Children of average ability

[corneyAmber]

shylyn:

My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

The trick to be effective is not to do it as a complaint. I have given several feedbacks in the areas I deem necessary being a \"vocal\" mom myself. Always give a feedback with a constructive suggestion that is executable and non-selfish. Executable is very important as we should not be giving ideal situations and scenarios. Non-selfish is just as important because most organisations exist to cater for the mass(not refering to niche market) so the suggestion should benefit the mass. If it is only for our child, then it will fall through the cracks and make ourselves unhappy. Just sharing my experience only.

So far I have not put my child's position in school in jeopardy or run a risk of being \"blacklisted\" by the teachers. In fact so far all teachers dote on my child and I would like to attribute it to my child's effort as well cos never got \"sabotaged\" by mom who liked to give feedback when required.

[sashimi]

sunflower:

It seemed to me that the teachers bore grudges against her child. Anyway, she withdrew her child at the end of the year.

I absolutely \"agree\". This is the same concept as being a good PARENT gives rise to a good child. You can't have a good child if you're not a good parent.

Likewise, service standards in Singapore are bad partly because as customers, Singaporeans also behave very badly.

This is why I take pride in being a good customer with my \"vendors\", at work, in shopping, and with my DD's childcare centre.

As ks2me says, it's much more effective to provide constructive feedback as opposed to outright loud complaints.

[sunflower]

Sorry if I’ve created some misunderstandings. Actually, when I mentioned the mother as being "vocal", I didn’t mean she was loud. I meant it as she would voice out her unhappiness, views and opinions quite freely to the cc. In my opinion, she was quite a cool headed mum, had strong opinions and was rather assertive (not aggressive) in the way she talked.


I’m not too sure whether she put it as "complain" or "feedback" but I thought she did give some constructive feedback (I actually overlooked those things myself) as the cc implemented it a few months after her child was withdrawn. (I think the cc needed some time for the works to be done).

I thought her child was rather quiet, but seemed to like to poo in the afternoons. My girl, on the other hand, was the quiet, guai guai kind and never gave the teachers any problems. So for me, no issues with the cc and all the teachers loved her to bits!

However, because of that experience, until now, I always think twice and to deliberate my words very carefully when I need to give feedback to schools/teachers/school bus operators etc.

[buds]

Heyya jedamum,


This is the after swim shampoo i mentioned to you..

http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss93/buds_kiasubucket/P060209_1202.jpg

Bought it at S$5.20.
FYI.

[jedamum]

buds:

Heyya jedamum,


This is the after swim shampoo i mentioned to you..

buds,
thanks!

[buds]

Most welcome!

[buds]

Heyya sunflower,


Don't you worry there... No misunderstanding whatsoever..
At least for me. I got what you meant.

As from an educator's point of view, its okay for feedbacks.
As long valid and constructive ones that can promote good
positive change. If the parent was not assertive enuf, the
other children within the centre may not enjoy the positive
improvements happening in the centre. So, thanks to her..
the other parents have a voice!

Like mentioned before, lets not do to others, what we don't
want others to do to us.. if it were us say.... at work...
We wud welcome a constructive feedback from the boss
(ie. \"Do you think you cud look into this cos i from what I've
checked, its already overdue..\") more than a complain (ie.\"Eh,
somebody complain that this is way overdue!\"

As long as feedback doesn't sound impossibly rude and
ridiculous, i think its fine..

[phantom]

buds:

Heyya jedamum,


This is the after swim shampoo i mentioned to you..

http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss93/buds_kiasubucket/P060209_1202.jpg

Bought it at S$5.20.
FYI.

Sorry, kpo abit, but the image of the shampoo is gone.

[buds]

Paiseh.. paiseh hor..

Slip of the click!

Here it is :
http://www.postimage.org/image.php?v=gxDXovr

[shylyn]

Hiya Buds

Another busy period in the office thus the slow slow reply from me Hope everything is well with u .

buds:

>The said colleague told everybody she felt it was a demotion for her.
Personally, i prefer the younger kids classes. Children more cute and
innocent. And we can really see their improvement from cannot talk
to can talk non-stop, from cannot hold pencil to can write neatly and
colour inside the lines, etc. Not to mention, nice to huggie wuggie too!

>Guess, boss idea is to stop her from being the \"my pupils are big enuf
to do a lotta things and their own\" and too comfortable directing this
and that and all, to get her on her knees down with actual pre-school
life, where it all began... from the younger classes. And with small
children if she does her tongue lashing, sure they cry non-stop, so i
suppose boss wanna get her to curb her tongue too... and learn to treat
people with more love and care and most important, respect. Respecting
people doesn't mean with those who can already talk and able to have
tongue-wars, but all... including our cute babies. Human.

I'm glad to hear that..cos I hope it is not a norm for the supervisors to put teachers who performed badly in the younger children's class. It will be more worse as the kiddos are unable to say what they want. Honestly, even now, my boy is able to speak fluently, I don't really believe totally what he said..cos he will often tell me :\" Teacher beat me\" I'll take it w a pinch of salt (cos my boy occasionally doesn't say e truth)..just keep my fingers cross that the teacher, if really beat him, is becos of disciplining purpose & not due to rage.

shylyn:

My only worry is that the teacher will bear a grudge against my boy & mistreat him if i complain too much to the supervisor...

I didn;t know my statement will result in a furry of discussion .. :lol:
Actually, before giving feedback (not even complain) I'll make sure that it is worth the feedback..(eg the teacher kept on doing it or something that is serious enough) & I'll do it without any bias or accusation. Else, I'll speak to the teacher directly..but sometimes, with other kiddos around, it is really difficult to talk to the teacher.