Birth Control Methods

[schellen]

ZacK:

Wonder if I am opening up a can of worms or risk getting flamed sticking my finger in a thread with postings by mums only.


I suppose that mums here have discussed and ruled out the possibility of your husbands using condoms instead? Based on what I read in relation to birth control methods for women, they seem to be pretty drastic measures that affects women physically.

Don't worry, Zack, cos I'm sure my DH will find his way here soon.

We did use condoms before but we hated it. So inconvenient, mood spoiler and uncomfortable. Also, if you do the math, IUD and IUS in the long run will cost less than condoms. This also saves the trouble of having to remember when to re-stock.

And about the effectiveness of condoms vs. IUD/IUS, IUD/IUS of course wins. One of my ex-colleagues conceived even though she and her DH used a condom. She was very upset as she had married barely a year and wasn't planning for kids so soon. This depressive mood plus a difficult pregnancy for her reinforced my opinion that condoms aren't that great.

[schellen]

buds:

Heyya schellen,


I haven't got to reading in detail abt the Mirena,
but i will. Just wanna quickly ask - does it hurt?

A few frenz say it hurt having the IUD inside..
Ouch.

That's strange. It's not supposed to hurt. When inserting and within 1-2 days after insertion, there may be a bit of discharge and some discomfort but it didn't hurt for me. There may be a bit cramping too but that's also normal. After that, you don't even know it's in there.

[schellen]

tanlengleng:

schellen:

Yes, it's called Mirena. I didn't use the name cos I thought it'd be unfamiliar.

Thanks,
we found out that the hormones release may not be suitable for me.
Cause it may \"trigger cancer cells\" (if any),
and I am a person highly pro to getting it.

My grandma dies of breast cancer,
2 of my uncles dies of cancer,
my dad is a cancer patient...

That's okay since you still have other options. For me, this was the best option.

[tanlengleng]

schellen:

tanlengleng:

[quote=\"schellen\"]Yes, it's called Mirena. I didn't use the name cos I thought it'd be unfamiliar.

Thanks,
we found out that the hormones release may not be suitable for me.
Cause it may \"trigger cancer cells\" (if any),
and I am a person highly pro to getting it.

My grandma dies of breast cancer,
2 of my uncles dies of cancer,
my dad is a cancer patient...

That's okay since you still have other options. For me, this was the best option.[/quote]Still \"sourcing\"... in the meantime, hope the cap will not fail us...

[ZacK]

tanlengleng:

ZacK:

Anyway bet durex and okamoto... I would go for the latter cos they are touted to be \"next to nothing\". Anyway just a personal preference

Hubby says okamoto seems to be smaller & tighter then durex,
any man can advise on this?
He says it's uncomfortable for him...

When we first started, we were on durex but I loathed it cos it felt like we had the great wall between us :stupid:

Hmmm ... I guess my size is more aligned to the jap sizing then and whereas your hubby is more aligned to ang mo size :!: :lol:

[ZacK]

schellen:

ZacK:

Wonder if I am opening up a can of worms or risk getting flamed sticking my finger in a thread with postings by mums only.


I suppose that mums here have discussed and ruled out the possibility of your husbands using condoms instead? Based on what I read in relation to birth control methods for women, they seem to be pretty drastic measures that affects women physically.

Don't worry, Zack, cos I'm sure my DH will find his way here soon.

We did use condoms before but we hated it. So inconvenient, mood spoiler and uncomfortable. Also, if you do the math, IUD and IUS in the long run will cost less than condoms. This also saves the trouble of having to remember when to re-stock.

And about the effectiveness of condoms vs. IUD/IUS, IUD/IUS of course wins. One of my ex-colleagues conceived even though she and her DH used a condom. She was very upset as she had married barely a year and wasn't planning for kids so soon. This depressive mood plus a difficult pregnancy for her reinforced my opinion that condoms aren't that great.

Haha... Perhaps you should make this forum the homepage for your web browser so that your husband will get the hint to visit here. My wife would rather surf facebook than to come to this forum to look at kids related issues... Anyway, she has her own opinions on raising a child, so most times I read on certain issues of interest here and then bring it to her as a topic for discussion.

With regard to the \"right\" form of birth control method... I guess there's more than 1 way to skin a cow... So whichever works best will the \"right\" method for every couple :celebrate:

[csc]

tanlengleng:

I was thinking of inserting the IUD after our 3rd kid.

Anyone have any other suggestions besides not \"doing it anymore\"?

one more option is ligation. But that is, if you are seriously considering not having any more children or past child-bearing age.

[tanlengleng]

ZacK:

tanlengleng:

[quote=\"ZacK\"]
Anyway bet durex and okamoto... I would go for the latter cos they are touted to be \"next to nothing\". Anyway just a personal preference

Hubby says okamoto seems to be smaller & tighter then durex,
any man can advise on this?
He says it's uncomfortable for him...

When we first started, we were on durex but I loathed it cos it felt like we had the great wall between us :stupid:

Hmmm ... I guess my size is more aligned to the jap sizing then and whereas your hubby is more aligned to ang mo size :!: :lol:[/quote]Durex is Made in Thailand lah...

[tanlengleng]

csc:

tanlengleng:

I was thinking of inserting the IUD after our 3rd kid.

Anyone have any other suggestions besides not \"doing it anymore\"?

one more option is ligation. But that is, if you are seriously considering not having any more children or past child-bearing age.

\"My mum\" again...
She did ligation after giving birth to me,
but after that she don't enjoy intercourse anymore,
mentioning dryer & no interest,
so she told her daughters & DIL NEVER TRY LIGATION...

I don't wish to prove her wrong leh... hehe...

PS: Still child-bearing age, may consider #4 if we strike all numbers at TOTO...hahaha...

[buds]

Heyya csc,


Ligation? Ouch..
Heard this is best done right afer delivery, is it true?
I fear for anything invasive.
Hence the choice of those darn rubber caps.

Heyya Zack,
The japanese vs ang-moh was hilarious lah you!!
And yes i do agree with you, whichever works best.
There isn't one size fit all.

Heyya scellen,
Tks for your personal experience.
I'll read up more.. and maybe get
some advise from doc as well if even
the caps fail. But so far, other than
mood spoiler, it has served us well in
the area of birth control. But i do
agree with you on oe point, that
condoms are costly in the long run.


Heyya tanlengleng,
I am afraid i have to ask... ( if you don't mind that is )
Did it fail you as in, break? For us, hubs usually checks
before and after.. Just in case.. 7 tho my favourite no.
sounds scaaaarry. :shock: