Me Time!
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only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one…but when the parents are old, it’s 1 child attending to both…and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
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janet88:
only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one...but when the parents are old, it's 1 child attending to both...and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
From what I observe, one child usually will do more. Does not mean both will take care of parents. Depends on the child. One of my ex colleagues told me she was tired taking care of her dad who had a stroke. Her brother refused to help....
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else.... -
Cloud Cloud:
working mothers never have it easy...after a long tiring day in the office, there is still housework and kids' education to attend to. but hubby must help out with housework and kids' homework.
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else....
once there are kids, the responsibility is never ending. financial part would be their tuition if necessary.
my focus is on the 2 kids...though they are way past the baby, toddler and primary stages, my focus now is to make sure they don't mix with the wrong company. it's a lot easier now of course.
they fight and quarrel which is natural...but my older one will coach his sister in her history/geography. -
Cloud Cloud:
And your kid will have to take care of 2 sets of parents if he marries in addition to those things mentioned in your last sentencejanet88:
only child is really lonely. when he/she is young, there are 2 parents attending to one...but when the parents are old, it's 1 child attending to both...and when he/she gets married, it will be challenging for the only child to attend to elderly parents and the own family. there is no sibling to discuss family matters with.
From what I observe, one child usually will do more. Does not mean both will take care of parents. Depends on the child. One of my ex colleagues told me she was tired taking care of her dad who had a stroke. Her brother refused to help....
More children means more responsibilities... take up more energy and more heavy on financials. Everything is like double... pocket money, bus fare, enrichment fees...maybe I feel this way because I am not working. But if working and have to take care of 2 kids... also tiring..
I really don’t mind having just one child ...it’s hubby who wanted two....I find that working mother in Singapore have to work, manage the household, children school work...everything else.... -
Maybe I have seen and read too many horror stories about only child. I remembered this Taiwanese artist 白冰冰，whose only child was kidnapped and killed. She tried very hard to conceive a 2nd one through IVF but was not successful.
So many other sad stories (xin min newspaper) especially those PRCians who were forced to only have 1 kid and that only child died before their parents (like Sichuan earthquake). Many couldn’t overcome their grief, went IVF cos already over child bearing age.
@cloudcloud
As for the younger bro refusing to help the sister, blame his upbringing -
I think the chief reason for couples in SG not to have more children is cost.
Have to pay and pay in many ways from toddler to university level and also the stress of the SG educational system when they start schooling.
In the 1970s or as late as the early 1980s,it is possible for mums to be housewives while the dad brings back the dough.
In the current era with rising costs,it is sadly not possible anymore. -
having 2 kids are tough…but it’s just the inital stage. now that mine are kinda grown up, my worry is they mix with the wrong company and slack in their work especially for the younger one (who is still childish). as a SAHM, i am at home to attend to them since they are not afraid of grandparents.
with one kid, there will be 2 parents will be breathing down the neck but when the parents are not around, he/she only has himself or herself with no sibling to confide in. a spouse may not be as close as a sibling.
my daughter was just telling her sibling she will be alone when he enlists for NS or if he goes overseas. -
janet88:
Since you said so,I was thinking if it will be better for me to become a SAHM permanently or just stick to my plan to just go back to teaching in a few years time as to alleviate the financial burden on DH.having 2 kids are tough...but it's just the inital stage. now that mine are kinda grown up, my worry is they mix with the wrong company and slack in their work especially for the younger one (who is still childish). as a SAHM, i am at home to attend to them since they are not afraid of grandparents.
with one kid, there will be 2 parents will be breathing down the neck but when the parents are not around, he/she only has himself or herself with no sibling to confide in. a spouse may not be as close as a sibling.
my daughter was just telling her sibling she will be alone when he enlists for NS or if he goes overseas. -
when i discipline the kids, my parents will not interfere. even hubby doesn’t interfere because that’s our agreement. i am fortunate hubby gives me the full authority over their discipline and the luxury of staying at home.
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My side got a new big playground with 26 slides near RP.Thinking of bringing the girls there later…
DH does the disciplining in his study.I don’t interfere.When we hear his booming voice,the whole house is hushed.The house becomes so quiet that you could hear a pin drop.His parents don’t interfere.My mum does not as well.Had to remind him to watch his language usage towards the girls a few times.
Only my dad does and the 2 men squared up to each other several times.
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