All About Full-Time Maids
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peapot:
So much for their catholic faith huh?Actually its very common for filiphino maids to be single parent. My ex-filipino maid told me that its normal for them to have boyfriend here and a husband in their own country. They are quite liberal in their thinking because they were under spanish rule and the \"ang mo\" culture is assimilated into philippines. Hence English also better than most counterparts.
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My maid saga continues.
Now she said she called back and her sister said she would look after the kids but now my maid wants a transfer which was what I thought she wanted all along.
Also found out her bio-data was not true as she confessed she has transferred once before, meaning I’m her third employer and not her second. After her first stint, she was the one who asked for transfer. After working for second for 1 year odd, she went back for 2 months and joined me. Now after half year, she wants transfer.
I agree that MOM should limit the number of transfers for maids. So irresponsible! -
madinked:
From last year Jan to Nov 2009, total I changed maid 5 times. I was lucky that the 5th time went thu' w/o interview by MOM.My maid saga continues.
Now she said she called back and her sister said she would look after the kids but now my maid wants a transfer which was what I thought she wanted all along.
Also found out her bio-data was not true as she confessed she has transferred once before, meaning I'm her third employer and not her second. After her first stint, she was the one who asked for transfer. After working for second for 1 year odd, she went back for 2 months and joined me. Now after half year, she wants transfer.
I agree that MOM should limit the number of transfers for maids. So irresponsible!
Last year, I was very angry cos from 1st to 4th maid, all wanted to transfer. During the interviewed they said willingly to look after baby and work for you. But when they were here, the longest worked for you 3 mths and asked for transfer.
I was very angry, called up the MOM and asked them why they have limitation for the employer to change maid but NOT to the maid who wanted to transfer. -
peapot & lovekidsverymuch,
I actually did so as I know most families don’t have other adults home to monitor the maid’s movements. Right under my nose (SAHM), she could abuse my kids, I can’t imagine if non-supervised!
She hit my younger DS and threatened him if he cried or told anyone . . . She left many bruises (blood clots) which we warned her hands off, not once but many times! Then as my older can think for himself, she pushes him around literally, letting him fall hard on cabinets, knocking things in his way. I asked her about it but she always denied and lied.
Kept her because my mom refused to let her go, saying that I’m over-reacting and making things up!! :x Right now, felt stupid for listening to my mom as I just realised she doesn’t blink her eyes to abuse as I grew up being abused by her.
Maid also refuses to listen to specific instructions on medication, loves to play doctor. Such behaviour is very dangerous if her new employer isn’t home to monitor her when medicating kids or old folks.
Immediately after she flew off, I tried to bar her re-entry with MOM but since she actually abused my kids, I had to report to the police instead and be followed-up by counseling with their psychologists and full body-checks at the hospital! So much hassle because we were dealing with kids. Thankfully, we were able to lodge police report because there are witnesses (my current maid and I) so she can no longer come back.
Told police I only want to bar re-entry, not press charges but they said if she re-enters, it’s up to them whether or not they’ll press charges as crime is committed on young children.
Out of kindness, I wrote to her and told her that charges has been filed against her. Told her to seek other jobs that doesn’t deal with humans since she lacks the patience. Then to my surprise, she got her friends (neighbors’ maids) to pester my new maid for her number! She also lied to her friends (another bunch of sluts who sleep around during off days and brag about what they do during $ex to each other) that she was barred re-entry because I lied to police that she stole things from my house. Sigh … these Pinays … not my kind of ppl. -
lovekidsverymuch:
U really did good job by reporting it but u shouldnt have mailed her she definitely not those types with whom u can be kind hearted and somemore she beat ur kids :x :x
I sometimes wish my heart can be harder and so I don't get bullied ... ridiculous to be bullied by a maid some more. Kept giving her chances since she owed a lot of $ since she transferred and yet to even pay up 1st employer. :frustrated:
I think she wanted to mess with my new maid as she knows my girl is underage (I only knew of recently). Am glad new maid is a nice girl!
Thankfully, it's all over now! -
Hi blurqueen, Tks for sharing, U really did the right thing for going tru all the trouble to ban yr maid frm coming back. :celebrate: not many employers would go tru all that trouble.
My mum told me about the missing ang pow after a week when she found out, I did not check her bag then. There are only 4 of us at home that dayand my grl wont touch it , that i can confirm. I even doubted my mum but shes rather alert abt money and went tru a lot of searching, thinking etc. before she mention her missing angpow.
My maid does not have an off day and has 19 bucks left frm her last employer. On the first day of cny we gave her ang pow and the next day she asked for a transfer, in the past most maids dnt ask for transfer just after receiving angpow. As a matter of fact they all work better after receiving. No doubt she does nt have a off day, she goes out of the house everyday for marketing or to wash my car. i know its futile to check her bag after a week cos shes quite smart and could hv sent it back to Indonesia as she desperately need money and dont want to go home.
Actually imher third employer, when I frst interviewed her she told me her Ist employer threw her after one month cos she stole bread. She lasted 3 days in her 2nd emplyers place as she claim she couldnt stand the kids there and her employer would not allow her into the kitchen at nite and not allowed to call home unless on special days.(does not own a h|p but intends to buy one.)
My mum could not believe she took the ang pow as she appeared to b a very sweet and soft spoken person and would return all money that she found during washing... Money was also missing frm my mums drawer. a small wallet with a mix of coins, my mum was shocked when she checked the coins, all the one dollar coins was missing leaving behind the smaller ones. My mum is so positive about the coins as there are 12 one dollar coins missing.
We did not accuse her but asked her to help look forthe angpow...suggessted she check plastic bags but she just went thru the motion and dont seem to bother. We decided to keep quiet and occasionally ask whether she saw the angpow when she cleaned the house. She would ask for a transfer if we mention the angpow two days after. My mums just hoping that she would say she found it. She says she feels uncomfortable working with us. 2 weeks back she told my mum not to call the cops or tell the agent anything but my mum did not ask about what.
yesterday she insisted that we take her back to the agent as she no longer wish to continue work and is now on strike. Btw shes now in my kitchen since afternoon and wont do anything.
yesterday my dd found soap in her cup when she filled it up to brush her teeth. I didnt want to ask her cos I know she was not too happy with me yesterday when I mentioned M.O.M,,, I brought the soapy water to the agent and he said to report her to the cops if we wnted to but ppl will laugh at us for doing so. Hes still gonna transfer her the 4th time. I had to take a maid in haste again as my mum needs someone.
The agent says tht if we report it will hinder my application for the new maid so I have kept the soapy water for the cops after my maid is confirmed.
I know i have no evidence but this is just to stop her frm hurting others as my agent wants his loan back and will keep transfering.
What do u advise? -
Hi there,
I have to bring my helper to the embassy to get a 'home leave stamp' on her passport as she is going back for 2 weeks end of March.
As this is the first time I am going down there, can anyone advise me:
1. What is the best time to go there? Early morn? I am planning to make a trip there on this coming monday.
2. What is the procedure once I get there.
3. How long will it take?
4. Do I need to bring anything else besides her passport ie helper's photos etc ..
Thanks for the help in advance
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autumnbronze:
Can't advise you on the above, but you can engage the help of a maid agency to do on your behalf for a fee. But if i am not mistaken if you renew your insurance through them, they may even do it for you FOC.Hi there,
I have to bring my helper to the embassy to get a 'home leave stamp' on her passport as she is going back for 2 weeks end of March.
As this is the first time I am going down there, can anyone advise me:
1. What is the best time to go there? Early morn? I am planning to make a trip there on this coming monday.
2. What is the procedure once I get there.
3. How long will it take?
4. Do I need to bring anything else besides her passport ie helper's photos etc ..
Thanks for the help in advance -
lovekidsverymuch:
moonee,
Thats the whole thing we most of the time dont have evidences.. how to keep evidences :? if u kept the money take a photo then later no money take photo again :?moonee:
I know i have no evidence but this is just to stop her frm hurting others as my agent wants his loan back and will keep transfering.
What do u advise?
Anyways bad maids will never have the job whereever they go as many times as they go so try finding another one and then u can think wat u wanna do with this one...
Wow, must have been real headache for you....
When you speak with the agent, does it help if you record the conversation? My friend appeal with MOM coz quota up for the year. She used video and audio tapes as 'proof' and it helped... -
Ugh. And so my maid problems hasn't ended.
Today, at my mum's, my mum and aunt revealed to me that the maid has cried and said that I have accused her of spoiling the juicer (read my story a few pages back) when actually she heard me opening the tap. She said she merely put the juicer in the sink to clean. But *I* was the one who actually wet the juicer.
I was so angry! Why would I do such a thing? I could use many other things to play this game with her but why would I spoil my juicer just to accuse her? :? And I remembered the moment I saw the juicer, I shouted for her, and I was shaking the juicer hard, for the water to come out. Also, she's the kind who when confronted, and for something she never did, she would deny it vehemently. But when I confronted her about the juicer, she kept quiet. And then went behind my back to tell my mum and aunt. And still told my aunt not to tell me!
I was so disgusted with her that I left her tonight at my mum's because my husband wouldn't be home tonight and I really don't know how to face someone so disgusting. Yes I was all hands and legs handling 3 dogs & a toddler but I must say I'm happy. I feel light.
She wants a transfer, fine. I'm going to send her back to agency on Saturday. I really can't live with someone so fake.
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