In-law problems?
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janet_lee88:
Indeed, there is..... My ILs are experts in that fieldlovekidsverymuch,
The paternal grandparents want recognition without effort or love put in. Is there such a thing ?
Hope your throat is better
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auntieM,
My throat is much better today...thanks for asking
Still trying to breathe bcos the nose is blocked.
The paternal grandmother always ask my kids who she is...as if she is some big deal. My son replies her, 'you are my daddy's mother'. Then she asks the same question again and gets the same reply. What the heck is she hoping to hear ? -
janet_lee88:
Very very big deal, and about the only deal lah!auntieM,
My throat is much better today...thanks for asking
Still trying to breathe bcos the nose is blocked.
The paternal grandmother always ask my kids who she is...as if she is some big deal. My son replies her, 'you are my daddy's mother'. Then she asks the same question again and gets the same reply. What the heck is she hoping to hear ?
Mine repeatedly ask for DS school name and timing over the years too!
Wait till one day your son add 'ONLY' and say 'you are only my daddy's mother'.... -
auntieM:
Janet,
Very very big deal, and about the only deal lah!janet_lee88:
auntieM,
My throat is much better today...thanks for asking
Still trying to breathe bcos the nose is blocked.
The paternal grandmother always ask my kids who she is...as if she is some big deal. My son replies her, 'you are my daddy's mother'. Then she asks the same question again and gets the same reply. What the heck is she hoping to hear ?
Mine repeatedly ask for DS school name and timing over the years too!
Wait till one day your son add 'ONLY' and say 'you are only my daddy's mother'....
think your MIL has identity crisis... maybe she don't know who she is??!!
AuntieM,
wow, like that she will really :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: -
janet_lee88:
Fully agreed. You sow what you reap. They assume they'll automatically be loved since the grandchildren bear their family name. The kids are very simple, the more time you spend with them, the closer they'll be with you. There's no shortcut.lovekidsverymuch,
The paternal grandparents want recognition without effort or love put in. Is there such a thing ?
My parents earned DD's love by taking care of her when she was a baby til 2.5 years old. MIL on the other hand, is healthy enough to travel around the world (she went on a safari in africa during CNY!) but too weak to babysit
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Now DD will from time to time pick up the phone and call gong gong & po po to chat. She never calls nai nai, unless forced upon by daddy. She also likes to do some drawings, put in an envelope and asks me to mail to my parents. To my parents, these are their greatest rewards.
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auntieM:
better than calling her a stranger :lol:Very very big deal, and about the only deal lah!
Mine repeatedly ask for DS school name and timing over the years too!
Wait till one day your son add 'ONLY' and say 'you are only my daddy's mother'.... -
Last night,
My son asked me why the paternal grandmother always ask '我是谁?'
So I told him, say 'you are daddy's mother'.
Oh yes, my son told me this, 'Mummy, I think she has a problem. She doesn't know who she is'. :rotflmao:
Kids are really simple...if you know what they like to eat, show them love, they will react in the same way. -
lovekidsverymuch,
The paternal grandmother prefer boys…but has never done anything to get my boy’s attention (only grandson), doesn’t even know what he likes to eat. Now whenever hubby calls his mother, he ‘escapes’ somewhere asap. I never teach him tat. -
lovekidsverymuch,
my daughter is still very young (5+) and calls the paternal grandmother when daddy tells her to. My boy is 10 and knows the difference between maternal and paternal grandmother…from young, he is not comfortable with the paternal one bcos she is not warm and her tone is harsh towards children. -
Children can feel and differentiate between people who love them and those who just want them to know who they are ‘我是谁’. I can’t stand that either. :x Sorry man, if no effort is put in, forget about your status. So what if kids bear their surname.
Pampering them blindly in return for attention won’t work in the long run.
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