All About Full-Time Maids

[hquek]

jennykhots:

Wow, it's really scary to read the same old stories on maid doing business with BF. My maid has been with us for 6 years now, WP expiring in Dec 10. I would grade her 7 on a scale of 10. Two days ago, she just forgotten to turn the gas stove to OFF & strangely she could not detect smell of gas for 2hours. Today, didn't remember to lock the wooden door jbefore retiring to bed. My mum says its because she is pinning to go home so that's why she is not focusing on her work nowadays.

Dec leaving already mind flown back to country? Perhaps you need to talk to her....if it's 1/2 months, I understand. My ex-maid (with me for 5 years) - when she start acting blur/distracted, I know it's time for me to let her call home. She is the zi dong type so I'll paid for her calls home. Think her upbringing is good cos after some speaking with her family, she'll revert back to normal.

In any case, I would be nervous leaving the gas stove on for more than 3 min....would have been stark raving mad. If she had turned on ONE switch....BOOMZ.

[NicHei]

carebear:

NicHei:

hi peapot, it happened to me also, I have to pay the agent fees all over agin when I change agent. The 1st agent only refund me the maid's prorated salary (loan) and the insurance. The agent that am having now, allows me to pay PD cheque for maid.. Haiz, I can understand how you fee;, but somtimes really a no choice thing.

Which agency was that?
It is kind for them to do so.
I thought agencies will not refund you what you have paid them.
Also the insurance company refund you? Which company is that?

The maid was transfer out, so logically, since the maid is going to a new employer, the new employer have to bear her outstanding loan and not me.. The agent is doing the pro-rated insurance for me. As for the agent service, i will not rate them good.

[Si Si]

Hi Jennyknots- Peapot is right.Previously, I had Indo maids n now am into my 2nd Myanmeres maid. My 1st myan maid was vain.Nail varnish, plucked eyebrows, makeup, high heels etc n once on off day wore a transparent top. I insisted tt she changed for some modesty n to avoid inviting trouble. She was finally sent home after deceiving me 4 times with 4 different hps even though I hv stated very clearly no hps on work days.


Myan maids generally has language barrier thus caused communication hiccups. It took me abt 1 yr to finally train my present helper 6/10 but not without lots of demands (eg.advance payment, more day offs, Christmas off, need to send more $ for *&%#@-almost the whole village ) n emotionally high-maintainence. They r also quite a prideful lot (recently I managed to convince her n she finally admitted).My 2 friends'; MIL all confirmed this trait.

There is also a group of them who are ready to come here to look-see for 2 years, like a stepping stone to some other jobs esp the higher-qualified n English-speaking ones. Waitressing, clerk, manicurist etc.

So if they hv more pluses than minuses while working for us, just close one eye or even both if needs be at times.

[peapot]

SiSi, yup one of myanmar maid wore a low cut top and serve coffee to my hubby in the morning before she goes for her off day. Her entire bra and breast can be seen because she bent slightly to serve the coffee. I was fuming mad!! Right infront of my hubby, I told her off " change your clothes now, you want to wear low cut clothes please go and change it in public toilets. When you are still in my house you wear non-revealing clothes!! It does not mean its your off day I have no say in what you wear! Before you come home you better change back to the non-revealing clothes. These are my house rules!!"

[hquek]

peapot:

SiSi, yup one of myanmar maid wore a low cut top and serve coffee to my hubby in the morning before she goes for her off day. Her entire bra and breast can be seen because she bent slightly to serve the coffee. I was fuming mad!! Right infront of my hubby, I told her off \" change your clothes now, you want to wear low cut clothes please go and change it in public toilets. When you are still in my house you wear non-revealing clothes!! It does not mean its your off day I have no say in what you wear! Before you come home you better change back to the non-revealing clothes. These are my house rules!!\"

I wonder what she would say if you told her matter of factly, \"I can see your 'nehneh'\" (sorry for being crass)....

had a friend who prohibited even no-sleeve blouses for her maids at home.

[peapot]

hquek, I did say that!! I said I can see your entire breast and bra right before my hubby! I wanted to embarrass her so that she will learn her lesson but she just smiled. Can you imagine?? which woman will allow a maid to show their assets to their own husband??

[hquek]

peapot:

I wanted to embarrass her so that she will learn her lesson but she just smiled. Can you imagine?? which woman will allow a maid to show their assets to their own husband??

wah, that one dangerous...I would think she did this on purpose....try luck. Would agree that I would not be able to take it (ie angry lah, not the other type of cannot take it). Me wonder what her upbringing is.

My ex-Indo maid refused to wear shorts that are above her kneecaps. For once I was very grateful that her parents are devout muslims.

[autumnbronze]

hquek:

My ex-Indo maid refused to wear shorts that are above her kneecaps. For once I was very grateful that her parents are devout muslims.

Same same. Recently when I brought her out to buy some shorts, she reminded me that she didn't wear such shorts when I picked one that was just reaching the kneecaps.

As I have mentioned before lah ... sometimes the kind of maid you get also depends on their family backgrd also.

[autumnbronze]

lovekidsverymuch:

Yes I agree the background maters but I also seen ppl getting drastically changed by seeing things around them here anyways they dont have to tell their parents bout it

Hi lovekidsverymuch,

Yes, I agree with that too.

That is why we wanted someone w/o off day and no h/p and it is going to be non-negotiable when she renews her contract with us. If she is not agreeable, then we'll just have to look for another. That doesn't guarantee anything, but at least it minimizes them going 'wayward'. She does does things behind my back, but its been nothing serious to cause any 'damage' so to speak or warrant any reprimands or made her a worse off person than when she first started with us . That said, I am only speaking from my experience with my helper

[carebear]

I will tell my maids starting from the day that i hire them that they are to dress modestly, ie no sleeveless tops, shorts must not be too short and no figure hugging clothes. So far no problem, cos maybe i also dress conservatively. Also they are not to talk to sir. If they need anything, they must ask me first.