In-law problems?

[buds]

hquek:

Haiz...dun put yourself down - losing confidence in yourself is half the battle lost. FYI, I understand that some men like 'bah bah' women....it's not fun embracing a bag of bones okie?

:lol: Naah. I'm not. This wan was just reflection of before weight loss. :lol:
Said more in jest than anything else. Frankly, lose confidence... i definitely
DID. I virtually crashed. But as weeks gone by, via support system
reading up motivational books, self-help books, talking abt it, reflecting...
all these helped build immunity. So i managed to come back with a bigger
bang. (i think) And a neu less fat bod... that jedamum saw... hahahaa. I
WAS kinda the whale. I needed that wake up call aniwae. Thanks to that
remark, it drove towards a newer me. Not perfect still but better. I feel
less lethargic these days as compared to rabbit days.

hquek:

remember that ancient beauties were typically plumpy plumpy. It's the modern day interpretation that got them thin as sticks.

There are two camps in modern day interpretation. And somehow the
in betweens got lost somewhere in the forest. Its either the camp with
mo gui de shen cai or the camp with the chopsticks. Such modern day
interpretations do not help indeed. Cause in reality not many can afford
to botox or go for aesthetic surgical procedures or worse, starve. I hafta
watch my health more so this time around since i now know the
repercussions weight loss can have on me.

In short, whatever shortcomings that were said of me i rose up to it and
proved i was woman enough to see things through. Whatever ppl said tt
i was this and i was that... i reflected and fine tuned when i found that it
indeed cud make things better. So instead of going head-on with battle,
i worked my kinks out one way or another. Neither did i shy away from it
and go into denial...

Cos strength of mind and the peace within, help, during times of adversities
in helping to work things out.

[buds]

autumnbronze:

But I know, somehow, that only

when it is dark enough, can you see the stars
Martin Junior King, Jr

Your profound literature finds its way in me and gives me peace. :hugs:

[buds]

smurf:

Heyya Buds,


Sorry, dunno how to comfort you (not good in words), but :hugs: to you. Stay strong!

I will. For myself and my girls. Thank you. :hugs:

[rocklee]

Dear Buds


Whatever drastic move you gonna make next, I hope you can find peace and happiness. You truly deserve it. All the best! Now I dedicate this song to you \" Ming Tian Hui Gen Hao!\"

Cheers

[buds]

Buds is not without compassion. I can compromise if the conditions are

right. Buds is not a hard nut to crack. Buds is just one who survives on
the simple pleasures and happiness life brings. Money we can slowly
find... but happiness, love and family life has to be built from scratch.
And if these matters to him, he'll try his darnest best this time round
to prove he really wants this. Chances that he has asked for has bn
given... now only time can tell if he is dead serious about this new life
he has always been talking about of late... about starting afresh for us
(me and the girls)... about renewing what we already have and making
it stronger... making it more solid foundation to see through the even
more challenging future.

We MUST be together in mind, spirit and actions to see this through. So
far it has mostly been just me. To not abuse this final chance, i've given
a deadline to adhere to. No more hanky pankies and late submission of
assignment. Wanna pass? Make it work! (Influence by Tim Gunn from
Project Runway) :lol:

[buds]

rocklee:

Dear Buds


Whatever drastic move you gonna make next, I hope you can find peace and happiness. You truly deserve it. All the best! Now I dedicate this song to you \" Ming Tian Hui Gen Hao!\"

Cheers

Xie xie..

Yi Ting Hui De! :celebrate:

[Funz]

Hey Buds,


Sorry to hear that you are going through such tough times again.

Hope budhubs buck up and not waste any more opportunities given to him.

[buds]

lovekidsverymuch:

Hey Buds wats ur hubs saying for all this wats his reaction?

I can see he IS indeed working things out.

But not decisive enough yet.

He just backed out on a place we have just viewed
a few nites ago despite oredi stamping THAT was
the one. When he wanted to crawl his way out of
that deal, i just held his hand and said, \"I'm with u.\"
Though it was hard for me to say it. This is one
decision i don't want to make for myself. It's a big
one hence it has to be an affirmative decision from
both of us. I don't want to bear the bane of it resting
on my shoulders.

DD2 was sad that the deal didn't go through and thought
it was her fault, cos we asked her what she thought. She
thought the deal was cancelled cos of what she said. My
poor DD. I assured her it will NEVER be her fault. She just
says, \"I just want the 4 of us to be together.\" To that, i
replied, \"Me too sweetie... me too..\" God knows how much
i want this to work. That night she went to bed praying God
will help the agent find a better house than the one cancelled
so that our small family can be together.

Ok... now you all can go weep. I oredi did..

Chowz guys.. going to send DD2 to school now. Catcha guys
later.. Thanks for all the PMs and the inputs, the different
perspectives, the strength, the candour... everything.

These keeps me going more than you know.. stay with me k.

[buds]

Funz:

Hey Buds,


Sorry to hear that you are going through such tough times again.

Yeh boi.. AGAIN is quite the word ain't it. :lol:

Funz:

Hope budhubs buck up and not waste any more opportunities given to him.

He better not. I'm already job searching and interviewing and that
gives him the creeps. :rotflmao: I'm independent and i want him to
remember that i don't necessarily need a man to live this life. Hehe.
But the sex part i need him lar.. :rotflmao: But focus.. focus... thats
not what's important now. :lol:

He is a very good man. Just too indecisive when it comes to us. And
this time i want to see the decisive MAN in him. To us.

He is not perfect. Nobody is. But he IS perfect for me. I do hope i am
for him too. Only time will tell huh.. I'm :xedfingers: I guess i too
underestimated how much love i had for him and this marriage.

Do know, that beneath this hard exterior i'm putting up right now...
deep inside i do want this to work out. 10 years doesn't amount up
to nothing. It took me a lot to get here.. so it means a lot. To me at
least. Let's see how things pan out... tick tock... tick tock...

[buds]

lovekidsverymuch:

Yeah really weeping reading all this but i really really pray everything works out and u and gals are happier

Believe me, i am too.