All About Full-Time Maids

[eyktay]

lovekidsverymuch:

minnie2004:

My DH is neutral to both but thinks it maybe easier to hire a transfer maid. Both of them were born in the year of ox (usually more hard working), one is a libra and the other is scorpion. Yes, I'm resorting to astrology as they are quite accurate in predicting a person's character .

hahaha this was funny

You're not alone! I was so sian selecting maids over & over again that I do look at these too. But dun trust fully la. As a guide is fine.

[eyktay]

lovekidsverymuch:

eyktay:

[quote=\"lovekidsverymuch\"]
hahaha this was funny

You're not alone! I was so sian selecting maids over & over again that I do look at these too. But dun trust fully la. As a guide is fine.

hahahaa is it but then sometimes they dont give incorrect birthdate :!:[/quote]That's true lor.
I heard of someone who even brings 2 biodatas to go temple to choose.
LOL!
But think positive, every change in helper makes us learn some things.
Smtimes without helpers may also be a blessing in disguise.
The in/out helpers time we had, made my kids learnt more too.

[Si Si]

tree nymph:

Si Si:

Thank God that everything went well when I sent my helper home this morning. She actually apologised and asked for forgiveness and that was a pleasant surprise. :love: It helped that I got an agent to break the news to her.

Hi Si Si,
Is yours an Indon maid? Cos its their practise to apologise and ask for forgiveness and give thanks when they depart.

She was a Christian Myanmerese. I had 2 Indon helpers before but don't remember them saying that. Or maybe those 2 did not do much wrong. Before this Myanmerese was also another Myanmerese, she was asked to leave after 23 months with me after I found out she repeatedly sneaked in hps even when I empahsized no hp while working. She had 4 by the time i asked her to leave. Never apologise. Therefore, I don't know is it a cultural thing or their beliefs or upbringing???

[Si Si]

But think positive, every change in helper makes us learn some things.

Smtimes without helpers may also be a blessing in disguise.
The in/out helpers time we had, made my kids learnt more too.[/quote]

This is so true!!!
I wonder how did some countries manage so well without maids???

[eyktay]

Si Si:

But think positive, every change in helper makes us learn some things.

Smtimes without helpers may also be a blessing in disguise.
The in/out helpers time we had, made my kids learnt more too.

This is so true!!!
I wonder how did some countries manage so well without maids???[/quote]

Well, but maids shld never be indispensable.
And I guess some countries, it's not dual income needed.

[hquek]

eyktay:

Well, but maids shld never be indispensable.
And I guess some countries, it's not dual income needed.

Agree, I never let my maids know they are indispensible.

My godma's ex-maid knew that and she never loses any opportunity to talk back to my godma or show black face to her cos she felt secure in her job.

[eyktay]

lovekidsverymuch:

hquek:

[quote=\"eyktay\"]
Well, but maids shld never be indispensable.
And I guess some countries, it's not dual income needed.

Agree, I never let my maids know they are indispensible.

My godma's ex-maid knew that and she never loses any opportunity to talk back to my godma or show black face to her cos she felt secure in her job.

:!: :!: Dont let them know we love them[/quote]Love with discretion...

[Si Si]

hquek:

eyktay:

Well, but maids shld never be indispensable.
And I guess some countries, it's not dual income needed.

Agree, I never let my maids know they are indispensible.

My godma's ex-maid knew that and she never loses any opportunity to talk back to my godma or show black face to her cos she felt secure in her job.

That's what happened to my ex-maid. I bore with her over so many incidents and even expressed that it would be good that if she could work long term with me (during better days)....then followed with never-ending demands, expectations and attitudes until I bit the bullet and sacked her!!! We really do not need to be at their egoistic mercies. It should be a fair deal from both sides.

[hquek]

eyktay:

Love with discretion...

Yup, when I reprimand my maid, I'll let her know the stuff she did right and my appreciation on that.

Although her eyes will still redden and tears will flow, at least (I hope) she doesn't feel she's a lost cause.

[Si Si]

eyktay:

lovekidsverymuch:

[quote=\"hquek\"]
Agree, I never let my maids know they are indispensible.

My godma's ex-maid knew that and she never loses any opportunity to talk back to my godma or show black face to her cos she felt secure in her job.

:!: :!: Dont let them know we love them

Love with discretion...[/quote]Can try reading this book call \" The 5 Languages of Love\". It is very helpful and applies to anybody. Everyone seems to have been born with a dominant/preferred love language, and when we show them love according to their love language, they will be able to feel appreciated. :love: