All About Autism
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tyeogh:
No, I think it's because you have boys! I only have 2 girls, and quite tame ones!
I wish I could! Talk over their heads and still date at home. Its more like shouting over their heads every night! LoL. Someone is either killing someone or plotting to kill someone. Its a war zone here. Maybe I am not normal....slmkhoo:
Agree with that. But dating at home isn't really that grim! Just putting the kids to bed early helps a lot. It depends on what you are used to, I suppose. I'm pretty much a home-body and didn't \"paint the town red\" very much even in my single and pre-kids days. I don't think we've lost ourselves in our kids, and we intentionally left the kids to their own devices quite a lot even when they were young and we were at home. They are quite accustomed to us talking to each other over their heads! -
slmkhoo:
The girls are the ones plotting. The boys just kill. Arrrgh! :gloomy:
No, I think it's because you have boys! I only have 2 girls, and quite tame ones! -
Hi
Wanna get some advice here...
I revisit my will n realized it is not well planned. Though I have appointed trustees(my mum n my sis) to take care of the estate n distribution of money till my son turns 25, I am afraid that he might not be able to handle the balance of the money. Googled n found out about http://www.sntc.org.sg/ I am meeting the officer next week to find out more info. May I know has anyone set up trust account with them. Is there any other option besides sntc? -
Hi tyeogh!
I read your post and know that compliance is really an issue with your child. Actually my child is low functioning and compliance is also an issue. I work with her under the guidance of the ABA behaviorists for the last 4 years. Compliance problems are still there but it limits to the situation when I demand a termination of a highly preferred activity.
It is so true that parents of children with ASD need to work harder for the emotional, cognitive and social development of the child.
I have attended a lot of workshops on parent training e.g. Hanen, Floortime, ABA and RDI. I also stay with my child when she goes for therapy to learn how to work with her at home. After 2 years of therapy at a clinic using Floortime strategy, 6 months with a RDI trainer and 4 years with a clinic using ABA strategy. I decided that ABA is the most suitable strategy to teach my child who has very limited language ability (both receptive and expressive), low ability in compliance and short attention span.
Right now, I am pursuing a master degree in ABA with emphasis in Autism. This degree course is very helpful for me to understand autism and to evaluate different approaches of intervention strategies. It also helps me to deal with the behavior problems of my child. -
Hi jme.
I have set up a trust fund for my autistic child with SNTC. I think it is very good. You should set this trust fund for your child. You don’t need to put in a lot of money initially. You should ask how much is minimum amount that you need to put in for opening an account there.
You need to have a will to put your asset or fund into this trust fund when you and your husband are not here. Beside, your can also nominate your child’s account in SNTC as the beneficiary for your CPF account when you are not here. -
What is the difference between this SNTC & buying insurance policy, for the child ?
If parents are gone one day, who will administer this SNTC fund, for the kid ? -
Hi Autumnleaf,
You have PM! -
Hi phtthp.
When a parent pass away and leave $100,000 obtained from the life insurance policy to a child with special needs for his/her daily expenses. Who will keep the $100,000? Sibling? Cousins? The institution which looks after him e.g. a home? Is it possible that this money will be mis-appropriated by the guardian if no one is monitoring this guardian?
SNTC trust fund is to solve this problem. The money that derived from the insurance policy will be going into the trust fund if the parents has made a will to make an arrangement. The guardian will be reimbursed for the expenses for the child e.g. employing a maid, seeing doctor, food and drinks, schools, transportations… The authorized expenses items are determined by the parents before they pass away. There might be a change of service providers 5 to 10 years after the parent had gone, but the power to change the service providers is not left solely to the guardian. SNTC has a team of professionals who will approve the change of authorized expenses items and payees. You should call SNTC to make an appointment with them and to understand fully their power and their service. -
Hi tyeogh!!!
Wait, let me pick up my contact lenses which have just popped out from my eyes! Woah, you really did manage to ‘engineer’ your son to K2! Totally amazing and a salute to both your determination and your son’s quantum learning leap! Hopefully your son will lose his PDD-NOS label in Feb and you will be forced to get your darling son to learn Chinese (which I think your wifey is the one with foresight!)
Regarding dating, I just watched my first movie with my husband last year after my older daughter turned 4.5 years old! You are such a nice hubby because my husband is the wooden block who totally believe marriage is a partnership and romance is overrated! Haiz… My bak-jiu ta stamps (eyes got stamps) during dating time.
But it is also partly my fault as my ex-maid had beaten my daughter’s hands before and bribed her with sweets to shut her up (the new maid who took over her duties witnessed it and told me AFTER that xxx@@!!?? Woman left) so I only dared to go out recently with my hubby as my daughter is now almost 5 years old and will definitely tell me if anything bad happened to her or my son while we are gone! -
Ladies, greatly appreciate your sharing of the phsycologists and clinics that I can try. At least I know where to begin.
Slmkhoo, my DS time management issues seems to be because he is just so laid back that he doesn’t realise each day theres a certain time to do different things like eating, showering.
He often tries doing 2 things at once because he probably feels he doesn’t have much free time as he takes at least an hour for his meals, half and hour for showers. We’re always having to tell him to put away his story book while he eats , also he can’t really do more than 1 thing at a time, although he wants to. This happend also while showering, doing big business on the toilet and even while he brushes his teeth. It is tiring coz we constantly have to correct him over the same things. Also wonder how this kid will be when he’s an adult. He will gladly wake up in the morning and trod around in his pj’s all day unless I tell him to change. Or I could tell him tomorrow is the weekend and he’s not think twice if I am wrong or not… He’s totally laid back.
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