Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[tankee]

Eagle-Ladybird:

The Silent Treatment

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each Other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, He would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM.' He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM And he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and See why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
The bed. The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.

Totally agreed with you 3boys - the above didn't work

:rotflmao:

[toddles]

true… but sometimes easier said than done. when very angry, just want to clam up so that both sides have some cooling down period to think through things too.


might be better / more productive to discuss / communicate when both sides are less emotive /more rational.

[Eagle-Ladybird]

Actually the moral of the story is, don't mess with women. We, men, are not build for this type of battle, that's why we have this need to offload what's on our chest - talk it over and resolve on the spot. We cannot deal with Silent Treatment.


It was part of a string of jokes, of which the rest are here :

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WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
Neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
The husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?'
'Yep,' the wife replied, 'in-laws.'

W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...
The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'

CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, 'I don't know how you can be So stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
'The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!

WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who Should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, And then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.'
The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and You should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.'
Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible That the man should do the coffee.'
Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.'
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament And showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
Men are not equipped for this kind of contest.  

God may have created man before woman,
But there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
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Enjoy, but don't let it get into your head, ladies !

[auntieM]

Almost choke reading your post Eagle-Ladybird.. .. :rotflmao:

[3Boys]

E-ladybird…super funny!

[schweppes]

:rotflmao: Super funny sharing, Eagle-Ladybird. Thanks for the laughies... :lol:

[dicoyote]

3Boys:

dicoyote:

3Boys,

share your thought?

I find the tactic of 'deep freeze' as a behaviour modification tool to be immature and unproductive. If I do that to my wife, she couldn't care less and vice-versa. In my view, it is also pretty destructive to a relationship to turn on cold feelings to each other. Much better to be up front about issues and have them thrashed out in the open.

Further, although I believe a woman is well within her rights to set certain rules of behaviour for her husband, and indeed, is probably obliged to do so in order to cultivate a healthy, mutually respectful relationship, the husband is not some immature child to 'beaten' into shape by 'denial of service' attacks.

In short, in a difficult situation, the key to resolution is communication, and non-communication is recipe for a downward spiral in a relationship.

Just my view.

3Boys,

Thanks for sharing your thought.

Agree to your comment on childish act, yet when men, instead of talking or discussing things out, uses \"force\", isn't that childish as well?

Guess its a taste of its own medicine, childish return, never end

There are times when non-communication period might help, in the end, its who will want to control the situation, does not mean whoever talk first loses.

I do not think in this current world, things can be settled just by talking....or should I say by only talking, action sometimes speaks louder than word...though just my view :lol:

[Jennifer]

dicoyote:

I do not think in this current world, things can be settled just by talking....or should I say by only talking, action sometimes speaks louder than word...though just my view :lol:

I tried talking, it helped. Then after some time, the same irritating habit surfaces again. Do I talk again? So I shut up lor since it cannot be changed.

[3Boys]

Is a marriage worth working on?


Not here to pass judgement on those who have trouble in spousal relationships, but perhaps trigger a bit of soul searching?

That man/woman you fell in love with, what happened? Did you stop talking? Stop taking care of each other?

Does he/she mean enough to you that you will put aside some pride and initiate a reconciliation? If your spouse initiates something, will you put aside enough of your hurt feelings to engage and not rebuff?

C’mon people, its worth working at, really. Say the nice words once, twice, three times. Compliment your wife on her hair, thank your hubby for bringing home dinner. Don’t take each other for granted, don’t play the blame game.

It will not happen overnight, but if one or both parties persist, and takes an open mind, I’d say there were better than an even chance that you could turn things around.

[divorceadviceforwomen]

Divorce is a tricky monster. On the one hand, it could greatly help couples to break away from the stranglehold of marriage and live their lives without destroying everything in their parts, including their respect for each other. On the other, divorce furthers the chasm between couple as they fight for properties, money, and possession, making for an ugly scene and solves nothing. Men, women and divorce is ultimately a mixed bag unless done correctly.