Club Only Child Club
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autumnbronze:
Was given to understand that the miscarriage implies that the eggs were of poor quality. As for IVF, it can drain you emotionally (and finacially too!). However, if it is successful, then I say that it is worth the effort.Actually I don't think having miscarriages means that you are unhealthy ... there could be other factors lah ...
I am not sure if I want to go thru IVF etc... I have seen documentries on it and it seems emotionally draining .... -
Bronzy:
Have also been thinking of adoption as too late to conceive myself.
Bronzy,
My personal opinion is that being an Asian society (and not targeting anyone in particular), pple are not so receptive about adoption.
I am well aware (based on the no of yrs I have known them) that my ILs may be uncomfortable with the idea. Also, I can say for sure that they will be biased, but not intentionally. They love to 'how lian' abt their grandson (only one at the moment), they are his 'proud' grandparents aft all :love: What I am afraid will happen is that there will be unintentional comparisons made abt the kids' differences in characters, milestone developement etc ...
So I know that if I do go ahead and adopt, I need to have everyone's support, but then again, can be hard to commit cuz of the notion that 'blood is thicker than water. I don't want the child growing up with some inferiority complex or something. Even my DH says that we cannot be like a la Brangalina, ie adopting kids from a myriad of backgrd, it will not hold water here and he also says that the child inevitably will end up feeling different from others. So its an undertaking that has to be thought through v v carefully and we can't turn back once we take upon the responsibility to bring up a child that is not our 'flesh and blood'
So for me, adopting a child does not only concern my immediate family, it also concerns the whole extended family - quite a large one at that.
Just my humble opinion ...
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Bronzy:
Yes that is what my gynae told me too
Was given to understand that the miscarriage implies that the eggs were of poor quality.autumnbronze:
Actually I don't think having miscarriages means that you are unhealthy ... there could be other factors lah ...
I am not sure if I want to go thru IVF etc... I have seen documentries on it and it seems emotionally draining ....
Hence, v impt to be stress free, which we are (DH also changed jobs which allows him to work regular hrs and spend more time with DS and me
) exercise - on the way already and junk food free - this one, am trying my hardest now
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Just wondering if there are many mummies out there with only one child? Maybe can set up a club so that our only child can socialise with one another since they do not have siblings.
So those with only one child pls join here -
Only mummies for your club arh?
We already have an existing thread you may join at this
blue link here > http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=5529
We have had mums and dads in discussion about similar
child raising concerns and how they work with their only
child. You may find your play-dates or gathering-buddies
from the thread too.. have fun! -
buds:
Hello all, reporting in here since I have only one child at the moment. Trying for a 2nd one and hope God will bless us with another one soon. Not easy since both of us are FTWP! :celebrate:Only mummies for your club arh?
Mummies / Daddies With Only One Child[/url]
from the thread too.. have fun! -
Angelight:
Hello Angelight. Welcome! How old is your child - DS or DD?Just wondering if there are many mummies out there with only one child? Maybe can set up a club so that our only child can socialise with one another since they do not have siblings.
So those with only one child pls join here -
DesertWind:
Welcome. Welcome. Good luck with your efforts. How old is number 1? Must take more holidayslah!
Hello all, reporting in here since I have only one child at the moment. Trying for a 2nd one and hope God will bless us with another one soon. Not easy since both of us are FTWP! :celebrate:buds:
Only mummies for your club arh?
Mummies / Daddies With Only One Child[/url]
from the thread too.. have fun! -
My club welcomes all mummies and daddies with only one child
I have a DD, coming to 3 yo this year. I started this club post b4 I stumbled upon this post on mummies and daddies with one child only. And I fully empathise with some of the parents here who really want to have a 2nd child but can't...
As for me, I'm in 2 minds about it cos I also had a miscarriage once b4 I had DD and am really scared to go thru another pregnancy and period of anxiety.
But DD has been asking for a little bro...and most of my relatives have more than 1 kid, so feel very pressured... -
Angelight:
Hi Angelight,My club welcomes all mummies and daddies with only one child
I have a DD, coming to 3 yo this year. I started this club post b4 I stumbled upon this post on mummies and daddies with one child only. And I fully empathise with some of the parents here who really want to have a 2nd child but can't...
As for me, I'm in 2 minds about it cos I also had a miscarriage once b4 I had DD and am really scared to go thru another pregnancy and period of anxiety.
But DD has been asking for a little bro...and most of my relatives have more than 1 kid, so feel very pressured...
:rahrah: :welcome: :rahrah:
So your DD is a 2007 baby??
My DS is turning 3 soon too.
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