irony of it all, while the adults are shouting at each other, the 2 kids are playing tag around the adults.

[corneyAmber]

Fun, I agree with you that it is parenting style not about SAHP or not.


The case my child faced with the verbal violence, the teacher had not seen the parents before after registration and could not contact them via the phone yet to inform them of the incident. Incredibly busy parents, only see the maid so far.

[mintcc]

May be, besides, parenting style, it is not so much SAHM or FTWM but how much time and guidance we can give our kids.


Some FTWM are lucky to have jobs that are not as demanding or are exteremely good at time management so they can still guide and spent a good amount of time with their kids. There may also be SAHM who may be overwhelm with life/health/problems and can give little time or guidance to their kids. I had a classmate whose mum do not work but spend her days on majong sessions.

Both ways there are sacrifices.

[KSP]

mintcc:

I had a classmate whose mum do not work but spend her days on majong sessions. /

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:


This is a good one!!!

[2ppaamm]

lovekidsverymuch:

ks2me:

Incredibly busy parents, only see the maid so far.

:!:

nothing shocking quite common nowadays . Don't you pity the child?

[2ppaamm]

KSP:

mintcc:

I had a classmate whose mum do not work but spend her days on majong sessions. /

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Also common leh tai Taos can be so busy with their lives the don't even hv time for kids. Sahm and ftwm all must remember our responsibility to our kids is a duty, not a favour don't you think?

[corneyAmber]

lovekidsverymuch:

A lot.. i thought now we have like 7 days of child care leaves for both parents which is like a lot right :?

Sorry don't even need child care leave, this was a weekend class but parents nowhere to be seen for prolonged periods according to the teacher, unless we assume parents do shiftwork, then it is possible but lower probability.

[KSP]

2ppaamm:

Also common leh tai Taos can be so busy with their lives the don't even hv time for kids. Sahm and ftwm all must remember our responsibility to our kids is a duty, not a favour don't you think?

Yes, we know our responsibility. But we also can choose to outsource this responsibility. Like
- send them to childcare/student care if we have to work or have other commitments
- send them to tuition/enrichment if we are unable to teach effectively

[2ppaamm]

Hm … Depends lah some outsource until Bo chup completely some outsource but still know what is happening. If won’t even turn up to pick up a kid … A bit too much lah. Kids need to know mum and dad are interested in their lives also.

[mintcc]

as long as not complete outsourcing LOL.


Outsource also must monitor. Also need to remember not to outsource the core functions…