Negative comment on P6 child from school teacher!

[3Boys]

puzzle:

Hi,


I wish to hear from all parents, what/how should parents response when your P6 child told you that her form teacher commented \"with your learning attitude and behaviour you would not be qualified for the Secondary School of your choice\".

Please advise

That's what my P6 (2015) son's teacher told him last year......

Sort of.....

[Sun_2010]

I would take a few deep breaths first.

then I would probe what happened , ask what lead to that quote…

and work my way from there …
Is it the teacher’s way of getting him to work harder?
Did she misunderstand him?
Is the teacher being unreasonable?
Do we have to give importance to the teacher’s comment?

[BlueBells]

After talking with your child, please also listen to the teacher’s side of the story. Chances are, you will find some middle ground.


P6 is still young, and sometimes as children, they tend to inject of alot of their emotions in when they relate the story. No right or wrong, but listening to both sides of the story will help you make a better judgement call.

[tutormum]

I’m sure many teachers would have said that to their students. I do say it to mine. Take it as a wake up call. You know your child best and whether the teacher is justified in making this comment. I would have done my students a disservice if I don’t let them know where they stand.

[rains]

Hmm … What’s wrong with the statement? I said it to my own kid when she was in P6 except that I added the word ‘definitely’, change the tentative modal ‘would’ to a certain ‘will’ and said the statement with a booming voice:


''with your learning attitude and behaviour you DEFINITELY will not be qualified for the Secondary School of your choice!"

For a teacher/parent to say this, the child must have been quite recalcitrant in exhibiting lacklustre attitude towards studying. Above all, it is not a put-down. To me, it is more like a stern reminder in an attempt to wake the child up from his or her stupor.

The teacher didn’t use demeaning words like ‘stupid’ or ‘you will never make it no matter how hard you try’ or ‘RI? In your dream!’ Even if he or she did, I would want to know what makes the teacher say them.

I would have been thankful that a teacher gave my kid a jolt from her dreamy state.

[Reese]

I feel it is totally fine if the teacher said it out of genuine concern for the student. It may sound a bit upfront but it is necessary in order to wake up the student to start changing before it’s too late.


The truth always hurts.

[JJ1111]

I sad it to my son last year. With his "bochap" attitute, I know he can’t get good result. And true enough. He can’t get into his "dream" school.


After the PSLE release, he was disappointed. I tell him treat it as a lesson learnt. Work hard in Secondary, if not he will have the same "disappointment" after o’level. He may not be able to get into his "dream" school / course.

[dimsum]

IMO, the teacher cares for him, else she/he wouldnt have said that.

[Funz]

I said it to DD. Not only last year, I think almost every year, a few times a year even.