How to stop child from name calling?

[sharonkhoo]

baobei:

Need advice on how to stop teenager from name calling. Tried discussing about how one would feel, nagging, scolding, beating.


Now, school is suspending child for name calling.

Need help on this.

This is your child, calling other people names? What kind of names? Does he do that at home? Is be being bullied at school? Does he have emotional or other upsetting issues at home, school or elsewhere?

[ChiefKiasu]

baobei:

Need advice on how to stop teenager from name calling. Tried discussing about how one would feel, nagging, scolding, beating.


Now, school is suspending child for name calling.

Need help on this.

Must be some really serious name calling for the school to justify such an action. Was it provoked, or did your child initiate the events?

[ammonite]

Name calling teachers?


Other than all that counselling, scolding etc, may I suggest you add in elements of breaking a bad habit? Basically doesn’t matter how teen feels about the whole thing or his target, he just has to stay away from some words. He can rephrase or substitute, he can walk away or push fists together, he can have privileges taken away, he can have buddies who help him by having a sign or word that reminds him not to use that word etc. He will slip up a occasionally, again remind of alternatives.

Basically treat it like a bad habit. I am sure he already knows why he should not use them, and he does not agree. While you think of other ways to convince him, you can just redirect the habit of speech first.

[ngl2010]

Baobei, is this your Asperger child? Does the school know his condition and school counsellor involved? I think suspending a child is a bit extreme.

[baobei]

slmkhoo:

baobei:

Need advice on how to stop teenager from name calling. Tried discussing about how one would feel, nagging, scolding, beating.


Now, school is suspending child for name calling.

Need help on this.

This is your child, calling other people names? What kind of names? Does he do that at home? Is be being bullied at school? Does he have emotional or other upsetting issues at home, school or elsewhere?

He called someone pig in Tamil in school. He did mentioned that someone taught him to say the word few days before the incident happen. The person called him stupid.

School now says the word is vulgarities.

[baobei]

ngl2010:

Baobei, is this your Asperger child? Does the school know his condition and school counsellor involved? I think suspending a child is a bit extreme.

Yes he is an Asperger child.

[baobei]

ammonite:

Name calling teachers?


Other than all that counselling, scolding etc, may I suggest you add in elements of breaking a bad habit? Basically doesn't matter how teen feels about the whole thing or his target, he just has to stay away from some words. He can rephrase or substitute, he can walk away or push fists together, he can have privileges taken away, he can have buddies who help him by having a sign or word that reminds him not to use that word etc. He will slip up a occasionally, again remind of alternatives.

Basically treat it like a bad habit. I am sure he already knows why he should not use them, and he does not agree. While you think of other ways to convince him, you can just redirect the habit of speech first.

In this case was not to the Teachers.

He will be told by me to slap himself if he calls out people stupid when being caught. This rule set in after various incidents of doing that previously in school to classmates or Teachers when he felt agitated. He would also be taken away from eating his nice food over the weekend.

[ammonite]

baobei:

ammonite:

Name calling teachers?


Other than all that counselling, scolding etc, may I suggest you add in elements of breaking a bad habit? Basically doesn't matter how teen feels about the whole thing or his target, he just has to stay away from some words. He can rephrase or substitute, he can walk away or push fists together, he can have privileges taken away, he can have buddies who help him by having a sign or word that reminds him not to use that word etc. He will slip up a occasionally, again remind of alternatives.

Basically treat it like a bad habit. I am sure he already knows why he should not use them, and he does not agree. While you think of other ways to convince him, you can just redirect the habit of speech first.

In this case was not to the Teachers.

He will be told by me to slap himself if he calls out people stupid when being caught. This rule set in after various incidents of doing that previously in school to classmates or Teachers when he felt agitated. He would also be taken away from eating his nice food over the weekend.

Please don't. I think you need other strategies, or a speech therapist skilled in social language to work with him just for a couple of sessions,

[sky minecrafter]

ammonite:

baobei:

He will be told by me to slap himself if he calls out people stupid when being caught. This rule set in after various incidents of doing that previously in school to classmates or Teachers when he felt agitated. He would also be taken away from eating his nice food over the weekend.

Please don't. I think you need other strategies, or a speech therapist skilled in social language to work with him just for a couple of sessions

Agree with ammonite, please DON'T use physical punishment - negative reinforcements don't work well with special needs children. It seems to me an anger management issue. Till the appropriate strategy can be learnt, perhaps use time-out? On the other hand, thought the school ought to be more understanding...