A Letter from ST Forum

[schweppes]

Blobbi:

Chill, dearies. :grphug:


The key for getting along was and is mutual respect and trust. But when one group keeps slamming another group for imagined prejudices against themselves (even as they write that they \"don't feel it on a personal basis\"), for \"the discriminatory policies of the governement\" when, if we rub out eyes and take a look out the window, this place is teeming with foreigners, then we locals get resentful. Here we are, being very nice hosts, and our guests keep complaining that in other countries, the food is nicer. Or why their portion is one ikan bilis less. After a while, the host's smiling face will show some strain, like what's happening at the tail end of this thread. Then one more complaint, whether there is merit or not, is unlikely to be taken seriously.

I want to emphasize - mutual respect and trust. We're very genial hosts. When we cook and you eat, we don't mind constructive criticism cos we want to be better cooks. If you give objective examples like the differential in university fees between locals and PRs, that's clear for all to see. It's definitely food for thought. Even then, it's practically loose change, so please don't lose sleep over that. Clean air, high level of personal safety, competitive educational structure, efficient public services, good employment opportunities are available to all here - no extra charge of course. But if you compare us unfavourably with free university education in a debt ridden, high tax country when much of the world has given up that crazy, unsustainable policy, then that's spitting in our face. All we're asking for is ... some consideration.

:goodpost: :goodpost: Blobbi


:salute:

[mummy of 2]

25hourmaid:

:lol: :lol: to younger parents like LKVM and mummy of 2, I would say your kids are luckier in the sense there is no exams for K1/K2 and P1/P2, but on the other hand, if I have to go through the system again, I still would prefer my kids to get a gist of what exams is about at that age. As I said, because of the exams, my boys were very well prepared for P1.

I would prefer to let my kids enjoy thier childhood a little longer. In my days, exams were no big deal so no stress at all, until we got to a certain level ie PSLE. Now it's like the kids must do well for every single exam. So stressful for the kids (and parents)

[corneyAmber]

Unfortunately, this is how the system is for our kids nowadays! :imdrowning:


Yes, I remember my time too. I didn't know my ABCs till I was in Primary 1 and shapes and such were not taught till I was in Primary 1 too.

Oh yes, I didn't know a word of English too when I entered Primary 1, but my teachers never had to use dialects to explain things to us, we simply managed, that's why I cannot understand why some non-Chinese insist on sending their kids to a SAP school and insisting that the teacher speak to the child in English in order to make the child understand! :slapshead:

The SG govt/education system does not owe anybody anything, the system is there, one just has to strive for the best results.

[corneyAmber]

lovekidsverymuch:

I agree with you but then also imagine sometimes the fear of exams are so much on kids or rather on parents that there can be some nervousness and with such a small kids its not fair for them to go thru all this.. though I know the system is such that there will be exams moving ahead but maybe by that time they r matured enuf to understand wat exams mean :?

As a mother, I was never really stressed up over exams and exam results and neither were my boys and yet, they have performed above average all these years.

[KSP]

I think whatever my P2 dd learn now is much more than what I had in my P4-5. :stupid:

[tutormum]

Time has changed already lah. During my time, I know nothing when I went to primary 1 and didn't do well (very blur at that time). I was fortunate that my father engaged a tutor for me and I learn to read from there. Then from P2 onwards, I became 'smart' and know how to study on my own. I also have the view of letting my sons enjoy their childhood and not pressurising them. In the end, the 2 elder boys were average in school. Sometimes I do feel a bit guilty towards them. However, they are actually smart boys so even though they are not in U, who knows, they will be in the future. :dancing: I always tell them that as long as I'm able I'm here to support whatever they want to do and don't expect them to earn big money and buy big house for me. They have to be able to earn a decent living and support themselves. :love: :celebrate:

[Busymom]

Blobbi:

outsider:

Hi Bobbi,

Can I copy this and paste in the \"The Expats will Rule S'pore\" Thread too

:lol: :lol:

Can. My basic message is : Mai(4) Hiam(2). It's Hokkien, but HYPY works just as well :).

Thanks, outsider, for copying Blobbi's excellent post and pasting it in the other thread... had been feeling lonely there at one point with just some others..

Really, if one has so much to \"hiam\", then don't make yourself miserable by continuing to live here. By the way, I am not directing this at the PRs/foreigners, but to any citizen who feels that way too.

Sorry, 25hourmaid, :offtopic: , I :clubmyself: first.

[corneyAmber]

Busymom:

Sorry, 25hourmaid, :offtopic: , I :clubmyself: first.

Ya lor, this thread is becoming like a rojak thread, from SAP school to pink/blue IC, FT/PR, to even food at one stage. :lol:

[buds]

ChiefKiasu:

Blobbi:

... Oh uh, changing the subject to my favourtie topic, STICKY CHEWY CHOCOLATE!! :drool: The bad news is, I haven't had it yet, so you can imagine how I'm gonna be like afterwards!! *shudder*

I don't care what you have been (or will be) eating, Blobbi, but what you wrote is so sensible that it helped me detox my brain. :goodpost:

Detox? :!:

That's brutal honesty packed with lotsa sticky chewy chocs sweetness, my friends.

VERY VERY VERY GOOD POST! :celebrate:

For all that spit we kena... some kena me oso leh. Niwae, piang powderful ay!

Let's all play nice now.. :grphug: Agree to disagree, remember?

Now, stop going off topic. :offtopic: Or i gotta go round caning :spank: some more of you out there... :evil:

[corneyAmber]

Thank you monitor for bringing out the cane at the right time! :love: