Son feeling fearful about going to school

[Sun_2010]

Yea Liz, have a great time u two!


Things will turn around for the better soon.

:celebrate:

[marionmae]

I guess, by being alone it adds up to his fear. You should make time for your kid as well. Transfer him to another class or to a different school. I don't think it is right to left him alone. Have someone accompany him while you are not home.


It would be difficult for him to adjust if he will still be alone at home and no one to talk to about school if he goes home. Avoid also blaming yoursel for having no time for him. You attract what you project, so the outcome is very much determined by your behaviour.

Possibly you should also take some feedback from other students or his classmates about his teacher. If you choose to live him alone I guess it would be better to send your child to http://www.teen-boarding-school.com/teen-boarding-schools/boarding-schools-for-boys.html wherein he would be supervised 24hrs a day. Aside from that he will be taught good values as he grow.

[Pen88n]

Liz,


I feel that Ryan is a very good and indept boy, and he is trying his best to cope. However, things can be a little over-whelming for him given that:
1. new school, new teachers (and a fierce form teacher)
2. new student care
3. having dinner alone, coming home and being alone

After all, he is only 7 and P1. All the new environment and sometimes some "unhappy" event in school would create some fear in him. He comes home and realises he is alone and he has no one to turn to to confide his fears and feelings. That may be a little too daunting for a P1 kid.

It’s a good idea if you can talk to your boss about having an earlier time off work, so that you can tend to your kid. Offer to do some work from home at night if needed, to ensure work is completed and not left undone. Alternatively, offer to take up / assist in some work that can be done from home at night.

Another suggestion would be to ask if any of your neighbour(s) is willing to assist in looking after Ryan for that 2 hours before you are home. It would be best if your neighbour has kids of his age (or a little older) that can keep him company and he will not feel being alone then.

Hope this helps.

[Liz_Ryan]

Hi everyone...


Thank you so much for your kind advice and opinions... I swear I really appreciate that...

Have not gotten time to actually reply as I was too busy with so many things lately.

But, you know, thank God, my management has allowed me to leave office one hour earlier now.

And it is so amazing how much difference it does make a difference to my boy.

Having to travel from Changi North, it wud take me 2 hours to travel with public transport... But the latest i wud reach home will be 7.15pm

He wud still reach home before me though. But it feels good to tell him that i'm in the train approaching home soon.

Nowadays he'll tell me he'll go take shower first, wait for me to come back, and take him out to dinner.

It's really like a burden off my chest.

Thanx so much, guys, again, for your kind advice.......

Love u all!!!!

[ttanwh]

Hi there ,


i agree its not easy to manage 30 plus student for a teacher. But as a teacher they have to understand each student and then engage them.

this is P1 kids just entering a new phase in school life. Thus , for your case speak to the form teacher and address your concern . listen and discuss a better way to aproach for now the kid is having a stigma in him ( fear of teacher )

if situation is not improving approach principal and have open discussion how to address this concern