Children of average ability

[buds]

Heyyo shylyn,


Firstly, busy is a good sign. Busy in the current context is having
work. Work brings money.. So work is good right now. Dun fret.
Catch up when you can. Love the updates by the way, all in a
nutshell. And i appreciate the silent encouragement from you.
Thank you.

Next, is teachers..
Ya, lor. You're right that a passionate teacher is never ever
enough stressed. Sigh. Just my luck getting such colleagues.
Complain also nothing done. Boss long time friend. Short of
manpower, takes whoever comes first then if lucky got better
one come along can change lah, if not make do with the lao-yah
one for a bit longer. The colleague from hell, i confronted her of
the things she did. She laughed it off saying i was dense and that
these kinda stuff is normal in childcare, to take children in hand so
they don't dare try anything funny from the beginning. Sad..

I said i don't do that to gain respect and maintain order and so do
others i know. She just said we're the soft type. So okay lah, diff
people different character. As long i get my kiddie outta there fast!
Boss never see the big picture... cos she's the boss. The staff aren't
real when the boss not around. So boss always see the normal stuff
then go office, or chat with parents who're around. What to do...

After some calming down, i don't see the need to destroy someone's
rice bowl. She has a family to feed too and school going children...
I do not see the pleasure i would get from being the one to put her out
of a job. My kiddie came out of it intact, tho' emotionally strained but
definitely a good lesson learnt. For hubs and myself too... Painful lesson,
but take it like a bitter pill. It took time to recover from that, for us as
parents mainly. But children are wonderful god's creations, they know
no malice and bear no grudges. Kiddie just resumed her PM kindy with
much happiness and seem to quickly forget the trauma she had to endure,
whether just to make me happy or she really forgave and forget, i will
not know the repercussions till later part in her life lah..

I did mention to tamarind what goes around comes around... So, i let it
be.. Last i was told, the nasty colleague got downgraded by management
to let her experience some humility. From working with K2's she went all
the way down nappy-changing, crying babies class in N1. Oh boy, was
she pissed.. Was told she begged for her place back in K2 and promised
to behave. No one could work with her from then on in N1, and complaint
after complaint from fellow colleagues of her tongue lashing and
authoritative nature. Even loud outburst with other staff during session.

Theeeenn only, boss saw the picture. But, know what... too late liao.
Many other great teachers were lost in the process. Teachers who reali
cared for the children, teachers who made the children there happy.
Yup, they threw in the towel. They told boss if she doesn't go they will go..
So, one by one they went marching off. Why was she still kept?
I don't really know, possibly cheaper salary and she can handle big
group of kids (due to the garang nature).

SAHM? Not by choice lah shylyn.. Thrown into the role cos nobody jaga.
And because of too many disastrous encounters in childcares i don't
think i can handle the emotional strain for financial freedom. So, i stay
poor for awhile lah. Very very hard ok? Not to mention, social life
downgrade to only kids pretend parties, hahahaa! On daily basis some
more. Debts after debts we slowly clear from our savings and hubs work
his ass off. The poor thing.. But it led to many priceless experiences
along the way that made us stronger and now financially very stable.

Hey yes, i do realise there will be a handful of parents who may not
have the patience to care for a child full day nor have the knowledge
to provide home education during such time, or some just cannot afford
t stay home due to financial situations. Different situations call for different
measures, but having your boy in childcare was a much better decision
lah in your case. The thought of the kiddies having so much idle time and
super pampered by grandpa grandma..... an overdose of that may not
be beneficial to ah-boy's growing developmental needs, ay.. So, your
decision was a right one. :celebrate: Yes, at least the time you spend
with him are definitely the great ones. Cherish him more.. Since
you see less of him.. He'll learn a lot from where you're putting him in
now.

Received the curriculum? Good for you.. After reading, dun quite under-
stand, i help ok?

Ya, i wud do the same too. Maintain composure... see the big picture...
investigate first... don't go crazy mama shouting at teachers without
first knowing the facts. Hope that never happens again. I cross for you
also, okay. Poor boy-boy you know.. Good you highlight to ctr supervisor,
and if she's a good one she will ensure positive improvements are made
over time. Good boss can inspire good teachers..

Have a good week ahead, you.
Take care.

[shylyn]

Hiya Buds

Nah..I'm sure u hv many readers who hv benefitted from your sharing as well..I'm one of them. I always enjoy reading posts by mummies/daddies who share something useful be it academically or character building ..cos it will add on to my knowledge..

Yep..I guess so..but then again, in this unpredictable times, being busy doesn't necessary means ur job is secure..so got to & keep fingers crossed.

buds:

The colleague from hell, i confronted her of
the things she did. She laughed it off saying i was dense and that
these kinda stuff is normal in childcare, to take children in hand so
they don't dare try anything funny from the beginning. Sad..

My kiddie came out of it intact, tho' emotionally strained but
definitely a good lesson learnt. For hubs and myself too... Painful lesson,
but take it like a bitter pill. It took time to recover from that, for us as
parents mainly. But children are wonderful god's creations, they know
no malice and bear no grudges. Kiddie just resumed her PM kindy with
much happiness and seem to quickly forget the trauma she had to endure,
whether just to make me happy or she really forgave and forget, i will
not know the repercussions till later part in her life lah..

oh dear..i hope this is not common among the teachers in my boy's cc..else cant imagine the pschological impact it will hv on him. In fact, I rem being made to stare at the sun when i was young together w e rest of my cc friends..cant rem what we were being punished for..but instead, I rem the punishment..luckily, my eyes didn't get blinded as a result. Hmm..luckily that incident didn't leave a bad impression of teachers/schooling on me..guess i was rather forgetful as well..& didn't rem it until lately.

buds:

working with K2's she went all the way down nappy-changing, crying babies class in N1.

I hope the teachers looking after the younger children do not think that they are in a lower position. Though changing nappies and looking after a bunch of screaming kids aren't exactly a cup of tea for many, it is still a noble profession..I never realise the imptance of presch teachers till I hv a kid of my own. Kudos to all the preschool teachers!

buds:

SAHM? Not by choice lah shylyn..

paisey lah..I tot u chose to be a sahm.. :oops:
honestly, despite the hardship, growing stronger & closer is still the best result one could get. I hv always admire sahms for their sacrifice and patience..not everyone is able to do it..I myself, is not one for sure..heheh..

buds:

The thought of the kiddies having so much idle time and
super pampered by grandpa grandma..

Indeed! Though my in laws aren't the type to super pamper him but as they r not used to teaching ..my parents as well..guess it wasn't their idea of spending time w their grandchildren..In fact, i tried to get my in laws (while they were still staying together w me) to teach my boy simple Chinese but they did not..so i guess no point forcing upon them.

buds:

Received the curriculum? Good for you.. After reading, dun quite under-
stand, i help ok?.

Thank u! Just read e curriculum..indeed very enriching as they covered all aspects! Hmm..only concern is whether my boy pays attention during class & whether he understand.. :lol:

buds:

Ya, i wud do the same too. Maintain composure... see the big picture...
investigate first... don't go crazy mama shouting at teachers without
first knowing the facts. .

I never like to jump into conculsion and accuse others unnecessary..I'll always consider others from their point of view..cos I don't like to be accused as well.
My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

[buds]

shylyn:

Yep..I guess so..but then again, in this unpredictable times, being busy doesn't necessary means ur job is secure..so got to & keep fingers crossed.

>I'll cross for you oso, ok!

shylyn:

buds:

working with K2's she went all the way down nappy-changing, crying babies class in N1.

>The said colleague told everybody she felt it was a demotion for her.
Personally, i prefer the younger kids classes. Children more cute and
innocent. And we can really see their improvement from cannot talk
to can talk non-stop, from cannot hold pencil to can write neatly and
colour inside the lines, etc. Not to mention, nice to huggie wuggie too!

>Guess, boss idea is to stop her from being the \"my pupils are big enuf
to do a lotta things and their own\" and too comfortable directing this
and that and all, to get her on her knees down with actual pre-school
life, where it all began... from the younger classes. And with small
children if she does her tongue lashing, sure they cry non-stop, so i
suppose boss wanna get her to curb her tongue too... and learn to treat
people with more love and care and most important, respect. Respecting
people doesn't mean with those who can already talk and able to have
tongue-wars, but all... including our cute babies. Human.

shylyn:

buds:

The thought of the kiddies having so much idle time and
super pampered by grandpa grandma..

>Mine both sides, super super pamper! My daddie tho' is excellent with
learn thru' play, but he gotta work.. shifts too.

shylyn:

My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

>Everyone worries abt this, you're not alone... Thats why more EQ in all
may save the world, hehee!

Geez, i'm so not good with putting this quote feature... :stupid:

[sunflower]

shylyn:

My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

Actually, I had this experience with my elder girl's childcare mate when she was in Nursery. The personality of the child's mother seemed to be the more vocal kind and she feedback quite a fair bit about the cc to the principal. I didn't realise until one day, I met her when fetching my child home from cc. She told me all her complaints and one of which was that her child's bottom wasn't cleaned properly (quite a few times) with visible poo after the big business.

I can't really remember the details but from her description, I sort of sensed that her child seemed to have been ostracised in class and not being treated in the usual caring manner by the teachers. It seemed to me that the teachers bore grudges against her child. Anyway, she withdrew her child at the end of the year.

[corneyAmber]

shylyn:

My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

The trick to be effective is not to do it as a complaint. I have given several feedbacks in the areas I deem necessary being a \"vocal\" mom myself. Always give a feedback with a constructive suggestion that is executable and non-selfish. Executable is very important as we should not be giving ideal situations and scenarios. Non-selfish is just as important because most organisations exist to cater for the mass(not refering to niche market) so the suggestion should benefit the mass. If it is only for our child, then it will fall through the cracks and make ourselves unhappy. Just sharing my experience only.

So far I have not put my child's position in school in jeopardy or run a risk of being \"blacklisted\" by the teachers. In fact so far all teachers dote on my child and I would like to attribute it to my child's effort as well cos never got \"sabotaged\" by mom who liked to give feedback when required.

[sashimi]

sunflower:

It seemed to me that the teachers bore grudges against her child. Anyway, she withdrew her child at the end of the year.

I absolutely \"agree\". This is the same concept as being a good PARENT gives rise to a good child. You can't have a good child if you're not a good parent.

Likewise, service standards in Singapore are bad partly because as customers, Singaporeans also behave very badly.

This is why I take pride in being a good customer with my \"vendors\", at work, in shopping, and with my DD's childcare centre.

As ks2me says, it's much more effective to provide constructive feedback as opposed to outright loud complaints.

[sunflower]

Sorry if I’ve created some misunderstandings. Actually, when I mentioned the mother as being "vocal", I didn’t mean she was loud. I meant it as she would voice out her unhappiness, views and opinions quite freely to the cc. In my opinion, she was quite a cool headed mum, had strong opinions and was rather assertive (not aggressive) in the way she talked.


I’m not too sure whether she put it as "complain" or "feedback" but I thought she did give some constructive feedback (I actually overlooked those things myself) as the cc implemented it a few months after her child was withdrawn. (I think the cc needed some time for the works to be done).

I thought her child was rather quiet, but seemed to like to poo in the afternoons. My girl, on the other hand, was the quiet, guai guai kind and never gave the teachers any problems. So for me, no issues with the cc and all the teachers loved her to bits!

However, because of that experience, until now, I always think twice and to deliberate my words very carefully when I need to give feedback to schools/teachers/school bus operators etc.

[buds]

Heyya jedamum,


This is the after swim shampoo i mentioned to you..

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Bought it at S$5.20.
FYI.

[jedamum]

buds:

Heyya jedamum,


This is the after swim shampoo i mentioned to you..

buds,
thanks!

[buds]

Most welcome!