In-law problems?

[Busymom]

buds:

But what future beholds, one will never know, ain't it.
Though i don't go by this, there is such a phrase...
rules/promises are meant to be broken.

If that happens, then go break his legs or whatever at that point :x ... ok, kidding, I know you love him too much to do that...

buds:

Busymom:

P/S: Is there any way that he could get that place for them (rather than leaving it to them?)

Yes, he can. They would sure be willing to as long as hubs shows them
the money. Money money money. Who doesn't want money... Even the
youngest BIL held out his hand for money when he was told to paint his
own room, during the time we were in the midst of spruce-ing up the plc.

I can't stand younger siblings like that (cos in my family, I grow up without that kind of expectation... ). DH used to spoil his rotten (lucky now working already), and in the initial years of our marriage, there were always those money issues with his side that till today, I don't wish to talk about it... that's why I never post here... hee hee.

Financial resources are always limited. An alternative that you might want to consider is: you and buds_hubs go rent a place of your own. Use the money that you are going to have from selling the current place to buy a new house for PILs. I know this is easier said than done, especially there's a lot of money involved. But hey, what is money if you can't have peace and happiness. Once the PILs have a roof over their head, it is easier for you both in future to buy another place without worrying about them moving in with you.

Also, I don't know about the different COV between small and bigger flats, but I have 1 small advice, purely from the point of view of a \"little woman\" (i.e. petty woman): don't buy a big place for yourselves now. That would only encourage the rest of the family to find excuses to bump in. Get the smallest possible, best just 2-bedrooms type, 1 room for you and buds_hubs and 1 for your DDs...

[buds]

2 rooms cannot open classes for you all.. Kekekee.. :politebleah:


This viewing tonight may be IT. Cos hubs said he saw US (in future)
with it. And got cheek to say that the US included a lil neu addition
as well. :faint:

At my :faint:, he said if it's finally a boy he'll need a room of his own.
So that'll DEFINITELY help with auto answer. :lol:

I asked, \"If girl again leh.. will i disappoint you not having one to carry on your family name?\"

His reply, \"Boy or girl doesn't matter. It's still ours and we'll love him/her no matter what.\"

Glib tongue!

Then he added, \"Then, our turn to show off pulak!\"

I can't help but go :rotflmao:

[buds]

autumnbronze:

saying a little prayer for you ......

Thanks darling.. i'll need it. :snuggles:

Hope God can hear all of these voices too.

:xedfingers:

[buds]

Busymom:

If that happens, then go break his legs or whatever at that point :x ... ok, kidding, I know you love him too much to do that...

Ya know me too well liao, Busymom... despite your busy-ness.

Busymom:

P/S: Is there any way that he could get that place for them (rather than leaving it to them?)

buds:

Yes, he can. They would sure be willing to as long as hubs shows them the money. Money money money. Who doesn't want money... Even the youngest BIL held out his hand for money when he was told to paint his own room, during the time we were in the midst of spruce-ing up the plc.

Busymom:

I can't stand younger siblings like that (cos in my family, I grow up without that kind of expectation... ). DH used to spoil his rotten (lucky now working already), and in the initial years of our marriage, there were always those money issues with his side that till today, I don't wish to talk about it... that's why I never post here... hee hee.

Oooh.. you don't say... I have PLENTY of that too. But also like you
i choose not to. :roll: It'll open a helluva can of worms! :!: Once i go into
that i think all of you here would tell me to migrate to New Zealand.. or
further! :lol: My oredi current and never ending dramas of MIL alone are
enough to print 5 thick books like 2ppaamm said! :rotflmao: A movie
block buster in the making too perhaps? :idea: Hehee.. women just
dig watching the abused DIL shows don't they? :lol: Look at how the
Korean tele-dramas are booming. Slllllooooow-er than snails' pace the
episodes go, but still ppl watch.

I honestly CAN'T stand it too! Just riles me up even thinking about it! :x

Busymom:

Also, I don't know about the different COV between small and bigger flats, but I have 1 small advice, purely from the point of view of a \"little woman\" (i.e. petty woman): don't buy a big place for yourselves now. That would only encourage the rest of the family to find excuses to bump in.

Petty woman? :lol: Hahahaaa.. so cute you.

Hubs made his stand on this. No bumpers or campers. Zilch.
But.... we'll see how it pans out lar hor.. now still too early to tell. :evil:

[tree nymph]

Buds,

did your ILs contribute money to buy this current place? what was the percentage? just be fair to everybody, when you sell the house, just give them back the same percentage lor. They can still buy a HDB themselves - they form a family unit together!

I’m also looking at the West area…

[MMM]

buds:

I asked, \"If girl again leh.. will i disappoint you not having one to carry on your family name?\"

Buds... it's not your fault for not carrying a son. It's the man that determines it. So stop putting the pressure on yourself.

[buds]

Thanks, MMM. I just wanted to be sure that HE doesn't fault me for it. :lol:

Since.... well, his parents sorta insinuates that it is.

For me... i'm easy. Better still if dun have anymore. Not to disappoint
the gahmen, but childbearing has more to it than meets the eye.
It's the future we're carrying in us ya know.. not just anyhow carry and pop!

Yap, dun pressure myself.. :snuggles:

It's HIS fault! :laugh:

[foreverj]

lovekidsverymuch:

Busymom:

Also, I don't know about the different COV between small and bigger flats, but I have 1 small advice, purely from the point of view of a \"little woman\" (i.e. petty woman): don't buy a big place for yourselves now. That would only encourage the rest of the family to find excuses to bump in. Get the smallest possible, best just 2-bedrooms type, 1 room for you and buds_hubs and 1 for your DDs...

Yeah totally forgot about if the house is bigger Il's or the relatives can again come n stay :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: then again the same problem will start

absolutely! i know a fren who chose to buy a 80+sq metre flat after marriage so that its too small for anyone else to move in. hehe... must give it to her for the \"far-sightedness\" and \"great perception\".

[foreverj]

buds:

Thanks, MMM. I just wanted to be sure that HE doesn't fault me for it. :lol:

Since.... well, his parents sorta insinuates that it is.

For me... i'm easy. Better still if dun have anymore. Not to disappoint
the gahmen, but childbearing has more to it than meets the eye.
It's the future we're carrying in us ya know.. not just anyhow carry and pop!

Yap, dun pressure myself.. :snuggles:

It's HIS fault! :laugh:

so long as dh dun mind, i think its completely fine. anyway, dun u think the dd s are the ones who care more abt the parents, who wil think of bringing the parents out, giving them treats, buying new clothes while the sons take care of their in-laws cos follow the wives? i must confess i m generalising here but this is what i observe currently leh...maybe its the closeness bet mother and daughter :?

[Busymom]

buds:

Busymom:

Also, I don't know about the different COV between small and bigger flats, but I have 1 small advice, purely from the point of view of a \"little woman\" (i.e. petty woman): don't buy a big place for yourselves now. That would only encourage the rest of the family to find excuses to bump in.

Petty woman? :lol: Hahahaaa.. so cute you.

Must teach you to be more petty mah... otherwise always kanna bullied

buds:

Hubs made his stand on this. No bumpers or campers. Zilch.
But.... we'll see how it pans out lar hor.. now still too early to tell. :evil:

Good! So happy to hear that! :celebrate: