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      MsKyoko
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      I think the chief reason for couples in SG not to have more children is cost.


      Have to pay and pay in many ways from toddler to university level and also the stress of the SG educational system when they start schooling.

      In the 1970s or as late as the early 1980s,it is possible for mums to be housewives while the dad brings back the dough.

      In the current era with rising costs,it is sadly not possible anymore.

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        having 2 kids are tough…but it’s just the inital stage. now that mine are kinda grown up, my worry is they mix with the wrong company and slack in their work especially for the younger one (who is still childish). as a SAHM, i am at home to attend to them since they are not afraid of grandparents.

        with one kid, there will be 2 parents will be breathing down the neck but when the parents are not around, he/she only has himself or herself with no sibling to confide in. a spouse may not be as close as a sibling.

        my daughter was just telling her sibling she will be alone when he enlists for NS or if he goes overseas.

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          MsKyoko
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          janet88:
          having 2 kids are tough...but it's just the inital stage. now that mine are kinda grown up, my worry is they mix with the wrong company and slack in their work especially for the younger one (who is still childish). as a SAHM, i am at home to attend to them since they are not afraid of grandparents.

          with one kid, there will be 2 parents will be breathing down the neck but when the parents are not around, he/she only has himself or herself with no sibling to confide in. a spouse may not be as close as a sibling.

          my daughter was just telling her sibling she will be alone when he enlists for NS or if he goes overseas.
          Since you said so,I was thinking if it will be better for me to become a SAHM permanently or just stick to my plan to just go back to teaching in a few years time as to alleviate the financial burden on DH.

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            janet88
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            when i discipline the kids, my parents will not interfere. even hubby doesn’t interfere because that’s our agreement. i am fortunate hubby gives me the full authority over their discipline and the luxury of staying at home.

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              MsKyoko
              last edited by

              My side got a new big playground with 26 slides near RP.Thinking of bringing the girls there later…


              DH does the disciplining in his study.I don’t interfere.When we hear his booming voice,the whole house is hushed.The house becomes so quiet that you could hear a pin drop.His parents don’t interfere.My mum does not as well.Had to remind him to watch his language usage towards the girls a few times.

              Only my dad does and the 2 men squared up to each other several times.

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              • zac's mumZ Offline
                zac's mum
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                MyPillow:
                zac's mum:

                When I was a SAHM and DS finally went to school for 7 hours straight, these are the things I did:

                - finally catch up on my sleeeeeeeeeeep!
                - meet up with fellow SAHMs for breakfast!
                - started an exercise regime to get back in shape: used my ActiveSG credits to try out Aerobics and Pilates classes. Also found like-minded SAHMs to jog together in Botanic Gardens
                - started reading all those books on my to-read list *uninterrupted*
                - started a baking hobby (bread, cakes, muffins, mooncakes etc)
                - went for massage/facial/mani-pedi to feel better and look less frumpy
                - spent meditation time thinking about what new things I could learn, what makes me feel fulfilled, what is my aim in life. With a young kid always tied to your apron strings, it's hard for us mums to consider anything or anyone besides our precious kids. After they go to school and are out of your hair, you may feel some \"at a loss\" feelings, but soon you will be recharged and regain your sense of identity apart from \"mum\".

                so can i assume u return to work in the end?
                SAHM handling one kid only maybe a bit boring when child grows bigger and busy with their sch activities

                Yes I'm doing part time work now. Headhunted back by an ex-colleague who was promoted. My request was that I only work part time hours that do not interfere with my DS' schedule. And they agreed. So I'm very happy now. Brain fulfilled and still can be an involved mum.

                In fact, I finished work early today. Managed to buy sushi from Cold Storage for our lunch together before sending him to enrichment class later.

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                  MsKyoko
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                  Well,can the more experienced mums here teach me on how to handle 4 girls?

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                    Having a bad cough; could be due to the recent wet weather

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                      starlight1968sg:
                      Having a bad cough; could be due to the recent wet weather

                      Weather is bad. DD1 who seldom sick has caught the flu bug. Lucky exams over...

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                        Cloud Cloud:
                        starlight1968sg:

                        Having a bad cough; could be due to the recent wet weather


                        Weather is bad. DD1 who seldom sick has caught the flu bug. Lucky exams over...

                        Yes, I seldom sick and yet have a bad cough
                        I visited the BB Polyclinic just now. The time in the consultation room was <1 min. I told the doc that my phlegm was green. She said the colour didn’t matter as long as there is no blood
                        I was like :stupid:

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