In-law problems?

[buds]

2ppaamm:

buds, you looking for a job meh?

Yep, still sourcing for THEE job.

2ppaamm:

what are you looking to do?

Throw myself back to what i do best lor. Teach.

2ppaamm:

Want to be website editor or not? I got no job to offer at hand, but I think you'll do a great job.

Sure anot. I'm already grappling being class monitor here ya know.. :lol:

[buds]

Busymom:

Hi-5! This is also exactly what I want to say. Just dare-dare charge a bit more and with that added income, easier to afford a new dream place :love:

I dare cause i know i'm good. :lol:
Kekekee.. blowing own trumpet. :roll:
But just so you know, even during interviews
already, potential employers DO say that i am
expensive. Oh well...

[buds]

Busymom:

buds:

[quote=\"Busymom\"]My DS is a fan too! And that was from the avatar-days and till today, if he sees that I am here, he would say that he wants to see the BANANA!

Another cute one... Eh how come another boy fan. :?

yah loh, how come only male... :? must be your x-factor at work :lol: :lol: [/quote]:lol:

Busymom:

buds:

Dear Busymom, despite being forever the busy you i appreciate you
coming here dropping me this note. :hugs:

For you, anytime, k? :hugs:

As the Chinese saying goes, every house has its problems and we all have our story to tell (yes, even for those that started as great love stories). You can count on us if you ever need a listening ear or moral support.

I'm SO touched. Wehhh!

Busymom:

buds:

See.. i very soft.

Yes, it's called the soft spot...

Not only one spot. Everywhere oso soft.
No longer the firm banana. Old oredi mah.. :lol:

[buds]

2ppaamm:

Wah... this kind of friendship, hard to find...

Yeah.. priceless. :hugs:

[buds]

mintcc:

Agree with 2ppaamm and jedamum you know You take care gal. I can see that you are stong and capable and hope that things will soon get better for you. Jia you

Thanks mintcc. Wo hui jia you... for now. :hugs:

[pea]

Dear buds, hope things will turn out okay for you.


If you are thinking of moving away from your in-laws (sorry, is that what you're trying to do? I don't have time to scroll through all the posts to get the full gist :oops: ), let me tell you that when I did that, the relationship with my in-laws actually improved! :lol:

But be prepared to put up with less help, eg babysitting. Especially if a third tiny dear comes along... you never know. Mine cited distance as an excuse, so I looked after my kid all by myself.

But for me, it's ok in the end, because less interaction and less dependency on each other means less friction, and so our relationship has remained cool but cordial.

Take care. :celebrate:

[buds]

pea:

Dear buds, hope things will turn out okay for you.

Thanks pea. Sweet of you to drop this note.

pea:

If you are thinking of moving away from your in-laws (sorry, is that what you're trying to do? I don't have time to scroll through all the posts to get the full gist :oops: ), let me tell you that when I did that, the relationship with my in-laws actually improved! :lol:

Wuah, dis i reali cannot sum up for you. It's just too much. IL problem
slowly and eventually became a marital problem and i'm giving hubs a
chance to get us out of this rut by allowing us to start afresh. Frankly,
i dun care anymore what kind of relationship i have with my ILs animore
especially MIL, cos she has been very very very mean to me to my face
and what more behind my back. It is hard for me to look up to an elder
who tries all ways and means to carry tales (untruths) to make a couple
come into arguments... to create a rift between husband and wife.

So to answer your question, what i am really trying to do, is salvage what
is left of my sanity and patience to keep my marriage together... provided
that is what hubs want for himself too. I am just beyond exhausted with
all the endless and nonsensical charades and problems already... To date
i have been the dutiful and loyal wife... have tried my darnest best to be
a respectful DIL... have done all i can to be an understanding SIL to my
BILs and SIL. So, ya lah.. am just exhausted. Family politics can be so
screwed up. At least if in office/workplace one can quit.. i cannot quit
this one... at least not without putting up a fair challenge, to better
shape the future for myself and children.

pea:

But be prepared to put up with less help, eg babysitting. Especially if a third tiny dear comes along... you never know. Mine cited distance as an excuse, so I looked after my kid all by myself.

Babysit? I cannot bear thinking of leaving my kiddies in their hands. Never.
I quit my job cos 2nd one came along and i was down with a reliable
helper, my mum. And no two ways about it, i resigned from my job when
i was at the peak of my career until today. In my case, that was the BEST
decision. Especially for my children.. it was a difficult decision to make but
it's definitely worth it when i think of it now. Knowng how tight (close) my
girls and i are right now, no regrets.

pea:

But for me, it's ok in the end, because less interaction and less dependency on each other means less friction, and so our relationship has remained cool but cordial.

I've NEVER depended ANYTHING on my ILs. The only thing i depend on
is that they WILL turn up when the 1st appt day arrives. They have not
supported the idea of moving out. Still wanting to stay together. Well, at
least FIL is open but he wants $... MIL has been darn outright not keen..
They've done nothing to help spruce up or clean up the house for that
matter when we bring ppl in for viewing. My girls, hubs and i were left
to scrub floors shiny clean, clear unwanted stuff, make the rooms nice
and bright so potential clients have a nice feel entering the house. I
have been having weeks of continuous backache working the floors
amongst others even on period days which makes it worse. My girls
felt so bad for me, they pitched in to help.

So now, without a successful sale of this current hole, there is no way
i can get out of this house. Wish me luck... i reali need that. :xedfingers:

pea:

Take care. :celebrate:

I will, pea. Thank you for dropping by with your concern.
I appreciate it very much. :hugs:

[buds]

pea:

Especially if a third tiny dear comes along... you never know.

:faint:

[Busymom]

buds:

So to answer your question, what i am really trying to do, is salvage what
is left of my sanity and patience to keep my marriage together... provided
that is what hubs want for himself too. I am just beyond exhausted with
all the endless and nonsensical charades and problems already... To date
i have been the dutiful and loyal wife... have tried my darnest best to be
a respectful DIL... have done all i can to be an understanding SIL to my
BILs and SIL. So, ya lah.. am just exhausted. Family politics can be so
screwed up. At least if in office/workplace one can quit.. i cannot quit
this one... at least not without putting up a fair challenge, to better
shape the future for myself and children.

:ugogirl:

buds:

My girls felt so bad for me, they pitched in to help.

They are such sweet darlings. :love: :love:

buds:

So now, without a successful sale of this current hole, there is no way
i can get out of this house. Wish me luck... i reali need that. :xedfingers:

Wish you aplenty of luck and you will soon find that new place and also sell the present one at a good price. :xedfingers:

[foreverj]

buds:

I've NEVER depended ANYTHING on my ILs. The only thing i depend on
is that they WILL turn up when the 1st appt day arrives. They have not
supported the idea of moving out. Still wanting to stay together. Well, at
least FIL is open but he wants $... MIL has been darn outright not keen..
They've done nothing to help spruce up or clean up the house for that
matter when we bring ppl in for viewing. My girls, hubs and i were left
to scrub floors shiny clean, clear unwanted stuff, make the rooms nice
and bright so potential clients have a nice feel entering the house. I
have been having weeks of continuous backache working the floors
amongst others even on period days which makes it worse. My girls
felt so bad for me, they pitched in to help.

So now, without a successful sale of this current hole, there is no way
i can get out of this house. Wish me luck... i reali need that. :xedfingers:

hi buds
u mean u r selling the current place? wat abt the in-laws? where r they gg to stay? dun tell me move in with u? :!: cannot be right, then wats the point?

btw dear, left a note earlier for u but think u didn't catch it. just wanted to let u know i'm ing for u fren :love: pray u'll be able to live the life that u n the girls deserve very soon