All About Full-Time Maids
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carolsoh
I applaud you. I also prefer to send maid home than to agency. I refuse to let them bend me to their will by refusing to listen to instructions, spoil my things, say stupid things like can’t cook after cooking for 3 weeks.
They do all this on purpose to force us to transfer them…the whole world is helping them including our MOM. They can transfer unlimited times…employer has to attend interview and class or black mark if change more than a few maids???
All we want is a maid that will follow instructions, so that we can trust them to take care of our household…who wants to keep changing maids??? But these maids come in with a mentality of doing their worst until they find an employer that would bend to their will and accept the least…of course maid standard drop and drop…
If we are willing to accept such low standards and bad maids and just transfer them, why should they work any harder to please us and keep their job? Loads of bad maids just aim to come to Singapore…why would they go else where, where more is expected of them??? -
Totally agree with st2. Salary has doubled but work attitude and skill are still the same as before. After they have finished their loans, just send them back. There is no point passing a bad maid to another house. Why owners transfer 3x in a year get ‘black listed’ but maid can have unlimited transfer?
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st2:
the idiotic methods maids adopt to force employers to return to the agency are countless. honestly MOM should stand on the side of singaporeans. these maids come to Singapore to try out different employers and job scope until they find one they prefer...the best would be working for angmohs...lots of freedom, easy to cook dishes and no need to be very clean.They do all this on purpose to force us to transfer them.....the whole world is helping them including our MOM. They can transfer unlimited times....employer has to attend interview and class or black mark if change more than a few maids?????
All we want is a maid that will follow instructions, so that we can trust them to take care of our household...who wants to keep changing maids??? But these maids come in with a mentality of doing their worst until they find an employer that would bend to their will and accept the least......of course maid standard drop and drop... -
st2:
I agree with you..if the maid attitude and behavior sucks, why let her go to another family and destroy other people's home? I wouldn't want a lousy transfer maid myself. And why must I make it easy for you to just transfer when u make my life difficult from the minute you start work for me? :mad:carolsoh
I applaud you. I also prefer to send maid home than to agency. I refuse to let them bend me to their will by refusing to listen to instructions, spoil my things, say stupid things like can't cook after cooking for 3 weeks.
They do all this on purpose to force us to transfer them.....the whole world is helping them including our MOM. They can transfer unlimited times....employer has to attend interview and class or black mark if change more than a few maids?????
All we want is a maid that will follow instructions, so that we can trust them to take care of our household...who wants to keep changing maids??? But these maids come in with a mentality of doing their worst until they find an employer that would bend to their will and accept the least......of course maid standard drop and drop...
If we are willing to accept such low standards and bad maids and just transfer them, why should they work any harder to please us and keep their job? Loads of bad maids just aim to come to Singapore.....why would they go else where, where more is expected of them???? -
Asking fellow mummies for your opinions...
My mum's maid worked for her for almost 6 months and in the 6 months she has threatened us to send her home quite a few times already. Each time it's all because we told her off for doing something wrongly, then she show us black face and said she wanted to go home. Then after a few days when she \"cooled\" down she is back to normal.
This evening, again she threatened my mum to send her home. All because my mum confronted her regarding the way she washes the non-stick pan. I bought the pan for my mum and it's rather new, used for about 2-3 months only. Then one day I discovered that the entire pan is full of scratches. Asked her what happened and she said she dunno. Then I told her she cannot use the metal sponge to wash the pan because it will scratch it. Then she accused my mum of being the one who scratched the pan using the metal sponge. So I asked my mum and my mum said she did not use the metal sponge to wash, in fact my mum did not even wash that pan. When confronted she became very defensive and started arguing with us. Finally, she just walked away even before we finish talking. Then after that she told my mum she wanted to go home! :slapshead:
Very sick of her attitude and behavior. Every time when something goes wrong, she always denies that she is the one at fault (example, accidentally bleaching my colored shorts).. Or she will just say DUNNO. If she got caught red-handed then she will argue and show black face then later threaten us to send her home.
My mum is quite fed up already cos she has been doing this many times in her 6 months of employment. After threatening my mum, she has the cheek to tell her that she is happy working here, just that she cannot take when we tell her off for the mistakes she make! :siao:
Then like that how can she work here? Or anywhere? If she makes mistakes and we cannot point out her mistakes? What kind of theory is that? And we did not even raise our voice at her or scold her. Just told her what not to do next time and like that she cannot take it.
Should my mum just send her home as she requested? Cos really cannot stand her nonsense anymore. Every now and then come and kick up a fuss and threaten us.
Anyone face this kind of problematic maid? By the way she is 36 y.o. Heard from people that older maids tend to be like that. My mum chose her because thought older maids to be more matured.. :slapshead: turns out also not matured... -
Getting a good maid depends a lot on luck.
In this case, your maid have the idea that she can easily find jobs in SIN, so she adopts this attitude problem.
Without any doubt, kindly do what she says - send her back. I bet she will start crying n begging you not to do so.
Why should you pay to have a whole load of problems n unnecessary stress? -
zbear,
Just brought her back to the agent and guess what, she said she wanted to work and complete her contract now! U say she crazy or not? :siao: last night make a fuss say want to go home then now she said want to stay. Then when agent question her a few more times she said she think she wants to go home... :mad:
Fed up, she think we are very free issit? Every now and then keep changing her mind... :stupid:
Tell me, this kind of maid, doesn't she have some attitude and behavioral problem? She cannot take it that people tell her she made a mistake then how can she still work? She better be a boss. -
It will be a matter of time before she give you problem again ,she obviously doesn’t know what she wants
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JJ Chan:
The maid complained that my mother-in-law told her to wash & iron my father-in-law, mother-in-law and my single sister-in-law’s clothing, clean their bedrooms and washed my father-in-law’s car.
Question is - did your mil really asked the maid to do all those things?
Previously, when I had a maid, we also bring our maid to my mother's place with the kids enroute to work everyday n bring her back at night. We make sure that we communicate to the maid before we hire her abt this arrangement n also roughly what she has to do at my mom's plc, n get her agreement. Also, my mom will only ask her to do things related to my kids or us, employers only, not for herself or my dad. But if maid is willing to help, we are ok and my parents will 'reward' the maid with some stuff (like food/snacks or toiletries/clothings) for her effort.
Sorry to say, but some of the things mentioned above did border infringing MOM law, if the maid really did those stuff upon your mil's instructions. And, for your info, washing car is not considered 'domestic duties'. This 'rule' is a common knowledge amongst maids (all nationalities) and employers alike. I know some people pay their maids extra (under table) to wash their cars.
Your maid probably hear from other maids on her 1st off day and feels that she has been short-changed. -
chixchix:
It will be a matter of time before she give you problem again ,she obviously doesn't know what she wants
Ya, I normally do not keep a maid who tells me she wants to change employer. Worse if she flip-flop, one moment want to leave and other moment want to stay. I feel threatened, don't know when she is going to do something funny 'cos her heart is not with my family anymore. I will usually go look for another maid silently and then send the current maid out once I found one.
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