All About Full-Time Maids
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Asking fellow mummies for your opinions...
My mum's maid worked for her for almost 6 months and in the 6 months she has threatened us to send her home quite a few times already. Each time it's all because we told her off for doing something wrongly, then she show us black face and said she wanted to go home. Then after a few days when she \"cooled\" down she is back to normal.
This evening, again she threatened my mum to send her home. All because my mum confronted her regarding the way she washes the non-stick pan. I bought the pan for my mum and it's rather new, used for about 2-3 months only. Then one day I discovered that the entire pan is full of scratches. Asked her what happened and she said she dunno. Then I told her she cannot use the metal sponge to wash the pan because it will scratch it. Then she accused my mum of being the one who scratched the pan using the metal sponge. So I asked my mum and my mum said she did not use the metal sponge to wash, in fact my mum did not even wash that pan. When confronted she became very defensive and started arguing with us. Finally, she just walked away even before we finish talking. Then after that she told my mum she wanted to go home! :slapshead:
Very sick of her attitude and behavior. Every time when something goes wrong, she always denies that she is the one at fault (example, accidentally bleaching my colored shorts).. Or she will just say DUNNO. If she got caught red-handed then she will argue and show black face then later threaten us to send her home.
My mum is quite fed up already cos she has been doing this many times in her 6 months of employment. After threatening my mum, she has the cheek to tell her that she is happy working here, just that she cannot take when we tell her off for the mistakes she make! :siao:
Then like that how can she work here? Or anywhere? If she makes mistakes and we cannot point out her mistakes? What kind of theory is that? And we did not even raise our voice at her or scold her. Just told her what not to do next time and like that she cannot take it.
Should my mum just send her home as she requested? Cos really cannot stand her nonsense anymore. Every now and then come and kick up a fuss and threaten us.
Anyone face this kind of problematic maid? By the way she is 36 y.o. Heard from people that older maids tend to be like that. My mum chose her because thought older maids to be more matured.. :slapshead: turns out also not matured... -
Getting a good maid depends a lot on luck.
In this case, your maid have the idea that she can easily find jobs in SIN, so she adopts this attitude problem.
Without any doubt, kindly do what she says - send her back. I bet she will start crying n begging you not to do so.
Why should you pay to have a whole load of problems n unnecessary stress? -
zbear,
Just brought her back to the agent and guess what, she said she wanted to work and complete her contract now! U say she crazy or not? :siao: last night make a fuss say want to go home then now she said want to stay. Then when agent question her a few more times she said she think she wants to go home... :mad:
Fed up, she think we are very free issit? Every now and then keep changing her mind... :stupid:
Tell me, this kind of maid, doesn't she have some attitude and behavioral problem? She cannot take it that people tell her she made a mistake then how can she still work? She better be a boss. -
It will be a matter of time before she give you problem again ,she obviously doesn’t know what she wants
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JJ Chan:
The maid complained that my mother-in-law told her to wash & iron my father-in-law, mother-in-law and my single sister-in-law’s clothing, clean their bedrooms and washed my father-in-law’s car.
Question is - did your mil really asked the maid to do all those things?
Previously, when I had a maid, we also bring our maid to my mother's place with the kids enroute to work everyday n bring her back at night. We make sure that we communicate to the maid before we hire her abt this arrangement n also roughly what she has to do at my mom's plc, n get her agreement. Also, my mom will only ask her to do things related to my kids or us, employers only, not for herself or my dad. But if maid is willing to help, we are ok and my parents will 'reward' the maid with some stuff (like food/snacks or toiletries/clothings) for her effort.
Sorry to say, but some of the things mentioned above did border infringing MOM law, if the maid really did those stuff upon your mil's instructions. And, for your info, washing car is not considered 'domestic duties'. This 'rule' is a common knowledge amongst maids (all nationalities) and employers alike. I know some people pay their maids extra (under table) to wash their cars.
Your maid probably hear from other maids on her 1st off day and feels that she has been short-changed. -
chixchix:
It will be a matter of time before she give you problem again ,she obviously doesn't know what she wants
Ya, I normally do not keep a maid who tells me she wants to change employer. Worse if she flip-flop, one moment want to leave and other moment want to stay. I feel threatened, don't know when she is going to do something funny 'cos her heart is not with my family anymore. I will usually go look for another maid silently and then send the current maid out once I found one. -
As long as we have a live in maid, we are paying to feel threatened everyday.
Do any of our employers feel that way about us ? -
Hi all,
My helper contract will end in half a year time, we are considering to keep or change her. Heard many stories they start to have many patterns after 2 yrs so wondering if a change will be better?
Can anyone advise what is your maid salary? For new and for experience ones from Indonesia? What is number of off days you allow ur helper?
Want to do some benchmarking. Thank U!! -
Bowie:
If your maid has been serving you well, why would you want to risk getting a new maid? If you look at the data on MOM website, only a minority of new maids last for even a year with one employer.Hi all,
My helper contract will end in half a year time, we are considering to keep or change her. Heard many stories they start to have many patterns after 2 yrs so wondering if a change will be better?
Can anyone advise what is your maid salary? For new and for experience ones from Indonesia? What is number of off days you allow ur helper?
Want to do some benchmarking. Thank U!! -
Hi POA Teacher,
Ya that’s one of my consideration too. She is fine. Of cos with good and bad points. She was new when we got her. Salary $420 basic with 1 day off per month.
When I chat with her today. She says she is looking at $580 basic with 2 days off per month.
My key concern is she is the not so thrifty type. She will spend quite a bit of her salary on herself and hp every month. Alothough she has the whole family to support back in Indo. And whenever she goes out, she will not be herself for a few days after she back… So my concern is with more money and off. She may become bad…And I find the increment she is asking is quite a lot.
Not sure if its market rate??
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