Finding a good maid is hard this days. There was a time I used to change maids frequently ,now i have learnt to compromise. Usually when helper is good, people say good things about Agency , if the helper is bad, Agency gets the blame.

However we need to ask ourselves, do you think the agency would know how the maid attitude is when they give us the maid ? ok, there are some "bad" agencies out there but not all are like this.

I have 2 maids now from the same agency and even recommended to some mummies here and also , relatives. Most are happy . I think basically Employers also must know what they want and be reasonable. When I tell my maid no HP, i always tell them the reason but yet I do give them a mobile and my own SIM so that when they take my kids to school there is a mobile. Trust has to be given there, and so far it has not been abused.

Initially when they just came, I need advice ,i would check with my agent and she has never ignored me. This is what I call after sales service.Sometimes, she educates me on how to do things right too.

Actually I feel that when you get a bad maid ,it doesn’t mean the agency is bad [/list]…attitude of the maid is more dependant on her own personality. but very important is the agency is willing to help us solve our problems when we do have issues . Some agencies won’t even bother helping or advising when they have handed over the maid to you.


I have tried the "branded " agencies in Singapore. and they just are more business minded where as the current agency where i have taken 2 helper from and also recommended my friends ,they are more " relationship minding " Staff are friendly, boss is friendly too. any time i needed any advise, they were there ,either by phone or even sms .

recently my friend who took a filipina from them also mentioned that they were giving spa voucher since she just sign up.

One of my friends maid was working for 10 people in the HDB and overworked ,at night also must take care baby… She called the agency saying that the maid seem unhappy and agency made a friendly call to the helper,well ,the agent then called my friend and discussed how to ease the load and give a break in between. We are all humans after all. Everyone get tired working 9 to 6 then imagine waking up few times at night to make milk for baby.

Hi all, i have a situation and its driving me insane, hope to get some advise here.


I been married for 13 yrs,have 2 sons now aged 12 and 10. Prior to my marriage I had 1 relationship that last me 5 yrs. When i knew my DH, i did tell him about as i felt it was important that he knows my past.

After 7 years of marriage, he started to hit me, its more of slaps on my face. I always tolerated thinking that things like this is common,however it will happen every few months,when we go overseas he hits me in front of my sons. These are often fights caused by no particular reason, he is always drunk when he hits me ,and he will start saying I had many boyfrds before marriage, ( seems like he also referred to office colleagues as boyfrds ) …The boys are growing up now ,and i don’t want the boys to think it is ok to hit women and disrespect them.

He uses vulgarities when he scolds, at times he spits at me, takes things and throws at me, These are what my boys do to each other when they fight among themselves.

When he gets sober ,the next day he will always say he doesn’t remember anything ,I am kind of sick and tired.I haven’t had the courage to do any PPO against him, until my friends have told me that i need to put a full stop. I don’t even feel safe sleeping in my own house,

Past 2 times he hit me ,I became brave to lodge a police report and medical. Last week after hit me, I went to Family Corner ,and applied for PPO. they said that his copy of court order will be mailed to him, So on 15th april ,i told him that I have done a PPO application and he somehow thought i was joking.In the night he asked me where is the paper he want to see .I kept delaying to show him as i was afraid of his reaction …next morning again he asked , this time ,i send him a pic of the upper part of my Temporary PPO.

He was very upset the whole night and kept drinking beer. He said i had given him the best present of the marriage , he didn’t expect me to apply for PPO. he kept asking me where is his Court Summon, i told him you will receive soon.Actually i received but i was hiding it from him…middle of the night again he became violent with me…My 10yr old who sleeps in my room had to restrain him from me

This morning , same thing happen ,My older one is siting for PSLE this year, i feel sad when i this 2 young kids having to protect me. At the same time ,i don’t want them to see all this drama happening . He tells my sons that i have bad family. he tells them your mother had so many boyfrds.

my court hearing is this Thursday , i am quite afraid to give him his court order. After what happen today , i feel like divorcing him, My friends are telling me i shd move on, but i don’t want to put my kids through unnecessary stress and at the same time , don’t wish to be a punching bag.

What should i do ? I am confused .

The maid agency i use has low transfer rates, but the owner is quite open about the reasons of why the maids are being transferred. and they don’t keep nonsense maids which is good. now they are opening another branch in tanah merah, Service is good, not pushy

what about puberty for boys ?

Hii Kate, you can try my agent Raffles 91812109, the owner and staff recommend you very patiently to an appropriate maid

Hii all can anyone recommend any cruise that goes to Mediterrenean ?

yeah she has tried talking to her husband a last time to let him know that she just wants a happy married life and is not asking for anything so big that he can’t give…but it takes 2 hands to clap …lets see i also can just pray the best for her

bobo99:

Hi all


I was a first time employer who had just given birth 2 weeks when Siti's acts were uncovered and her stunts shown. Thus, couldn't think of the best way to handle it.

My family was too stunned and shocked that she actually dare to climb out of the window and abseil down to 'escape' with her loot. And when she returned again to ask us to take her back, all in our mind was to prevent her from getting close to my baby and taking out the knife etc, as warned by the police officer.

This is SG and not some third world country and she's a woman so we didnt expect all these episodes to happen. Also, she was treated like part of the family; ate salmon, drumsticks, Japanese brand ice-cream, slept in own bedroom with proper bed and mattress, and we even helped her shopped and brought her shopping to buy things back for her family and also arranged the courier for her big carton. Thus, was really a stab in our backs.

I was also very shocked when I received the letter from MOM to inform me that Siti Masidah has been successfully re-employed and new permit has been given.

It's a shocking and rude way to learn how to handle maid for a first timer and we are still learning with the current one.

Before getting her, we read forums on guidelines on what to expect etc but nothing beats real time experience.

Hopefully Siti has learnt her lesson and is good to the current employer

gosh !! luckily my agent is the type who never hesitates to send any of her maid back if they are not serious about working or are doing such nonsense.

By the way what is the usefulness of attending this camps ?