How much time should an eight years old spent each day ?

[Love Clouds]

My Dd2 does not like to sit still to study. She needs to play to learn.

Hence, I try playing games with her and so far my method works well for her (getting above 85%).
Maths - do and compete challenging Maths questions with her. Give her points if she has done it correctly (train her accuracy) and faster (train her speed) than me. She can use the accumulated points to either change for more TV time, extra ice-cream, etc.
Chinese - learning the new words for each chapter by forming a story on her own. Children can get very creative with that. I don’t bother about the storyline (it can be crazy or funny) so much but I focus on usage and sentence structure.
English - she reads a lot of books on her own, so I don’t bother to teach.
Science - I send her to a centre with weekly experiments which she enjoys.

I’m a working mum so I can only spare 1 hr a night with her. She will do her school homework in the afternoon and play after that. I believe in quality learning than quantity learning.

[sharonkhoo]

Have you taken him to be assessed for ADHD? For a kid who is trying hard but not able to focus as long as other kids the same age, there is a possibility of some learning disability. If you don’t think it’s that serious, then you can try setting very short periods,eg. 10 mins followed by a 2 min break, and let him work up from there. You can also try to intersperse periods of sitting down to work with other methods which are less ‘sit down’ and see if that helps.

[ammonite]

Old Arbat:

However, I want to be fair to him, and that why I asked how much hours per day for enrichment school/homework is considered reasonable.

Well, I feel two hours, inclusive of tuition, is reasonable. So in the case of tuition, I will consider if tuition is helping to lessen the load, or adding to it. Ideally the tuition should help him cope by strengthening foundation within the allotted time, and also assist in any queries that he may have regarding his homework (assuming the tuition is 1.5 - 2 hours per session). Tuition should not be an extra burden.

He just told me the other day that he wishes he was like a robot and is able to work as fast/efficient as I wanted him to be. He said he cannot help getting distracted.

Consider if he has the right place to work in. I am assuming that he is alone at home and there are no other distractions like TV, radio, noisy siblings etc. Then consider if he gets lonely doing homework. If he does, maybe you can have the use of devices like FaceTime etc where you can check in on him every 45 min or so, or a quick call to make sure he is on track. I had colleagues who did that for their younger kids when I was working. One call when the kids get home, one call when starting homework, one call later to check on status, one call before they go home.

Feeling distracted MAY also indicate that he feels overwhelmed by the task.

On one hand, I can see he is trying hard to please me. On the other hand, he simply cannot do it and not motivated enough to work harder.


I think it is human nature to feel discouraged if we keep failing at something. If you think he is trying hard (isn't that sign of motivation?) then you should look to see if there are underlying factors that he cannot overcome on his own.

He told us he has tried his best but there was not enough time.

Generally for P2, there should be more than enough time for the average child. You can speak to the teachers to understand if he 1) lacks mastery of the subject 2) work very slowly 3) both. You can only find out from the teachers because you do not know the average speed of the cohort. Sometimes being slow is an indication of lack of mastery, other times it is an undetected learning disability. If the latter you have to take some steps to remediate him now because the curve is only going to get steeper.

Both simkhoo and I have kids with dyspraxia - difficulties with handwriting - and there is a clear difference in working speed between the child who has that and a child who doesn't. .

[Old Arbat]

Thanks Love Cloud, slmkhoo and ammonite.


Yes, we suspect he has some form of ADHD. Upon his kindergarten’s teacher recommendations, we have sent him to KK for evaluation. At that time, they said he was too young to be confirmed. Also, as he knows that he has to behave well during these sessions, they think he is unlikely a ADHD, as ADHD cannot control themselves. The question is then, why he cannot controlled in classrooms when I am not around. Beside, I being not around, the school hours are too long for him to be in his self-controlled state. He simply need to burst out.

Actually, it is a struggle for him to do his tests which are 45 mins to 1 hour. I am trying to train him to do mock tests at home for 45 mins and I can see how difficult it is for him to stay focus.

PS> Love Cloud - last weekend, I tried to introduce some "play" elements while he was doing his grammar assessment questions. I do get some positive results. There was less tension and he does his work a little bit faster. Will keep on experimenting. Generally, I am a rather serious person, but will try to loosen up. Thanks

[Bernard_T]

Hi,


Firstly, I will suggest that he has a time plan to follow so at least he is able to have a better idea of what is happening rather than just doing what is needed.

For homework and revision wise, there is no clear line to draw how much time is needed as it depends on the workload. I will suggest anywhere from 1-2 hours maximum for homework from Monday to Friday broken down into two 1-hour time slot with a 15 minutes break in between.

As for his tuition classes, the hours spent in the classes should not exceed 5 hours (3 subjects) a week given his age or he may get bored or burnt out more easily.

During the weekend, it can be adjusted as required. More importantly is that he/she gets enough rest throughout the week (8 hours each day maximum).

Hope it helps