Me Time!
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zac's mum:
so can i assume u return to work in the end?When I was a SAHM and DS finally went to school for 7 hours straight, these are the things I did:
- finally catch up on my sleeeeeeeeeeep!
- meet up with fellow SAHMs for breakfast!
- started an exercise regime to get back in shape: used my ActiveSG credits to try out Aerobics and Pilates classes. Also found like-minded SAHMs to jog together in Botanic Gardens
- started reading all those books on my to-read list *uninterrupted*
- started a baking hobby (bread, cakes, muffins, mooncakes etc)
- went for massage/facial/mani-pedi to feel better and look less frumpy
- spent meditation time thinking about what new things I could learn, what makes me feel fulfilled, what is my aim in life. With a young kid always tied to your apron strings, it's hard for us mums to consider anything or anyone besides our precious kids. After they go to school and are out of your hair, you may feel some \"at a loss\" feelings, but soon you will be recharged and regain your sense of identity apart from \"mum\".
SAHM handling one kid only maybe a bit boring when child grows bigger and busy with their sch activities -
janet88:
I find the feeling of sticky floors unbearable too...There are 4 long haired individuals in the house but I just don't like to see the long hairs idling on the floor.
i'm ok with vacuum and mop because dusty floor will cause heels will crack. sticky floor is unbearable.MsKyoko:
I hate vacuuming and mopping.Thankfully DH took over everything for the last 3 months on the reason that I can't move around a lot.
And when the girls eat their tidbits,they drop the crumbs unknowingly.
Think must buy a robotic vacuum cleaner soon. -
MyPillow:
Ya, 1 kid too boring hor. I always think that one child is too few. Zac mum, Why don’t you try for 1 more? When we are sick, they have someone to discuss what to do. When we are no longer around, they won’t be alone in this world.
so can i assume u return to work in the end?zac's mum:
When I was a SAHM and DS finally went to school for 7 hours straight, these are the things I did:
- finally catch up on my sleeeeeeeeeeep!
- meet up with fellow SAHMs for breakfast!
- started an exercise regime to get back in shape: used my ActiveSG credits to try out Aerobics and Pilates classes. Also found like-minded SAHMs to jog together in Botanic Gardens
- started reading all those books on my to-read list *uninterrupted*
- started a baking hobby (bread, cakes, muffins, mooncakes etc)
- went for massage/facial/mani-pedi to feel better and look less frumpy
- spent meditation time thinking about what new things I could learn, what makes me feel fulfilled, what is my aim in life. With a young kid always tied to your apron strings, it's hard for us mums to consider anything or anyone besides our precious kids. After they go to school and are out of your hair, you may feel some \"at a loss\" feelings, but soon you will be recharged and regain your sense of identity apart from \"mum\".
SAHM handling one kid only maybe a bit boring when child grows bigger and busy with their sch activities -
lee_yl:
Ya, 1 kid too boring hor. I always think that one child is too few. Zac mum, Why don’t you try for 1 more? When we are sick, they have someone to discuss what to do. When we are no longer around, they won’t be alone in this world.[/quote]I agree...At least if you try to have another one,they can play with,look out and take care of each other.As they say,two is better than one.Just train them up in the right way and hey presto...Things will fall in place by themselves.
so can i assume u return to work in the end?MyPillow:
[quote=\"zac's mum\"]When I was a SAHM and DS finally went to school for 7 hours straight, these are the things I did:
- finally catch up on my sleeeeeeeeeeep!
- meet up with fellow SAHMs for breakfast!
- started an exercise regime to get back in shape: used my ActiveSG credits to try out Aerobics and Pilates classes. Also found like-minded SAHMs to jog together in Botanic Gardens
- started reading all those books on my to-read list *uninterrupted*
- started a baking hobby (bread, cakes, muffins, mooncakes etc)
- went for massage/facial/mani-pedi to feel better and look less frumpy
- spent meditation time thinking about what new things I could learn, what makes me feel fulfilled, what is my aim in life. With a young kid always tied to your apron strings, it's hard for us mums to consider anything or anyone besides our precious kids. After they go to school and are out of your hair, you may feel some \"at a loss\" feelings, but soon you will be recharged and regain your sense of identity apart from \"mum\".
SAHM handling one kid only maybe a bit boring when child grows bigger and busy with their sch activities
Initially,I wanted to have only 2 kids with this view in mind but I did not take my family's childbearing history in mind and got more than what I bargained for. -
only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one…but when the parents are old, it’s 1 child attending to both…and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
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janet88:
only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one...but when the parents are old, it's 1 child attending to both...and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
From what I observe, one child usually will do more. Does not mean both will take care of parents. Depends on the child. One of my ex colleagues told me she was tired taking care of her dad who had a stroke. Her brother refused to help....
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else.... -
Cloud Cloud:
working mothers never have it easy...after a long tiring day in the office, there is still housework and kids' education to attend to. but hubby must help out with housework and kids' homework.
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else....
once there are kids, the responsibility is never ending. financial part would be their tuition if necessary.
my focus is on the 2 kids...though they are way past the baby, toddler and primary stages, my focus now is to make sure they don't mix with the wrong company. it's a lot easier now of course.
they fight and quarrel which is natural...but my older one will coach his sister in her history/geography. -
Cloud Cloud:
And your kid will have to take care of 2 sets of parents if he marries in addition to those things mentioned in your last sentencejanet88:
only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one...but when the parents are old, it's 1 child attending to both...and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
From what I observe, one child usually will do more. Does not mean both will take care of parents. Depends on the child. One of my ex colleagues told me she was tired taking care of her dad who had a stroke. Her brother refused to help....
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else.... -
Maybe I have seen and read too many horror stories about only child. I remembered this Taiwanese artist 白冰冰，whose only child was kidnapped and killed. She tried very hard to conceive a 2nd one through IVF but was not successful.
So many other sad stories (xin min newspaper) especially those PRCians who were forced to only have 1 kid and that only child died before their parents (like Sichuan earthquake). Many couldn’t overcome their grief, went IVF cos already over child bearing age.
@cloudcloud
As for the younger bro refusing to help the sister, blame his upbringing -
I think the chief reason for couples in SG not to have more children is cost.
Have to pay and pay in many ways from toddler to university level and also the stress of the SG educational system when they start schooling.
In the 1970s or as late as the early 1980s,it is possible for mums to be housewives while the dad brings back the dough.
In the current era with rising costs,it is sadly not possible anymore.
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