In-law problems?

[auntieM]

me 'pai' too


Overheard DH talking to MIL about being out of town and too busy to attend relative's wedding.. ...no leh, he didn't travel and had no plans too. He is busy battling Wii game with son during 'wedding' time slot

Gone are the days MIL called then we have to go over to where she eating and pay the bill.

[Funz]

Actually these days, I do not have any issues with my MIL. Just that some of the things that she does make me go like ummmm....


DH is on a sabbatical from work to sort out what he wants to do next. He told MIL about it and the first thing out of her mouth was not concern about how he feels or his mental well being. Her first words were \"wah then like that I jialat oredi lah.\" To which DH asked her why jialat. Her answer was \"you no pay then you will not be giving me money oredi so jialat lah.\" DH was speechless. He ask her if money is all she thinks of.

2 weeks after that, she called to remind DH about attending a cousin's wedding. DH told her he will not be attending and asked her to give ang bao on his behalf. Next moment he got a call from his aunty asking him if he is ok. Apparently his mum told his aunty that he is mentally unwell so he will not be attending the wedding. :stupid:

[hquek]

Funz:

Apparently his mum told his aunty that he is mentally unwell so he will not be attending the wedding. :stupid:

Your MIL got fertile imagination (read the other thread about her wunderfriends who can cure all sickness with their prayers).

[Funz]

hquek:

Funz:

Apparently his mum told his aunty that he is mentally unwell so he will not be attending the wedding. :stupid:

Your MIL got fertile imagination (read the other thread about her wunderfriends who can cure all sickness with their prayers).

LOL.

Yah boy. I guess she kinda expounded on the reason DH gave her. Which was he dun want to go cos very fan(2) to face all the aunty & uncles and cousins and explain to them why he on sabbatical since MIL told all of them he is not working now.

[shine_fs]

I am back again....was so busy these few weeks and had no time to log in....sighz....


:rubhands: now I can KPO again.... :lol:

[winth]

MIL is now into some Malaysia trip project for this upcoming July and has been trying to ‘brainwash’ DH into going for this trip for 2 months (for every weekend we go there). She would always tell him about the place and what they would do in the trip. Naturally, I thought I was included in the trip cos I thought she was talking to us.


Conversation with MIL last week:
MIL: blah blah nice trip… blah blah, this July blah blah… DH’s sis going, then with her hubby in… blah blah…
(moments of silence later)
MIL: (my name), so are you going?
Me: mmm, depends on DH. Let him decide…
MIL: So, like dat, who will take care of the kids?

(I was totally confused… she got me there and I couldn’t answer…)

DH: We will go as a family what, (my name) goes, children will go together with me.
MIL: oooooo…


What’s your interpretation on this?
Does she even expect/want me to go?

I took 2 days to process that bit of information (cos it didn’t make any sense to me) before I interpreted from the conversation as me and my kids are excluded.

Maybe I’m wrong, maybe I’m sensitive.

I don’t mind not going at all, just that, I thought it was some kinda family trip that she was trying to sell to DH (and/or me).
But now, from my own interpretation, it seems like she’s not including me and the kids (cos no one taking care) in her Malaysia trip, then I’m under no obligation to go.

I told DH the logic behind that conversation, I told him that I wouldn’t be going and the boys as well. I told him that he’s free to go if he chooses to. But now, DH is having doubts about going too…
The next week we went, she brought up the subject again to DH and SIL and DH told her to not talk about it again and he will decide whether to go or not when the date is nearing.

[auntieM]

winth,

Sounds like your MIL needs bonding time with her kiddos..

[minnie2004]

hi winth,


Just let your DH go with her lah. No point forcing yourself into it if you're not welcomed.

My DH has went on holidays with MIL several times before, sometimes just the 2 of them (even his colleagues were surprised that he went on trips with his mom rather than with me), sometimes with our kids. I'm much better off alone than joining those trips . Just have to tolerate the few days not seeing my kids

[Mrs Ang]

Did you'll celebrate Mothers' Day with your mil? I didn't

[hquek]

agree with auntiem.


although my preference will be, DH goes WITH the kids…then you can enjoy time alone. YEAHHHHHH!!