Logo
    • Education
      • Pre-School
      • Primary Schools Directory
      • Primary Schools Articles
      • P1 Registration
      • DSA
      • PSLE
      • Secondary
      • Tertiary
      • Special Needs
    • Lifestyle
      • Well-being
    • Activities
      • Events
    • Enrichment & Services
      • Find A Service Provider
      • Enrichment Articles
      • Enrichment Services
      • Tuition Centre/Private Tutor
      • Infant Care/ Childcare / Student Care Centre
      • Kindergarten/Preschool
      • Private Institutions and International Schools
      • Special Needs
      • Indoor & Outdoor Playgrounds
      • Paediatrics
      • Neonatal Care
    • Forum
    • ASKQ
    • Register
    • Login

    Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

    Scheduled Pinned Locked Moved Relationships
    368 Posts 141 Posters 229.8k Views 1 Watching
    Loading More Posts
    • Oldest to Newest
    • Newest to Oldest
    • Most Votes
    Reply
    • Reply as topic
    Log in to reply
    This topic has been deleted. Only users with topic management privileges can see it.
    • 3 Offline
      3Boys
      last edited by

      dicoyote:
      3Boys,

      share your thought?
      I find the tactic of 'deep freeze' as a behaviour modification tool to be immature and unproductive. If I do that to my wife, she couldn't care less and vice-versa. In my view, it is also pretty destructive to a relationship to turn on cold feelings to each other. Much better to be up front about issues and have them thrashed out in the open.

      Further, although I believe a woman is well within her rights to set certain rules of behaviour for her husband, and indeed, is probably obliged to do so in order to cultivate a healthy, mutually respectful relationship, the husband is not some immature child to 'beaten' into shape by 'denial of service' attacks.

      In short, in a difficult situation, the key to resolution is communication, and non-communication is recipe for a downward spiral in a relationship.

      Just my view.

      1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
      • ChiefKiasuC Offline
        ChiefKiasu
        last edited by

        3Boys:
        I find the tactic of 'deep freeze' as a behaviour modification tool to be immature and unproductive. If I do that to my wife, she couldn't care less and vice-versa. In my view, it is also pretty destructive to a relationship to turn on cold feelings to each other. Much better to be up front about issues and have them thrashed out in the open.


        Further, although I believe a woman is well within her rights to set certain rules of behaviour for her husband, and indeed, is probably obliged to do so in order to cultivate a healthy, mutually respectful relationship, the husband is not some immature child to 'beaten' into shape by 'denial of service' attacks.

        In short, in a difficult situation, the key to resolution is communication, and non-communication is recipe for a downward spiral in a relationship.

        Just my view.
        Well put 3Boys. Ditto.

        1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
        • E Offline
          Eagle-Ladybird
          last edited by

          The Silent Treatment

          A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each Other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, He would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM.' He left it where he knew she would find it.
          The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM And he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and See why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
          The bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.


          Totally agreed with you 3boys - the above didn't work

          1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
          • corneyAmberC Offline
            corneyAmber
            last edited by

            Eagle-Ladybird:
            The Silent Treatment

            A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each Other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, He would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM.' He left it where he knew she would find it.
            The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM And he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and See why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
            The bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.


            Totally agreed with you 3boys - the above didn't work
            :rotflmao: So childish hor?

            1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
            • tankeeT Offline
              tankee
              last edited by

              Eagle-Ladybird:
              The Silent Treatment

              A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each Other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, He would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM.' He left it where he knew she would find it.
              The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM And he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and See why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
              The bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.


              Totally agreed with you 3boys - the above didn't work

              :rotflmao:

              1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
              • T Offline
                toddles
                last edited by

                true… but sometimes easier said than done. when very angry, just want to clam up so that both sides have some cooling down period to think through things too.


                might be better / more productive to discuss / communicate when both sides are less emotive /more rational.

                1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
                • E Offline
                  Eagle-Ladybird
                  last edited by

                  Actually the moral of the story is, don't mess with women. We, men, are not build for this type of battle, that's why we have this need to offload what's on our chest - talk it over and resolve on the spot. We cannot deal with Silent Treatment.


                  It was part of a string of jokes, of which the rest are here :

                  ======================
                  WIFE VS. HUSBAND
                  A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
                  An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
                  Neither of them wanted to concede their position.
                  As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
                  The husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?'
                  'Yep,' the wife replied, 'in-laws.'

                  W O R D S
                  A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...30,000 to a man's 15,000.
                  The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...
                  The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'

                  CREATION
                  A man said to his wife one day, 'I don't know how you can be So stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
                  'The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!

                  WHO DOES WHAT
                  A man and his wife were having an argument about who Should brew the coffee each morning.
                  The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, And then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.'
                  The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and You should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.'
                  Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible That the man should do the coffee.'
                  Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.'
                  So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament And showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
                  Men are not equipped for this kind of contest.  

                  God may have created man before woman,
                  But there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
                  =======================

                  Enjoy, but don't let it get into your head, ladies !

                  1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
                  • A Offline
                    auntieM
                    last edited by

                    Almost choke reading your post Eagle-Ladybird.. .. :rotflmao:

                    1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
                    • 3 Offline
                      3Boys
                      last edited by

                      E-ladybird…super funny!

                      1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
                      • S Offline
                        schweppes
                        last edited by

                        :rotflmao: Super funny sharing, Eagle-Ladybird. Thanks for the laughies... :lol:

                        1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0

                        Hello! It looks like you're interested in this conversation, but you don't have an account yet.

                        Getting fed up of having to scroll through the same posts each visit? When you register for an account, you'll always come back to exactly where you were before, and choose to be notified of new replies (either via email, or push notification). You'll also be able to save bookmarks and upvote posts to show your appreciation to other community members.

                        With your input, this post could be even better 💗

                        Register Login
                        • 1
                        • 2
                        • 24
                        • 25
                        • 26
                        • 27
                        • 28
                        • 36
                        • 37
                        • 26 / 37
                        • First post
                          Last post



                        Online Users
                        jojoberryJ
                        jojoberry

                        Statistics

                        3

                        Online

                        210.7k

                        Users

                        34.2k

                        Topics

                        1.8m

                        Posts
                        Popular Topics
                        New to the KiasuParents forum? Tips and Tricks!
                        Choosing and Evaluating Primary Schools
                        DSA 2026
                        PSLE Discussions and Strategies
                        How much do you spend on the kids' tuition/enrichments?
                        SkillsFuture + anything related to upskilling/learning something new!

                          About Us Contact Us forum Terms of Service Privacy Policy